I feel you that its not happening as them seeking a mutual desire. Guys will pursue me for casual sex in their sly ways yes even lying about marriage and kids. But they coulent care less if I want sex on any level. I told guys so many times i dont fornicate, or that i am not interested in casual sex, i have hinted it, i mean at some point it has to be understood that i am not interested in that. I think most know women in general dont want that. So i dont see the excuse for keep trying to use women like we are all free easy whores. I can think of times I said stop talking sexally to me and the guy said Why sex is natural its just part of life everyone has sex bla bla bla. Gaslighting asswipes. I dont get how so many of these men can walk around being so self centered. I really dont.
@Jq8hrbrb What you have to understand is this, for men, sex is sex. For women, we have a choice to either deal with men like that or not. They are looking for sex, and many do not care where they have to get it, which is why they lie and not tell the truth. I am a virgin, so I know. I have dealt with a lot of those men on a constant basis. Most women say they don't but they do it through actions, and many have have conditioned to do so. So if women really desired to not do all of this, they have to stand up and say no through their actions. They sadly can afford it because in this world, the man has a say and we mostly don't. But their authority have been used to abuse and control and that is not what God had said to be done.
They do abuse a lot. I have to work with these men everywhere. Even when i was homeless and left the shelter the male counselor texted me trying to get casual sex. Yes he looked at such a vulnerable girl and said time to get cheap easy sex. Ridiculous. And at work i have gotten confused or let myself feel romantic towards guys and let them lead me on with their charm... It can be hard to resist when you can't block these assholes and have to see them at work. Its different when you can just block idiots online or if you had a boyfriend and just cut him off. But if he's at your job, you fear losing your job so you act nice and dont report them or make a scene. Anyway now two of these men who sexually harassed me now are promoted. Its a slap in the face.
@Jq8hrbrb Because it is a lot more at work here regarding those men. They are set up into those positions for something much more than just what is being said on the surface. They tend to know who is who when they handle hiring sessions, or even from the backdoor. And for all you know, those guys were in through the back door. What you have to remember whenever you are in school or work, you are there to go to school and go to work. That's it. Be very careful and not have yourself opened up to anything you shouldn't be doing.
Thank you. Now I just have a question what exactly do you mean by that they are set up for much more than what it seems on the surface?
Is brought more deeper and darker then you really want to Ashley here. Let's just say you're going to do a lot more research then assuming it's just you being sexually harassed. A lot more than that. In a lot of things you don't know about that haven't been told to you, these people do what they do for a reason.
They sexuallt harass their women coworkers for a reason? What is that reason? And i will say these guys who preyed on me do it to many others too.
@Jq8hrbrb Your workplace is toxic and is more and likely about male dominance in a form of control. But it sounds like these guys could be part of something that is tied to secret societies or fraternities. People who get into that deepening how deep their in, they tend to get away with things because their doing things that is supporting the company. Like I said, some "employees" are more than just employees. If your not valued in your company or hey do shady things, your going to have to ask yourself, should you really be there? I would suggest finding another place to work. And the sooner the better.
Its possible but i do work in a retail store. This isn't the field I want to be in or am trained to be in. Im here out of survival. Its hard to get a job even just another low paying one and now we are experiencing success. Good thing is a lot of the abusers of me by now got promoted and dont worl close with me anymore. They likely are abusing people sexually in their new departments and now that they have power, they might abuse that too who knows. It does say in the rules that bosses cannot date suboridnates BUT it also says nobody can sexually harass others yet that goes on rampantly. you have a good point that maybe the culture is male dominance. I do know of a female boss who dresses like a whore but then maybe thats why she's a boss.
Also let me tell you that i got harassed mostly by people at my own level. Its the powest level. I dont know how likely it is that someone working minumum wage or just above is in a frat
@Jq8hrbrb Because it's not about that, it is about who you know and who they are.
The funny part is this one guy who got quickly promoted was the main one to sexually harass me for a year and he was obsessed with illuminati conspiracy about satanic killing rituals and sex to gain power. I told him its just a conspiracy and i want to see actual proof. But he kept saying its real. So if he was actually part of that stuff or later became part, it would be humorous in a sense. Not surprising to me at all that he or someone would do the exact thing they rail against.Anyway he also said he WILL be rich by the time he's older. Sounds like he loves money and thats his main goal in life and he would do anything to get ahead, right?
Sorry to tell you. You do not want to see the real thing trust me. To the best not just a conspiracy period It happens all around you and you don't even know it. Especially this time of the month this is there month where they do it the most. Especially towards Halloween.
Its sad and i dont really feel i understand how they can be that self centered to such a dehumanizing level.
Sly creatures. And they say WE are complicated and hard to understand. Also like how you managed to make it sound like the blame is on us for wanting to be treated as humans not mens' masturbation objects.
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Fornicating is wrong. They have me stuck cause theyre coworkers.
@Jq8hrbrb Then speak up and tell them you are not into premarital sex.
I suppose its better to actually do a horrible thing than to say you want to do said thing.
But they wish they could
@Jq8hrbrb Not necessarily. Not all guys have bad intentions.
I meant that many do.
They are pretending they like me or wanna be "friends".
@Jq8hrbrb You can be friends you can date just let people know that you’re not interested in sleeping around. And if they truly care for you they won’t have a problem with it
The problem is guys will lie about wanting to just hang out as friends. They will not say 'i wanna have casual sex when we hang out'.
Also i told a guy i dont have sex and he still kept pushing to hang out as friends and hinting but not being straightforward that he was after sex.
@Jq8hrbrb You are a human beings they have no right to touch you just let them know your true feelings. If you think they’re being too pushy end the friendship
Kick him in the nuts if they lay a hand on you then get out of there
If a guy is attractive and touching me I might be at risk of falling into sin as well and not saying No. Plus for women i think when we want a guy sexally its also that we want him emotionally because emotion and sex is not separate for us women.
@Jq8hrbrb You have to have strong will power be mentally disciplined pray to God about it and hold onto your virginity don’t give into weakness or evil temptation you wanted to be married first remember what you said