Why did he go back to his ex for sex and not me?

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We look completely different. I’m in shape and petite with a big bum. She’s overweight with no bum.

He was with her from 14-17 and they had tonnes of sex apparently. They split and he went back to her for sex “a few times”. Then didn’t have sex again for 6 months. I reckon he arranged this. But as soon as he could get tinder and drive and go out to night clubs, he never went back to her.

With me he wanted just a complete split. He never tried for sex with me again until he had to see me and then i started it and he kept saying we’re not getting back but we had sex a lot then got back together. And this happened non stop for years. Normally me who first started it.

Did he prefer her is that why he went back?

Went back because he preferred her

Because had no other option until 18

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GirlGuy

Answer 1

RearEntryGuy

Xper 6

(Read your replies to other Opinions)

I wonder how much you believe in "love (aka eros) at first sight"?

I totally believe.

Such a love (eros) has little to do with being loving (agape), kind, understanding, etc.

Rather it's that "fire" that burns in us when we are near that "someone" special.

Somehow there is no explaining why we suddenly feel so energetic, so enthusiastic, so awkward, so wanting and yes, so horny.

Regrettably, I think that's what he feels for her and not you.

Otherwise of course, he merely using her and playing hard to get with you. If this is the case, you just have to learn to discern and be cautious with him.

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Answer 2

WalterBlack | 276 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Yoda

The wording is confusing. I think you are comparing two very different times in the guy's life. If I understand correctly, he did not have sex with the big girl after he started dating you. There could be a variety of reasons why he went back to her for sex for a while after they broke up. He probably had a different set of priorities a few years ago compared to recent times. It might have been easy for him to separate his feelings from the sex act with her, especially if her appearance was not ideal in his perception. Maybe he (rightfully) thought that having sex with you would mean that he would catch feelings again.

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Answer 3

Blahella

Xper 2

I'd say he prefers her. Simply because she's overweight it doesn't mean she's not good in bed. You consider yourself an eye candy so the sex is magically suppose to be good. That's not how it works. It's like having a favorite place you'll keep going because you like the way it makes you feel not the way it looks. Not saying the looks can't be a bonus but it's the feel most of the times.

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Asker

4 mo
But why does that mean he prefers her? What if the sex is equally as good?
I have been guilty of that in the past because it’s worked for me but I really started trying
Blahella

4 mo
Well honestly different people bring out different sides of a person. Not saying that you're not as good as her but there's probably a side of him that only she can unlock. He probably doesn't even realize it himself he just knows that he likes it and keeps going back.

Answer 4

Asker

But why does that mean he prefers her? What if the sex is equally as good?
I have been guilty of that in the past because it’s worked for me but I really started trying

Answer 5

Blahella

Well honestly different people bring out different sides of a person. Not saying that you're not as good as her but there's probably a side of him that only she can unlock. He probably doesn't even realize it himself he just knows that he likes it and keeps going back.

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spartan55 | 21.6K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Master

You already posted this once. Get over it. Move on.

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Answer 7

JSmuve | 2.3K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Master

Probably because the attractiveness of your personality is far inferior to the physical attractiveness of an overweight woman. Congrats.

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Answer 8

Staximus | 174 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Xper 7

Why are you even thinking about this nonsense? Move on with your life already. Her went for the easy screw.

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Answer 9

Anonymous

Maybe it was just easier.
I mean I like a fancy dinner as much as the next guy. But if I'm hungry and a nice dinner takes a lot of work. I'm fine Just have a hot pocket. Lol

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Answer 10

Naughtyboy71 | 143 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Xper 6

Afraid he does knows he can get that
But if he wanted you to have sex would you open to all
Anal , oral , fantasies sex

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Answer 11

CuriousMufuxka | 1K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Guru

You were banging a 17 year old and now jealous of a teenage girl?

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Answer 12

FilmGuy93 | 1.3K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Yoda

He preferred her.

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Asker

4 mo
Why do you think that?
FilmGuy93

4 mo
Because he went back to her and he didn't go back to you.
Asker

4 mo
But he did after I started it then he kept doing it and got back into a relationship with me
I’ve asked him this question and he said well I never got back into a relationship with her and who said I asked her for sex after
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FilmGuy93

4 mo
But he didn't pursue you on his own though... and that's very telling. He went back to you as a convenience thing.
Asker

4 mo
But who said she didn’t ask him back too?
Asker

4 mo
Then the second he’s 18 he’s gone
FilmGuy93

4 mo
I'm not sure what to tell you, honeybun. You seem like a nice and caring woman and your body sounds like it would leave any man daydreaming. Unfortunately, sexual chemistry is a finicky thing.
Asker

4 mo
Why does my body sound like that? Cos I’m not over weight?
Asker

4 mo
I’m short, not over weight with small good shapes boobs and a big bum
Whereas his ex had sagged, no bum, and over weight of that’s your thing okay I don’t get it but vast majority would prefer mines
FilmGuy93

4 mo
You just sound like you have a curvy and athletic figure.

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Asker

Why do you think that?

Answer 14

FilmGuy93

Because he went back to her and he didn't go back to you.

Answer 15

Asker

But he did after I started it then he kept doing it and got back into a relationship with me
I’ve asked him this question and he said well I never got back into a relationship with her and who said I asked her for sex after

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FilmGuy93

But he didn't pursue you on his own though... and that's very telling. He went back to you as a convenience thing.

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Asker

But who said she didn’t ask him back too?

Answer 18

Asker

Then the second he’s 18 he’s gone

Answer 19

FilmGuy93

I'm not sure what to tell you, honeybun. You seem like a nice and caring woman and your body sounds like it would leave any man daydreaming. Unfortunately, sexual chemistry is a finicky thing.

Answer 20

Asker

Why does my body sound like that? Cos I’m not over weight?

Answer 21

Asker

I’m short, not over weight with small good shapes boobs and a big bum
Whereas his ex had sagged, no bum, and over weight of that’s your thing okay I don’t get it but vast majority would prefer mines

Answer 22

FilmGuy93

You just sound like you have a curvy and athletic figure.

Why did he go back to his ex for sex and not me?

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