Guy at work private messages me a lot?

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it's nothing flirtatious but usually he would make a funny joke , asks how I am, and sometimes teases me. I can't imagine that he was one of the people that interviewed me too

Could it mean anything

He likes you

He's being friendly

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Answer 1

spartan55 | 21.5K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Master

Doesn't really matter what his angle is, I'm pretty certain his wife wouldn't appreciate it. Be smart and distance from him.

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Asker

4 mo
Trust me I do, he's the one that initiates it
spartan55

4 mo
So that's your cover? "Well he initiated it" Yeah, and you entertain it. You think his wife will gaf about that?
Asker

3 mo
He's the one that's married, not me😂
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spartan55

3 mo
You aren't getting it. You being single doesn't give you a pass! AGAIN, how do you think his wife would feel if she knew. Would you not care if your husband did that?
Asker

3 mo
You don't even know the context to start throwing accusations at me. I'm saying he's the one thats married and YET I'm being fingers get pointed at the single one cos she supposedly 'entertained' it
Asker

3 mo
*I'm the one with
spartan55

3 mo
So you're not entertaining it? That's why you are asking if he likes you on this forum, because you aren't doing anything wrong. I don't know the context? Really... because I haven't seen this same situation myself in the workplace more times than I can count. I bet I can understand the context, it's not that complicated.
You are loving attention, and don't care one bit if it affects his marriage.
Asker

3 mo
I'm just being friendly/polite, and doing this does not mean I'm enticing him in any way or want to sleep with him. If he has these intentions even tho he's a married man then that's his problem.
spartan55

3 mo
I never said you were the one enticing him. But if you think it will only be 'his problem' if everything blows open, then you are mistaken.
spartan55

3 mo
What if he starts talking about problems with his marriage? What if he asks you out for a drink? Do you know what you would say?
Asker

3 mo
I kid you not , today he wanted me to go to the chicken shop with him but I turned it out and made an excuse!
Asker

3 mo
*down
spartan55

3 mo
Figures, what he was doing by messaging you was laying the groundwork. You should have said, "Cool! Will your wife be meeting us there?"
Asker

3 mo
Meaning?
Also, I think you're over exaggerating abit... cos at our Christmas party he was sitting and chatting with another one of our female colleagues the whole time., but again it was probably nothing...
spartan55

3 mo
Meaning does his wife know how much he chats, with you. Does she know he asked you to the chicken shop? No... and no
Asker

3 mo
No cos its an irrelevant piece of info.
The guy at the chicken shop is gay and chats him up so he wanted someone to go with, you're not gonna believe me tho.
spartan55

3 mo
YOU say it's irrelevant, does his wife? Wow, you just do not get it. Him getting chatted by a gay guy, now that is irrelevant. He didn't have to go with someone, and he didn't have to ask you...
spartan55

3 mo
You can spin it and say it's okay all you want, bottom line: you are entertaining a married man. If that is what you want, then prepare for what comes with it.
Asker

3 mo
Nothings gonna come with it. End of
spartan55

3 mo
You say that now, we'll see. He will charm the pants off of you.
Asker

3 mo
Nope, I'm hard to charm
spartan55

3 mo
Shit, he's already half way there

Answer 2

Asker

Trust me I do, he's the one that initiates it

Answer 3

spartan55

So that's your cover? "Well he initiated it" Yeah, and you entertain it. You think his wife will gaf about that?

Answer 4

Asker

He's the one that's married, not me😂

Answer 5

spartan55

You aren't getting it. You being single doesn't give you a pass! AGAIN, how do you think his wife would feel if she knew. Would you not care if your husband did that?

Answer 6

Asker

You don't even know the context to start throwing accusations at me. I'm saying he's the one thats married and YET I'm being fingers get pointed at the single one cos she supposedly 'entertained' it

Answer 7

Asker

*I'm the one with

Answer 8

spartan55

So you're not entertaining it? That's why you are asking if he likes you on this forum, because you aren't doing anything wrong. I don't know the context? Really... because I haven't seen this same situation myself in the workplace more times than I can count. I bet I can understand the context, it's not that complicated.
You are loving attention, and don't care one bit if it affects his marriage.

Answer 9

Asker

I'm just being friendly/polite, and doing this does not mean I'm enticing him in any way or want to sleep with him. If he has these intentions even tho he's a married man then that's his problem.

Answer 10

spartan55

I never said you were the one enticing him. But if you think it will only be 'his problem' if everything blows open, then you are mistaken.

Answer 11

spartan55

What if he starts talking about problems with his marriage? What if he asks you out for a drink? Do you know what you would say?

Answer 12

Asker

I kid you not , today he wanted me to go to the chicken shop with him but I turned it out and made an excuse!

Answer 13

Asker

*down

Answer 14

spartan55

Figures, what he was doing by messaging you was laying the groundwork. You should have said, "Cool! Will your wife be meeting us there?"

Answer 15

Asker

Meaning?
Also, I think you're over exaggerating abit... cos at our Christmas party he was sitting and chatting with another one of our female colleagues the whole time., but again it was probably nothing...

Answer 16

spartan55

Meaning does his wife know how much he chats, with you. Does she know he asked you to the chicken shop? No... and no

Answer 17

Asker

No cos its an irrelevant piece of info.
The guy at the chicken shop is gay and chats him up so he wanted someone to go with, you're not gonna believe me tho.

Answer 18

spartan55

YOU say it's irrelevant, does his wife? Wow, you just do not get it. Him getting chatted by a gay guy, now that is irrelevant. He didn't have to go with someone, and he didn't have to ask you...

Answer 19

spartan55

You can spin it and say it's okay all you want, bottom line: you are entertaining a married man. If that is what you want, then prepare for what comes with it.

Answer 20

Asker

Nothings gonna come with it. End of

Answer 21

spartan55

You say that now, we'll see. He will charm the pants off of you.

Answer 22

Asker

Nope, I'm hard to charm

Answer 23

spartan55

Shit, he's already half way there

Answer 24

Hangry06 | 343 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Yoda

Work place flirting is common. He is just using you to pass time.

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Answer 25

Wise4myage | 5.9K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Master

I say he's being friendly.

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Answer 26

Anonymous

Probably likes you

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Asker

4 mo
But he's married🤯
Opinion Owner

4 mo
Just being friendly then
Opinion Owner

4 mo
Wouldn’t be the first time a guy was trying to get someone on the side even though even though he’s married. I guess he doesn’t let his wife see his phone now because she would be suspicious of all the text messages

Answer 27

Asker

But he's married🤯

Answer 28

Opinion Owner

Just being friendly then

Answer 29

Opinion Owner

Wouldn’t be the first time a guy was trying to get someone on the side even though even though he’s married. I guess he doesn’t let his wife see his phone now because she would be suspicious of all the text messages

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