How can you tell a guy is insecure in a relationship?

how can you tell a guy is insecure in a relationship


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  • Insecure in what way? Like he's insecure about his appearance? Insecure about your loyalty for him? Insecure in his ways of pleasing you?

    A friend of mine has a poker face so despite having insecurities he's able to show people that he's confident or "cool" about it (even when he's really not).

    As for me, I don't like to bullsh*t my way through life so if I'm insecure about something I just tell the person upfront, because I'd rather be honest than fake it. Less drama that way. But I've been known to say these things in such a nonchalant way that it's like as if the issue is not even an issue to begin with. Like it's whatever for me lol.


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What Guys Said 2

  • I don't know about most guys, but I will tell you why I am insecure, it may help.

    I am insecure because of the following reasons:-

    I fear being alone

    I fear women are not attacted to me

    I worry I will say the wrong things and the girl I am with will leave me

    I repeat the same things to my current girlfriend like how beautiful she is

    I am always thinking about her

    I texted her and eagerly wait for the response back. if I don't hear from her I think I did something wrong

    I have low self esteem from being bullied at school and never dealt with the issue

    I always worry about what she thinks of me

    There are many different ways guys can be insecure. Women are very good at picking up on this trait. You understand things so much better than guys do/ If you feel the guy is insecure, your feelings are spot on. It's generally up to the guy to sort himself out, buy that is not an easy thing. I'm still trying, but getting help is not easy,

  • If he's very jealous, or constantly wanting to know where his girlfriend is - i.e. very needy behavior.


What Girls Said 2

  • Insecure men are so obvious. If a woman is confident, she can easily pick up those traits.

    There are different types of insecure men.

    1) He appears too eager to please/ or impress you

    2) He is always accusing you of desiring someone else

    3) He is way too smothering

    4) He tries to play 'cool' but is consistently demanding affirmation from you

    5) He checks your text msgs, emails, and eavesdrop on phone convos

    In my opinion, NOT attractive traits!

    • I wish I was on this site before I f***ed up my relationship with a great woman. I was guilty of most of those minus the checking text, emails and calls. But I always wondered who she was contacting. Now that she broke up with me everything is in perspective and I will never do it again, but it's too late.

  • extremely jealous and costant questioning!

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