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I think this is a little harder than Yes or No. For the most part I don't think a cheater is likely to learn from his/her mistake.
Nearly every girl I talked to that cheated I've noticed patterns in the way they felt about it.
1 - She'll say she cheated on her boyfriend and she didn't know why she did it but she feels terrible about it (and then do it again with somebody else down the road anyway).
2 - She'll say she did it and completely without remorse, the question why usually doesn't enter into it(but usually comes down to some kind of sick thrill), and these types usually do it again.
3 - She'll say "I was drunk" and cling to this as a cheap excuse, actually thinking that it somehow it absolves something. Then later they actually seem suprised that this wasn't good enough.
4 - My ultimate pet peeve: She'll say "But that didn't count because..." End this sentence with just about any lame excuse you can think of. One example "That didn't count because my boyfriend was out of town at the time" Yeah I actually heard that once.
5 - She'll say she cheated and that she felt so dirty, used, cheap or whatever (sometimes also lose her man in the process) from doing this and that she learned her lesson, came to her senses and not cheat again.
Now here's the rub... I've never actually met anybody from group number 5 personally. I've heard about them, I've heard from people who knew a guy who knew a girl, yadda yadda... Sadly I think that falls under urban legend at that point, but I gotta tell ya, it does give me hope. Anyway the most common I've seen among women are groups 1 and 3 tied at first and 4 at a distant second.
Men behave similarly but not quite the same. Nearly every guy I talked to that cheated I've noticed patterns in the way they felt about it.
1 - Say he did it, start bragging and then realize shortly after he f***ed up and wonder what the heck he's gonna do now. (These types usually get stupid and do it again at some point)
2 - Say he did it completely cool about it thinking he's a total pimp or whatever. High-fiving, and acting like an ass thinking he's such an alpha male.
3 - Say he did it when he was drunk and generally get depressed and freaked out about it. He'll probably end up telling her and he'll probably use it as an excuse like an idiot, but sometimes I see these types of guys try to fix things.
4 - Say he did it as some strange form of revenge. Generally (I think) to hold it over her head. This is usually followed by a break-up though (suprise suprise)
5 - She'll say he cheated and that he feels like crap about it (sometimes also lose his girl) from doing this and that he learned his lesson, and never cheats again.
With men the most common behavior I've seen are 1, followed by 5 and then 3. I think it's sad that I've actually seen 5 more often among men than women. I don't get it though. Truth be told I don't understand cheaters. If you want nail somebody else... (continued below)2
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