Remove the word "should" from your vocabulary as much as possible.
If you can't control it, there's no point worrying about it.
Stop trying to solve all your problems with a rational solutions
Don’t compare yourself with someone else
Remember that no one thinks about you as much as you think about you.
Strive for progress, not perfection.
Remember this: Where I’m at right now is not where i will be forever
Let yourself fail once in a while.
You can't focus only your rights, anf forget about your responsibilities
Don’t judge your current self based your past self.
You can't change people, but you can change how you interact with them.
Everything about you is thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.
People do not have the right to have unlimited access to you.
your anxiety both overestimates risk and underestimates your ability to cope.
And, it is what it is. accept things you cannot change.
You think is good for me to focus everyday on this advice from my therapist?
Most Helpful Guy
I think "it is what it is" is one of the best things you can say in life. You can't worry about the things you can't change. It takes a lot of practice to go with the flow and accept life as it comes while striving for your own happiness, but it makes life more enjoyable in the end. Also think of your life as a sitcom sometimes. Be less frustrated or embarrassed about mistakes or misfortunes that happen, and imagine how you would react if you watched that situation happen on TV. You get rained on, you get stuck in traffic, you drop your donut, and you're late to a meeting? You would feel bad for the character on TV, so just agree that it's a bummer and a really bad day, and do what you can.1
Most Helpful Girl
it sounds like you have boundary issues
if that is the case, read boundaries by townsend and cloud
it sounds like you might have self esteem issues
if this is the case, just remember that you are not your thoughts, actions or anything... instead you are always no matter what just valuable and learning to be better... you change. so for example, just because you made a mistake does not make you a mistake, you learn from it and you move on.