Can people’s behaviour change towards you due to mental health?

If a person came out of hospital due to mental health issues and before they went in they were fine with u, but all of a sudden their behaviour changed towards u since they came back after 4 weeks being in hospital and they don’t wanna be around u Anymore and push u away and say they’re different now, would u say this is their mental health affecting them? This person was fine before until he came back.
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Also before he went he was saying stuff like “I need someone like u.” And “I need you blah blah I don’t understand what happened
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His mates even said he is different now and miserable atm. So I don't know if he means to act like this towards me

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  • Yes. It’s very possible.

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  • Ill just say this, You keep looking for an answer here for this same problem in multiple different questions. The thing is, he either likes you or he doesn't, if he's dealing with his own problems you may not be on his mind right now. You might want to just move on, it would be better for your own mental health.

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      But I don’t get it. We was so good and he wanted to see me so bad before he went hospital. How can that change into him being so cold all of a sudden

  • Yes behaviour changes due to mental health! May be he said confessing that he needs someone like you, because he wanted you to take the step towards confessing love directly... May be...
    May be he's to disturbed right now to come back to normal. Give him time, respect, love and attention. He needs time to heel!

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  • Absolutely. When he was in the hospital for four weeks, he had to deal with issues from his past that he would much rather avoid. Doing so can bring back a lot of pain from past experiences that he wants to keep stuffed away so that he doesn't have to think about them. Nobody spends four weeks in a mental facility without have deep problems. Dealing with these things can definitely change many things in his life including his relationships with his family, friends and you.

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  • From your previous questions, it sounds like he has a chronic mental illness. Very few people ever "recover" from mental illnesses that require extended hospitalization; their illnesses are managed and the symptoms are treated but they always have their illness, and episodes of decompensation and hospitalization should be expected.

    Is that how you want to spend the rest of your life?

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  • I’m sure that was a hard experience for him. He may just be having a hard time with himself and doesn’t want to be around other people much at all. Just try to be supportive and ask him if he needs space to work on his mental health. It’s hard to focus on that and a relationship if you’re really struggling, an he needs to put his health first.

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  • His conflicting attitude and behaviour is so normal for someone with a mental health illness. He needs serious help. You can try to support him as much as you want, but at the end of the day he isn't gonna improve his behaviour towards you until his mental health gets better. You can do your best but do not become a pushover or let him take you for granted. However - you do need to be sensitive and he is in a vulnerable state and obviously wants a companion

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  • I know that when I'm at my worst, I just want to curl up and hide from the world. Everything changes when you are depressed. It sounds a bit like his stay in hospital didn't help but there isn't anything you can do to help.

    Hopefully he will balance out soon and will become less miserable, give him a bit of space and don't demand anything, he has to come to his own decision.

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  • People such as This are Intimidate To Take a Chance with Someone, Hun, Who Has Had or Has... mental issues. They are Scared that Someone may Flip at any Given Moment.
    Find People who Accept You Unconditionally. xx

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  • Yes , very much so.
    I have seen it in my family.

    It sounds cold but you might want to consider moving on. Unless you are a qualified specialist there is little that you can do.

    You are young and I am sure that you have goals in life. What will staying with mentally ill person ( that you are not qualified to treat) cost you? How much of your finite time and energy will you have to put out?

    At the end of the day the you make the final call.

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  • Especially with stuff like this, sometimes ya' need a mature conversation between the two of you to see what's going on and how to take things from here. Unfortunately either you or him might not be ready to have that sort of chat. Best of luck, hope it all works out!

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  • Your clearly madly in love with this guy. May as well just accept that love him the best way you know how.

    Do what you have to do. He has issues. You love him anyway. There’s nothing more to discuss. It’s kinda charming.

    Crazy fool. 🤪😂😁

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  • I can only guess, but my guesses would be that he is either having a lot of actual mental turmoil and isn't ready to deal with anything else, or he is just putting on an act to manipulate you and others, maybe for some sympathy or extra attention or to seem mysterious or get more space to do other things he doesn't want you involved in. Or I could be totally wrong, there is just not enough information to make a decent hypothesis.

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  • Yes. When people have mental issues, their behavior is up and down and that is dangerous. They are capable of anything then.

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  • Look at it this way: some people say that people should work on their own issues before trying to be in a relationship (and most professionals agree.) So maybe he's just taking the advice of his counselors. That doesn't mean he doesn't still love you.

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  • It is definitely very possible. Certain events (those events are different for everyone) can change people massively. Also it could be medication he is/was taking (if there was any)

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  • Yes.
    With mental health issues occurring, personalities will or may alter, during this the person is very likely to change their behaviours towards everyone :/

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  • People do change, sometimes that makes them push away people close to them. Other times they decide to isolate themselves out of a sense of not being worthy of friends and loved ones. And some times before a mental crash they fixate on a person so much that when they crash they can't stand seeing that person for, because that person literally gives them a reaction similar to that of a junkie.

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  • It might not only be their mental health, if they were admitted in a hospital they had a lot of time to think so it could be that, they could also be hitting their all-time low but it won't last too long usually

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  • It can or it may not depends on the condition or state of mind or diagnosis everyone is different. This person maybe is on meds that are still being adjusted to his system. Give him time to find himself a bit. I don't know what happen but ptsd can be a bitch

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  • He was mad about you before, now that fellow is gone now, and he is avoiding you cause he doesn't want to go through all that again.
    It must be hard on him to get you out of his system.
    I kind of feel sorry for him

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  • Mental health issues/concerns can be tricky. Try not to take it personally. Remember that person is\was sick and are dealing with their own coping issues. Give them space but don't write yourself out of the picture.

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  • I have seen this post like 20-30 days back. Mental health effect our relationship with others.
    I personally know 2 mentally ill people and their miserable breakup with their partners.
    The one who's ill only he has to go through all the pain. Second partner will have a healthy future with someone else

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  • I've said before, that this is more than likely the case, and I'm sorry, but you should consider your relationship is over. Severe mental health problems are usually impossible to deal with in friend, family, or partner relationships.

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  • Meds can change a person totally.
    I think best let the guy be and see hoa he is in a few months. Dont rush things he is going to want to change. Dont liose your sleep.
    Do you really want an unstable gentlemen in your life?

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    • 5d

      You’re right I’m just leaving it now. Just giving him space. I’m just gonna see what happens now. We both did everything together and it was our first time so I don’t know this is why I’m so attached

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      I gotcha ya. Well he's your first you want to hold onto the memories. But sometimes people change and again time to let go. plenty of fish in the sea.

  • When you say this guy was fine before he went into a mental health hospital, do you mean your relationship with him SEEMED fine? People who are “fine” don’t normally get admitted to a mental health facility.

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    • 5d

      Yeah our relationship was fine. He kept on asking me to go over and see him but I wanna busy with uni schedules. But before he went hospital apparently he was getting angry and punching people for no reason

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      When I was on the phone with him he also told me how he just sits in that flat and Just wants to smash everything up there he also smashed his phones up

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      If the mental hospital helped him, maybe he needs to keep a large part of his pre-hospital days away from him until he can find a balance. Don’t pressure him to be with you but be there if and when he needs you.

  • Well you dont know what they did to him in there. The type of medication he is on. Mental illness is tricky.

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  • No need to over think it, to be honest, at this point t not about you and you need to accept that.

    Let him get healthy and just be there for him and live your life.
    Simple.

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  • It entirely depends on the condition and the treatment. Who they are inside never changes. Having who they are come through to the surface can be intimitent.

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  • Mental institutions try to discourage their newly released patients from returning to the same environment, this is likely what's changed.

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      What do you mean?

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      When you are talking to a psychiatrist/psychologist, they are trying to find ways to positively lead you to change. If you are caught up in a bunch of nonsense, they will tell you to distance yourself from the people that are associated with the nonsense. The same could be for your friend.

      If your friend anxious like me, you might remind them of bad times, even if you werent a source of a problem. There are people I dont talk to to this day because hearing from them reminds me of situations that I've put behind me.

  • Absolutely!

    People tends to make bad choices when they are mentally ill due to different needs. well known within certain psychological professions.

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  • Yep, that is possible, especially if they are not in the right frame of mind.

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  • Hopefully so. Any time a person goes into therapy or is treated for mental conditions one of the main concerns is to get that person to see life in a different way, get them to see where their life choices haven't been serving them all that great. They look around and see the disastrous consequences some of their current choices have done. They teach you to see the cause and effect of those choices and teach you to act differently going forward. Everything is expendable toward that end. The old ways weren't working so hopefully the new ones will be better but your current career, your current relationships, even who you choose to associate with is up for grabs. The whole idea is to get you to see your life in a new way, so it isn't surprising to see former mental patients get different jobs, different friends, possibly different residences, etc. You may have to lose your friend but be aware it's for the greater good of his survival. At least until he gets on his feet again.

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  • Yes. Mental health ilnesses can change a persons behaviour..

    Even if a person hasn't got mental health issues, their behaviour can change according to the problems or issues they have in their daily lives.

    That's why it's sometimes best to look beyond a person's change in behaviour, and try to gain more insight into why they are behaving the way their are. Instead of totally dismissing them all together. That way you'll have more understanding, and be able to deal with their changes more effectively. .

    If this person changes towards you, try not to take their behaviour too personal.

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  • He is acting or not this can only expressed over time. If he comes back and asks for your help. Then you can expect something is still in his heart and it wants you.

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  • yeah. if there's a problem with the brain, anything can happen with them. they can become completely different people.

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  • I would just give him a break and focus on someone for now, this has been a struggle for quite a while. You can be there as a friend for now

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  • It might be his mental health doing it. But what if he's the same as he should be. Like, this is how he really is? What are you really wanting from him or all of this?

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      But why was he so affectionate and wanted to give things a go with me right before he went away? And as soon as he comes back he is different

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      Could very well be his mental state. Like now he is on prescriptions and this is what's causing them. From all your posts before, he sounded unstable as it was.

  • It can change it, for sure. But I would talk to a professional about it. You won't get clarity on here.

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  • I guess it would depend on what his issue was that put him in care in the first place?

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  • Sounds like he has his own problems to work out, and is trying to distance himself from his former behaviours and associations.

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  • My mom is bipolar. My sister is bipolar. And I work with adults with disabilities. I can tell you absolutely.

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  • Never been in this situation, but I am always uncomfortable around the mentally disturbed they are a danger themselves and others.

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  • His mental health may be unstable rn. Don’t push him.

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  • A change in mental health status can very much change their behavior, and sometimes in drastic ways.

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  • Did they put him on meds in there? You might not think so but psych meds can fuck peoples heads up bad... but really though... is that what you want in a guy?

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  • Definitely people being diagnosed with mental health problems for a month or two it ruins them then after that they get back up

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    • 6d

      The thing is he’s been hospital before for it he told me. He just doesn’t tell me what’s wrong. I don’t think he knows himseof tbh

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      He is trying to make some distance between you so let him he needs to sort himself out you can't do much what he is doing is his way of making some space between you without seeming pathetic if you loved him stay with him and in a month he will have picked himself up a bit

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      Yeah I’m just waiting. Do u think he’ll actually come back? Like contact me again somehow?

  • Sounds like a "letting go" moment to me. Change is the only constant. And here we are. He went in one way, came out another way. No judgment. He's simply different. Time to let go and move on.

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  • Absolutely it can change, but that change is not necessarily permanent.

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  • Well you just look at it like this if he is having mental issues just let him do him and sooner or later he will com back to you

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