What is your most traumatic experience and how did you cope with it?

[TonyBello]

I'm sorry to hear that. this is a violence that deeply shakes a woman. i really am sorry. for me it was when my youngest son started to have seizures, it's horrible, I felt helpless, there was nothing I could do. I asked so much for this problem to end even wanting it to come to me. now it is better, doctors have found the medicine that is working well and with few side effects. remember YOU ARE A WARRIOR, YOU ARE A WINNER.

[FriendlyEnigma]

Omg! Hope you're at least doing a bit better now 😣 for me, my most traumatic moment was the day my dad died in the room right next to mine. I remember my mom shouting his name for about 5 minutes straight.. about two hours later me and my brother went to see him for the last time, and it's really fucked seeing your dad lying on the floor of your childhood bedroom

[Andres77]

Being molested a few times as a little boy and physical abuse at school.
It took years before therapy was even considered.
My mom had been raped and abused and her first husband prostituted her out. After I was born she got away from him (complicated, long story). Her way of handling so much abuse was to focus on raising us the best she could. I only told her about some of the things that happened to me. If she knew all of it it would break her heart.
When I moved out of the house (last kid to move out) she was faced with her past and no longer had the distraction of focusing on us. She finally got therapy.
When it was recommended that I get therapy for sex addiction I thought back to the positive change in my mom so I did it.
Made a world of difference and I stopped using destructive means of coping.
My mother in law was raped (from South America). That happens just as much as here. The attitude is just different. She needed no therapy. I'm sure she would have benefitted from it but their culture is just stronger and more stable minds. It just is. The rapist did mysteriously disappear though...🤔.

I'd absolutely support getting therapy.
No meds (if you can help it).

I had two separate girlfriends that seemed very stable but on a few occasions they'd wake me up by scratching and hitting me because they had a nightmare of when they were both raped.
It's some heavy shit, no doubt.
Everyone, I think, would benefit from the help of a GOOD therapist. I was lucky to find one, my mom too.
I don't know how to suggest how to find a good therapist. Sorry.

Good luck and may you find the peace you need.

[RawIronhide]

My perents separating when I was ten. It wasn't that they separated but it was the domestic turmoil that stuck with me. I have trust issues, anxiety and I recognize I was developmentally stunted slightly mostly socially. When other kids were busy learning how to make friends I was doing all I could just to get out of bed and go to school. Most of the time I'd just ruminate over my uncertain living situation. There's no right way to cope just a lot of contumplation and self analysis. It helps if you have someone to talk to. I literally treat myself like a recovering addict it takes a lot of self awarness but you can heal yourself. I feel much better about everything regardless of current life troubles. I'm so greatful to be alive and I've come so far from where I was at that age.

[Phoenix98]

Finding my friend dead and later finding out that he blew his own head off. Yeah that fucked me up quite a bit. Probably the thing that made it worse was the fact was that I came to him one time and he was drunk telling me things I can't repeat on here that happened to him and made him that way and he was crying basically begging me to help him as I held him in my arms.

And that's what gets me the most even now was that he begged me to help him and I desperately tried but in the end I failed him. And his death will always be on my conscious even now almost a year after it happened I still hold myself responsible for it.

What helped me was getting drunk and wondering around town ranting to myself like a crazy person. And also talking about it with a friend, honestly if it wasn't for her I'm not sure how I would have coped with it.

[Inexpensivefurniture]

Being molested when I was five. I've been in therapy trying to deal with that for years and I still have a long way to go.
A very close second is becoming disabled when I was 15. I had to go to therapy for that too and it still causes me anxiety and depression at times. Though not as frequently as it used to, and nowhere near as often as the sexual abuse does

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

Finding out I'd been cheated on two years after my ex dumped me. Turns out she was fucking one of my own "friends".

I realise there are far worse sources of trauma, I'm not trying to say I had things the worst. But that really destroyed a lot of my faith in people to be trustworthy. I'm gradually learning tp trust again but it still hurts when I stop to think about what happened.

[worldscolide]

For me it was my father raping me as a child, and my mother watching.. After that it was dealing with my mother beating me until i was about 11 - 12, and then later on it was horrible abuse at the hands of boys home staff members, and finally domestic abuse from my ex.

[legalboxers]

mental abuse from both my mother and father, in addition to torment in high school. I still dealt with bullshit in my workplace. I still get tormented even though I am out of that situation. Im trying to move from here. But since I take care of an aged parent I can't,

[iseekpinetrees]

You cope by realizing it could have been worse/life is too short/(sad/bad) shit happens and you go through the emotions and you move on. Life goes on. Things that happened get pushed into the past and you let go.

[msc545]

A really bad motorcycle accident about 3 years ago with a mild to moderate brain injury (luckily did not need neurosurgery). Horrible accident in that someone knocked me off my bike on purpose. I am completely ok now, but it was touch and go for awhile.

[Youryeodongsaeng]

I was raped, but it never had any effect on me as to I was already a horny 5 year old.

I don't think I have any traumas... if I do, then I'm blind to know what it is.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

https://www.youtube.com/embed/mACi37PyRKQWhat always gets me was when Dorothy Murdered The Wicked Witch Of The West. How can someone do something like that? I was young & Dorothy in the movie murdered two people & yet it’s a G Rated Movie, bull$hit! Dorothy I hope Toto takes a leak on your red devil shoes.

[StylesbyDR]

In high school my girlfriend died in a house fire while sleeping. I just stayed busy with school and college to let time pass by. Time heals all wounds.

[Myk13]

I can’t recall anything traumatic enough to need to deal with. That or I have the ability to completely block it from my memory. But I guess I wouldn’t know it then.

[StarryCrossing]

Being sexually groomed as a minor for most of my teenage years.

[JosyJosy]

A best friend dying in a car accident, I don't think I dealt with it since I still do break down thinking about it

[Maspolomas]

I’m so sorry to hear that for me it was seeing my dad literally kick the shit out of my mother every weekend he punch her and kick her he knocked out most of her teeth

[chriscdi]

well i know people wanted to kill me once, i was very paranoid until i heard they got caught for killing one of my friends before they can do anything

[bklynbadboy1]

Mine was coming into the house finding my mom on the floor passed off had to give her CPR she didn't make it

[berwise13]

I've had quite a few traumatic experiences. Brother committed suicide. Been to war 3 times. Several more from childhood. Not sure how I deal with it but budweiser is good medicine.

[Lone_wolf122]

Lol I opened your profile and then balloons hit me in the face...

[PersoncslledPierson]

Nothing is traumatic cos I have very little feeling n don’t really care about anything, I think I got testi cancer but I’m not even bothered

[Agem123]

The divorce of my parents and horrible years that came after it.

[Juxtapose]

I had some friends and family die but nothing else major. I've been pretty lucky.

[LadyAlfr]

Still dealing with my own trauma, I just make sure to get by day to day in hope that I'll get better over time

[rustymopp]

sorry to hear that,

Mine was dealing with a friend having an epileptic fit

[Anonymous]

Probably my abusive boyfriend dying from a heroin addiction.

[Anonymous]

I'm having a difficult time reconciling this question with the images in your profile.

[Jmmmfi4]

The emotional and verbal abuse I took from my dad all my life

[Submissivenerd]

You might want to get some counselling or female friends

[Anonymous]

Doesn't seem that traumatic if your showing half your body on here

[Anonymous]

For me it was rape, but if she was able to move past it then I really have no excuse

[Agape93]

A lot of therapy, time, and patience with myself.

[Pulseofsulfur]

For me it's almost getting clipped by a terrorist driving a Uhaul truck

[andy530]

Cancer... still dealing with it

[Twenty2]

That's sad! How are you dealing with it?

[Tim-loves-it]

My parents passing in 09

[Anonymous]

Also rape (multiple guys)... in therapy now

[scooogy]

Sexual abuse

[gandolph3]

Very sorry you were raped, how do you cope