It’s being 40man. Age is catching up with you.
Normally I'd think so but I turned 40 just around the COVID stuff. So it is difficult for me to attribute my physical degradation with that rounded year. :-D Plus I don't wanna dwell in this state forever. I prefer being naive and stubborn about the potential at least. It helps in the training when I get all back into the zone.
Well, to me it is like we should master what we can control. I can't control my age. And almost certainly, it is harder to be really fit with age. But I should have more experience to overcome those challenges by then. Instead, I'm squandering it for being lazy and drinking and sloppy. I like this way of thinking. It seems productive.
Yeah. I weight myself at 195 today. I wasn’t even disappointed in myself. Just kind of shocked. I mean I knew I gained weight. But not that much. And I’ve been back in the gym for a month. I should at least be lower in weight. I blame all the times I ordered fast food twice a day and the amount of butter I use in food.
I actually lost weight (now at 150 -- I looked best at around 165-170). That's probably worse. I didn't cut. I lost mass and gained fat. I'm turning into a woman! :-D But I have been sloppy and undisciplined for an entire year now. I don't want to accept this as just, "I'm in my 40s now, so that's how I'm supposed to be."
One thing for me in the past year is that I lost the big toe on my left foot -- stupid story. But I haven't been able to quite walk right, and I relied a lot on sprinting and jumping types of stuff to lean down quickly. I still haven't fully gotten used to missing even just a toe. But it is more like I'm making excuses.
Well I just know my buddies dad gained serious weight when he hit middle age. And he got cranky and he bought a massive truck. My buddy said he was planning on buying a sports car. I plan on defeating mid life crisis by never growing up.
I find whatever semblance of mid-life crisis so far in a washed-up way like I used to think I was smarter, or more fit, than I am now. It doesn't manifest to me in fancy cars or hot girls. And it might not even be in my achievements. It's like I had a fire when I was younger. Ambition, maybe. I miss being ambitious like that. It would be more convenient if I could just get a sports car.
... and be happy that way.
I personally find freedom in my short comings. Like I accept I’m short. And I’ve been rejected for being short. But i don’t care. At the end of the day, I ultimately feel how I wanna feel.
I'm also on the shorter side but didn't bother me so much cause I can't help it. I get bothered more by the things I know I can help but fail to do so.
There’s gotta be a way to find balance.
It's my lifelong struggle -- even with things I can help. I tend to kind of balance things by tipping the scale so much that one side needs serious help, then focus all my attention on the other and then repeat and repeat. :-D Balance is an amazing quality in a person as I see it -- even just sleeping on a timed schedule.
Sounds exactly like my struggle up until this point. Now I’m just at a point where I’m like fuck it. How much worse can things really get? I’ve walked in snow every day to work in freezing weather. I’ve walked in the rain to get to the gym because gains were important. This corona shit won’t be the end of me.
The tricky thing for me with balancing is not summoning that last ounce of willpower. Adrenaline seems to come sort of easily to me. As an analogy, I was one of the fastest sprinters in my little high school -- under 10.5 secs and got close to 9. x seconds one time. But you ask me to participate in cross-country or marathon and I'm miserable. I don't know how to make that steady pace. That's the "balance" to me is like being a jogger or marathon runner... it's something totally alien to me. It is familiar to me to go super fast for short periods and then catch our breaths, or lift super heavy for short periods and rest our muscles, or study super hard and rest our brains, but not with any sort of sustainable pace or consistency.
Wow guys this was an awesome exchange. Not trying to stalk 🤓 I just relate real well to aspects both of what you are saying and it was so respectful and kind of up lifting... Nice to see 👍🏻 💜As for 40. Tons of 40 somethings are hot AF. I think if you stay in shape you’re fine. It may be a bit harder to stay in shape but I don’t think she will automatically or prevent that ☺️Chef you’re a handsome guy. It seems like you mostly get that 😊
The Chef is my BFF.
That’s awesome 💜💜
Totally agree on the marathon thing.
I’m opposite I was always a horrid Siri her bjt I love long distance I feel more relaxed when I’m moving... but I can’t go fast well I don’t enjoy it. And I’m not great at it. Endurance is my thing.Till this year after I got sick it’s like I’m 90. I’m always tired and put of breath it’s been getting better but been disoriented since last March 🥵🥵🥵 ( covid 😒)
@VIVANT Well, I figure we all know what it feels like to be 90-years old now! It's just about time-traveling back to our (insert whatever age you were before COVID) bodies now.
I personally get bored once I figure out how to do something. Which usually doesn’t take long. With lifting and cooking I’ve, are the only hobbies I’ve found it exciting to focus on the basics. Everything else it’s like, I’ve proved I can do it, so what’s the point of doing it a million times.
I got the same issue outside of a few interests (primary being my work) -- the whole incessant dabbler thing. I figure out just enough to get an idea of what the champions have to do and then I wanna figure out something else just enough to the same thing. It's a pesky thing. But work was never so difficult that way for me. I got married to my job at an early age. Didn't need to date around to find what I wanted there.
I wanna try coding. I’m thinking about taking classes.
I would not wish that on my worst enemy. Especially in computer graphics, things change so fast that we're always behind... gotta research. Gotta do. Reseach, do, research do. There's no mastery to be had here. Someone who mastered CG in the 80s is an obsolete dinosaur today if he/she didn't keep up. It was fun when I was younger with the constant challenges. These days I get frustrated by my lack of mastery. It's impossible to master anything if people keep changing the rules.
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