What's it like to have baby fever? How do women know they are ready for children?
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Now that I'm a mother I have baby fever. I used to think that I would grow up a workaholic that would be divorced or not ever get married not have children but I was way off.
Pregnant at 18... baby at 19. Now I'm 21; stay at home mother; and I can tell you that having a child is going to be the most difficult task of your life. I know for a fact that no matter how prepared you think you are financially, mentally, emotionally... You're not going to be 100%. It's a beautiful experience and having a child is lovely like nothing that you'll ever have known, though it's best to be set in stone that you want a child. You're bringing another life into the world and once they come, there's no going back. Make sure that you or you and your spouse (preferably husband first) talk things out and make sure that he's fine with children. Make sure that you're stable in you're relationship with your spouse and that you have spent enough time together and alone and he feels the same. Also, financial stability is a must and is necessary for child preparation (save money for future expenses like college/car/clothes for all ages/ birthdays). Make sure that you and him are on the same terms when it comes to "how" to raise your child, sometimes that's an issue for some couples. Make sure that you can handle sleepless nights, stress, strong emotions. Pregnancy is one thing but no matter the age you're learning everything about your baby the hard way first hand, they have their own personality along with 50/50 of you and your spouse. You'll never be completely mentally ready but when you and your spies feel emotionally ready for about a 6months to a year then it's time for a baby.
Fact: most women do up to 80% of the work when it comes to child care.
Since I'm a stay at home mother I do about 97% of the work.2