So I'm getting married next month and I'm starting to get very nervous and scared about this being my first time having sex. I know I love my fiance really much and he is very caring and sweet and loves me a lot, but even knowing that I can't stop thinking about if it's going to be painful for me :(
Can you give me some advice, or tell me by your experience if it hurts like hell?
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Well, the pain level varies depending on the woman. For some women, it's totally painless. For others, it hurts quite a bit. For me, it was slightly uncomfortable but it wasn't very painful, although it wasn't until my third or fourth time that it started actually feeling good.
My advice to you would be:
-Relax. If you are tense, the walls of your vagina will be tense as well and it will be harder for him to enter you and and it won't be as comfortable for you.
-Make sure you are well lubricated, lots of foreplay is important for this. If your natural lubricants aren't enough, you can always use lube too (but remember, if you plan on using condoms, make sure it is a water or silicone based lube so it won't break down the latex).
-Communicate with your partner. Make sure he is gentle and understands that, since this is your first time, he should take it slow at first mans not try to rush everything. Take the time to do foreplay and then ease into the intercourse part.1