I'm getting married this year but I think we are only getting married because we had a baby. It's exciting planning the wedding and I can see myself with this person for life, but I just don't see myself having the life I always dreamed of. I am worried that after the wedding I will have nothing to look forward to and nothing to talk about with my partner. Does marriage change anything? I feel more secure to be married and I think it's what I need to be a good mother. But I wish I got to live more of my life as a single person. I just don't want to be without my partner or child. But I want to have friends and save my own money and go away on girls holidays. Can you still do that if you're married to someone and have kids? Or does life just end so that you can look after your husband and children? What if your husband is broke and your life is a struggle does it ever change?
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I've been told that marriage is one of the happiest moments in someone's life but to me, I get depressed every time this happens. I really have to wonder how long the marriage will last, if the couple are and will truly be happy with one another for future years to come. The price of divorce is very steep if your unhappy and how do you know if your beloved won't become an alcoholic or go off doing something that could ruin your life? The freedom that you once had has disappeared and life gets significantly more stressful emotionally and mentally. I just can't grasp how marriage is a good thing...
But don't let this negativity discourage you from marriage! :) I've been raised to believe that marriage is nothing more then a scam because my parents have been divorced, I've seen enough fighting and abuse within marriages from other people to last a lifetime, it's messed up.
I'm praying that your husband will treat you very well, give you lots of love and that your marriage will be very successful with your child :D You can do it if the two of you cooperate and work things out :)1