He's 37. I'm 28.
Our relationship has been rocky over the years.
I've been with him since I've been 20.
We've broken up and gotten back together over a dozen times.
We have a kid together.
I got pregnant at 22.
I put my life on hold.
I became a stay @ home Mom for 5 years until my kid started school (and then I continued my education).
I'm from a upper middle class family, and he is from the projects (he lived with his parents).
When I got pregnant I had to move into a crime ridden neighborhood (in the projects because the rent is low), into one of the most dangerous neighborhoods in my state.
I had to get on food stamps, and wic to support our kid because at 31 years old (at the time) he couldn't do it.
He proposed to me on Valentine's day ...but while I'm supposed to be enjoying my engagement I have hidden it from my parents and friends.
I literally haven't told ANYONE.
He told every one in his family that he proposed to me.
Not only am I am very attractive young lady, but I'm a hard worker, finishing up my nursing degree.
He has a decent job but he is in a lot of debt due to his ways.
He has $0 savings, and lives pay check to pay check.
He owes me $4,000. he's late paying rent, paying cable, paying his own (cell phone-car payment bills).
He's pretty much pulling me back.
I <3 him and keep going back to him.
Besides this, he's the man of my dreams.
He genuinely cares about me...and took care of me when I was severely burned, and even going through (turmoil with my family).
What's your opinion on this situation?
I just need an outsiders view.
Not sure where that weird word "&It;3" came from. Sorry ;P lol
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U are a successful women and he isn't while he's lazy and all? Welll yeah u can say that u fawked up ur life BIC time. Ma dumb sis is about to get into that situation now and ma parents and older bro scold and lecture her about 4 times now and she still wouldn't let go of him smh. Ma dad told her not to come back once again if she ever married him. In ma eyes, i agree with ma parents as well. y'all naive cuties should think twice before its too late considering how risky ur actions are. Toughluck xP0
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