I have a really bad marriage. Its been 12 years, there's no love left, respect, he doesn't support anything I want, he's a narcissist, irresponsible, cold hearted person. I have no personal life, I have no friends, if I want sibling time, church, charity events he makes fun of me or try to talk me down. I have horrible self esteem. All I do is work. Have brought this to his attention but he always makes me feel guilty about EVERYTHING! If I would like to go out shopping he refuses to watch the kids (they always give me a hard time) while he sits at home w his friends or the ps3. If I go out to a kids party he gives me a curfew...2 hours max. I have mentioned counseling, divorce but NOTHING works!! I go to family parties without him, having to deal with crying kids. I look like a depressed single parent!! Wtf!! How do I stand up for myself? I don't know how, I have never been taught how to make myself be respected, how to put myself first, how to not give him so much control. Any strong people who have over come this?
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I mean you just.. do. He's the run of the mill "selfish dude"? It's classi and textbook on every level. :/ One day you will get over the thrill of being abused and you'll just.. get tired of him. His time of "power" is severyly limited... he'll get boring abd predictable after a while and you'll need and even DEMAND someone more.. EXCITING!! :D and less predictiable.. ya know? Controlling and self centered bastards just get so mundane and boring after a while.. and that is where real men come in...1