My boyfriend wants to put in a prenup tbat if the marriage ends in divorce, everything before the marriage stays his and tbat he won't have to pay Spousal support. I think that would really fuck me over cause he could decide at any time to leave me and then it's like we'll good luck. I've comprised heavily on this prenup thing. I don't even want one and here I am trying to protect myself.
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I have mixed feelings on pre-nups. I think they're a smart thing to go into a marriage with. I've seen people (men AND women) get screwed. My gf's godmother is a wealthy corporate lawyer, and her husband was a lawyer as well. She continued in that career, while he decided to get out of it, and tried to get into real estate and a few other ill-fated business opportunities. His family has money, so it was never a problem. Now they're about to divorce, he decided to leave. He obviously plotted this, because he did some underhanded stuff with money (that I don't fully understand) but he essentially worked it so she paid the family expenses from her accounts, and he kept all his money in cash and off-the-grid. So now he's claiming he was a stay-at-home dad, and all the financial records point to that, and he's trying to burn her for 17,000 A MONTH!!! If he wins, she won't be able to retire soon as she had been planning. So it's possible to get totally jerked, and couples would be wise to sign legal documents to prevent such things.
In your case, I would speak to an attorney about this type of thing to make sure you're protected. Honestly, I'm in favor of the idea of a spouse only being entitled to money earned DURING the marriage. If someone comes into it with a large family inheritance, I don't see any reason why the other spouse should have any entitlement to that money, they played no role in earning it. If you're a stay at home mom and/or housewife, by way of a mutual marital decision, then you ABSOLUTELY should be entitled to spousal support, based on what was earned during your time in that role. That's the point of spousal support, if your spouse ASKS YOU to not work or go to school to take care of the home and/or kids, then that was a sacrifice on your end that you should be compensated for. I just don't support the idea that people are just flatly entitled to half of the total pot, I think it should only apply to the duration of the marriage. Like the old Chris Rock stand-up bit, he says women go to court like "your honor, I'm accustomed to this, I'm accustomed to that..." "ACCUSTOMED? What the fuck is "ACCUSTOMED?" When I got to a restaurant, I'm "accustomed" to eating. But if I get up and leave, THEY DON'T OWE ME A STEAK!" I think people should be protected, but if I married a rich woman and she asked me to stay home, if she or I left, I wouldn't expect the wealthy lifestyle to continue, I would just want enough to live decent, especially since...0