Married couples hit rough patches all the time in their marriage. And many of them decide to work it out. But would the decision be different if two people were not married?
Is the decision to stay with that person influenced by the ideas of marriage and/or a feeling of obligation to that person?
Also, many people say you can only truly be in love with one person in your life. Some people say true love comes later? But what really defines "true love"?
Think about the first time you fell in love. The only two expectations were
1. Is the person attractive?
2. Does he or she like me back?
And then if things work out. BAM! You have an intense connection with that person. Many agree you never forget first love. It is significant.
But then others will say that was more about infatuation or lust. But then some people manage to make the first love relationships last years. And many will say nothing is the same afterwards.
Then you will get those who will say later love is "deeper". But when you grow older, you start to tack on expectations and dealbreakers to your relationships that you overlooked when you were younger. Such as
3. Does this person have a car?
4. Does this person have a job?
5. Does this person smoke?
6. Is this person financially independent?
So what is love really? Ultimately it is a feeling. But is love really a feeling towards the person itself? Or is it influenced by external factors such as commitment, traits/attributes about someone, age, etc?
Some people say love is an illusion. That love is really a collection of multiple emotions. Studies show that love is really a biological chemical process.
People also have different definitions of what love really is.
Is love really an intense feeling or bond towards someone like you had in your youthful years? Or is love a not so intense process and is more patient and slow?
Most Helpful Girl
Love is commitment, trust and loyalty.
I don't do relationships, since I am somewhat religious.
So, to answer your first question, yes. If I am married and we hit a rough patch, I would try my best to work it out.
As for what if we weren't married.. I will give my SIS's example.
Her and her boyfriend dealt with a lot of obstacles and still didn't give up.
So, love is a feeling as well.
They decided not to give up.
2nd question, yes to both.
Both of them are involved.
You can love more than one person. And this is when I will say love is a choice as well.
True love is not just lust, like, or just obsession. That's all I know.
Never been in love but eh kind of I guess.
Mostly the 2nd.
When I liked someone many years ago, and he said he liked me back.. my feeling faded.
So that wasn't love at all.
Here is what I think about first love,...
It just creates hurt in the heart for both you and your current partner.
It's good to know yourself and be a bit strict on the deal breakers...
For example, say you hate smoking..
And you live with someone who smokes.
And you really can't stand it.. and might even make you kinda resent the person.
So you know that's one of your deal breakers in a partner.
If you make that deal breaker an exception to someone you start to like, I bet in the long run, it will come back to you as one of the major conflicts in your relationship.
Love is everything. Feeling, choice, commitment, etc.
A love only based on feeling.. and without any other things like loyalty /trust /commitment is weak in my opinion
In the end, love is commitment.0
Most Helpful Guy
You can remain in love with many people throughout your whole life, from the first to the last. It is ultimately the external and internal characteristics of a good life partner that should influence people into making a larger commitment.
You need more than love to make marriage work. Both partners need to have qualities that make for a perfect partner in crime that can stand any challenge.0