I'm not trying to start some bitter, misogynist rant about how "feminists are trying to destroy men and control us!". But why do we feel it's necessary to have a SO and children in order to be happy? My great uncle never married and he was a great guy. Why do I have to give up pursuing my passions in life in order to support other people? Is that selfish? Why can't I be happy in life doing other things and being the person I dreamt being?
Most Helpful Girl
If you feel like getting married and having children is going to mess up your life or your goals, and you know those are more important than a potential new family - then choose that - what is more important to you. Nothing wrong with that. As long as people whom you're dating for a longer time know you aren't intended on getting married or having children. Live your life, but don't stagnate other's lives just so you can get what you want. Honesty is important.1
Most Helpful Guy
There's absolutely nothing wrong with it. My thoughts were the same when I was in my early twenties, but then I met my now wife, and changed my mind shortly after. Now, I'm not saying that that will happen to everyone, but it can. Also, some people just don't want to marry or be in a long term relationship. They'd rather do what they want, and have no desire to have to budge on the front. Which might sound selfish, but it really isn't as long as you're open about if you are seeing someone.
On the kids front, it's perfectly fine to not want to have kids. My wife, and I never want to have kids and we're both perfectly happy with it. My sisters are married, are very happy in their 40's and neither of them have kids. Not having kids in a relationship or marriage seems to be less taboo now then it was 10 years ago.0