So my boyfriend is older than me. he has had 2 fiances. i have a friend and he's getting divorced. everyone one in my family has. I'm afraid to get married but i want a man in my life when I'm older. what if i get divorced. being together is better but not married cause you don't have to go through a divorce is better i think. anyone agree?
Most Helpful Guy
People act like there's some magical force that stops you from falling in love and being committed and having a family if you don't get married.
Prenups can also be a good idea. People think prenups are these things where one person is just not trusting their partner but that's just silly. You can have a prenup basically just dictate what will happen in the event of divorce that you both agree upon that you have to stick to (so you know think it through) that way there's no lengthy court appearances for divorce. It goes down much faster and quicker and everyone got what they originally wanted.
Don't let anyone pressure you into marriage but also don't let anyone bully you out of it. If you guys are truly in love go for it. But plan accordingly and be smart and realistic with each other and things can't go that badly then.0
Most Helpful Girl
i totally understand where you're coming from. by the time i was 14, i had already decided that i wouldn't be getting married; everyone in my family (save one set of grandparents) is divorced, as well as many of my friends, and it kinda ruined the idea for me.
i never planned to be married to anything but my career. but (spoiler alert) my man and i see marriage in our future~ unlike other people i'd dated, he was intelligent and willing to work to earn my trust, and i like him enough to want him in my life long-term.
my other half has been engaged twice, but it doesn't bother me. everything happens for a reason and, in this case, the reason is that he's coming to the altar with me. lol.
the way i look at it is, everyone else fucked it up so that i don't have to. i'm going to do this only once, and i'm going to do it right.0