Quick back story; I've always wanted to get married as a child, have that dreamy big wedding, lots of white, lots of music, flowers and a huge white dress, having my man standing gorgeously crying when he sees me. (the bitch would have no choice. hehe). However, as i grew older, I changed as a person (obviously) I don't want children, and someone with children would be a deal breaker, same with someone who would want children would be a deal breaker. And i don't want to get married. Seeing my mother go through her second divorce, seeing her friend deal with a divorce, my grandmother, other family friends, made me wonder what the whole point is of marriage if people only end up divorcing, or constantly complaining about it? - Whenever i asked someone if they like being married, they always said the same things "You need to learn to not listen to them" or "Life ends when marriage begins". So, bringing me to now; I'm in a happy relationship, with a female (who knows what happened to the crying man :P), we have similar opinions on children, future, however, she want's to get married. I told her i don't like the concept of marriage, but she's slowly convincing me to agree to let her propose in the future, however, my opinion hasn't changed. I don't see the point in marriage. - So to all you newly weds and old married couples, what is your opinion on marriage? Is it really worth it?
(Sorry for such a long post, i needed to vent more than anything)
Most Helpful Guy
I would say it is IF you are very compatible. For example, sex is a massive thing in my life and I believe that one can have sex for recreation and "love". I also don't believe in monogamy, hence I am polyamorous. So if I find a girl who thinks the way I do, and we are good together, there is no reason why I wouldn't want to marry her. The only thing that most people don't realise with marraige is that it's an expensive commitment. So once you do this, it's best to make it work, which is why compatibility is important. It's important because marraige and long term commitment takes sacrifice. You have to sacrifice a little bit of yourself to make it work. But not so much that you lose yourself or become co- dependent. But once you know this, there is no reason it shouldn't work out.1
Most Helpful Girl
My husband and I celebrated our 15th wedding anniversary last month.
Both of us WERE totally like "fuck marriage". Both of us grew up giving the side-eye to long-term commitments in general. Both of us were restless, rebellious, sexually confident, promiscuous, and dynamic. Both of us were absolutely thriving on our own.
And then... we met.
We had about 15 hours together, and oh did we make the most of it... then we were long-distance for over a year. By just a few months into that year, I already had a ring on my finger, and we belonged to each other... for life.
Our marriage is fucking awesome.
It's so amazing, and so fulfilling, that it brings tears to my eyes even to write this sentence.
And it just gets better, and better, and betterandbetterandbetter.
We have a partnership that makes EVERYTHING in life easier.
NOTHING is harder, more fraught, or more annoying.
Compared to if we were single, we don't have as much work around the house, our money goes farther, our stress dies out faster, we're happier, and we're more fulfilled.
Each of us has intuitively and emotionally become part of the other. Whenever either of us is carrying a heavier emotional load, the other one knows it right away, and is there to take some of that load off.
We support each other in EVERYTHING we do. We don't bullshit each other. We keep each other on the straight-and-narrow. We point out each other's flaws. We challenge the shit out of each other. Everything we do, we do with PASSION.
The color white makes me wet. The word "wife" almost makes me cum. I wear slutty wedding dresses to bed. He slams his love and commitment into my ever-willing body, heart, and soul, over and over and over again. We lock eyes and say our wedding vows all over again while he's finishing inside me.
We've got 3 awesome kids who, so far, are growing up to show signs of solid character and respect. They're gna be trouble, if they're anything like their parents... but we're ready for that, and we want that. Don't want pushovers as our kids. And we're gna adopt a couple more, too. We got lots of love, in this family.
Marriage is awesome.
And amazingly hot.
It's better than anything I could have imagined... and it just keeps getting better, too.
Don't know who I was in a previous life to deserve this, but, she must have been one champion boss bitch.6
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