My friend is getting married in a couple of months and told me confidentially that she didn't choose one of her friends to be a bridesmaid because her friend is fat and really annoyingly insecure about it (her words). She says she doesn't want to hear her friend endlessly shaming herself or have to pick another dress just for her because she knows she'll never wear it.
She said she didn't want this friend to feel self conscious around her other skinny bridesmaids or to have to feel bad in the dress she's choosing which is really form fitting. I asked if she knew this for a fact that her friend wouldn't want to be in the wedding b/c of that or was she just assuming, and she told me "she knows her," and so feels that this is the right decision.
- Meh, it's the brides day, she can pick whomever she wants to be in her bridal party regardless of the reason.63%(19)63%(24)Vote62%(5)
- I think the bride is in the wrong. At least she should ask her friend first and let her friend decide.27%(8)26%(10)Vote25%(2)
- I think the bride is being a good friend. If she says she knows the girl is super insecure, then she's just looking out for her10%(3)11%(4)Vote13%(1)
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I can totally see where she is coming from. If the friend is super insecure about her weight she's gonna be feeling extremely insecure wearing a bridesmaids dress in front of dozens of people and during pictures... and if she is the type who doesn't just suck it up but instead voices her insecurity constantly that's gonna get really annoying, really fast for everyone. I think the friend, the bride and the rest of the bridal party are better off with the decision she made.1