So I was registered on this matrimonial site as a free member just to check out the site and possibly meet new people. Soon enough some people tried to connect and since I was a free member the site wouldn't allow me to communicate with these people other than simply "expressing interest" to connect. Anyways, I liked a girl's profile who tried connecting, didn't bother much about it because it was just a casual thing and even her profile was on a free membership plan (which means you can only express interest and accept interest without sharing any communication details) and then recently I really got serious about finding a partner and got into this paid site and found that same girl again. This time though I noticed that the profile is managed by her parents. I checked back on the previous site and realized that on the other site too her profile was managed by her parents. I dont know how to approach this situation. I'm serious about looking for a partner but when parents get involved situation in my experience gets a bit dicey because of the pressure to take a decision on both parties. Also maybe its only the parents who liked my profile.. who knows such things? :P I'd still like to try my luck and go about this in the best possible way. Any suggestions?
Most Helpful Girl
Just send the first message, be polite to impress the parents obviously. After they reply, send your own reply but also bring this up. Just tell them you are very serious about settling down now and want to find a good wife. Tell them family is important to you, since both sides will now be related, but since you will eventually be living alone with your wife and possibly future children you also need to see how you get along together without outside input. You would like to meet their daughter as from her profile it sounds like she is a wonderful person who they have done a great job raising, and would like to take her out for dinner if they don't mind.
See if they will agree that way. Then you can start taking her out and getting to know her without the parents hanging around making it awkward and you can both be yourself more.1
Most Helpful Guy
I think in most matrimonial sites, profiles are managed by parents only it's unfortunate but true. Even I don't understand the reason, the logic behind that.
It is strange though. I am not sure how old this woman is but if she is in her mid 20's and if her parents are still managing her profile, then I would say that is not a good sign.
I mean she is an adult and her parents managing her profile could mean that they are either overprotective and have some influence on her decision making while choosing partners or it could mean that they are the decision makers and they want you to approach this woman through her.
In any case it's not a good sign.0