In young I mean between 18 and like 23
Most Helpful Guy
it is like anything else, if your commited enough, you can make it work. unfortunately, in this world we live in, kids see that it is easier to get a divorce then fight for your marriage like you should. Marriage is not easy. There is a lot of compromise. But it is worth it if you have the right person.
I met my ex on jan 10, 1989, went into the Air Force Feb 14, 1989, came home May 27 and proposed (3 day memorial day weekend). I was 20, she was 17.
But due to a number of things it ended up being 4 years before we actually got married in 1993. We were together 25 years and 4 days. We have 3 amazing boys. Unfortunately, her family is small and about 85% divorced. My family is very very big (through 3rd cousins) and I can count on 2 hands how many people are divorced out of a couple hundred. I was taught if you can fall in love, you can fix it and make it work. Only 1 family member that is in my parents generation is divorced. The divorce was her idea.
but I know 2 people that I went to school with. They dated back in elementary school. Sure they broke up a few times along the way but always ended up togther. By graduation from HS, they already had 1 child and another on the way. They are still together and doing well.1
Most Helpful Girl
My opinion is really good of young marriage, we just got married a year ago I wouldn't change it for anything in the world. We already decided we were getting married sooner or later, we chose sooner! We've been best friends since childhood. Met when he was six and I was five. He is the first guy I ever loved, I'm his first girl that he's loved, we're committed to be our last and only. We have no secrets, no past ugly relationships or breakups. We are realistic in our relationship, were viewing things exactly as they are. I've been in love with him since I was 14 or 15 it's only increased with time, his story parallels mine.
Both of our parents were married before they got out of college, they're still together so we have very positive role models to follow in their footsteps. Our parents have been and are very supportive of our relationship and marriage. We are both well aware that marriage in general isn't easy all the time, were willing to each put our 100% into the success of our marriage because neither of us wants to grow old with anyone else in the whole world.
As a young couple who want to marry you owe it to your future spouse to seek the best pre-marital counseling that you can. We chose a faith based counselor, one whom actually was very open and very frank with us. One thing he stressed during each time we met was if we were going to break up that it would be better if we broke up before we were married, not after. No shame, no hurt feelings, no regrets. We are totally happy that we were challenged as far as we were, it opened our eyes to many aspects of our relationship neither of us ever considered before that.
Marry him because you can't see yourself together loving anyone else forever. Marry for love, commit yourself to loving him with all your heart.
Answer the hard questions yourself, then together. Will you support him emotionally when he loses his job? When he fails? What if he is stricken with some horrible disease, will you stand by him? Will you stick with him if something happened and he could never work again? What if someone "better" comes along in five years, will you stand by your husband? Can you stay married and be happy? What if he gets old, fat and bald will you still be there? Now start thinking of the scenarios, the worse the better, will you still be there?
When you understand that marriage isn't always easy that it takes a lot of hard work and comittment, then you are ready to begin talking about it.1