I know its a risky question for a man and uncomfortable.
But what if your wife feels you are choosing them over her?
I never want him to "choose", but I am noticing more and more that he is..
he pays some of their rent- while we barely get by. His siblings say mean things to me and he doesn't hush them up. His family says downright awful things about my family for really no reasoning.. and he sides with them.
is it just me or is it looking like I am not priority? He definitely my number one priority. I have stopped helping my own family with money so him and I can be good. When my brother says anything about him or his family, I give him a good ass kicking.
we were amazing before marriage. And I really feel like he is picking them over me. Instead of finding a middle ground, he seems to have chosen.
Another small example- we didn't go on a honeymoon because his parents said they need him. We didn't move away like we originally planned because his parents said they need him. He is the only son, I understand that. But shouldn't he stand up to them sometimes?
I feel he needs to stand up for US.
the other day it was POURING and he said he would pick me up from work. He texts me 10mins before im off saying sorry he cannot because his parents need him. Little things like this.
if it were me, id be like "sorry mom and dad, its raining hard outside and I want my wife safe"..
is this too much to ask for? Am I really asking for too much?
I dont know how to approach him with this.
He is an amazing man besides all this. My childhood sweetheart and I love him more than anything.
I want to avoid looking like the naggy, annoying wife..
Most Helpful Guy
When I got married my parents, and in laws tried to decide for is and give us advice some was good , some was bad. I stood up and told my parents to stay out or else they would have problems with me. So they did. My father in law came up to me forcing me to marry my wife, I wanted to, but wasn't to sure she would be ok with my lifestyle (No career or stable job). He. Caught me in a bad time and I kind of got mad and did what I felt was right and didn't marry her., but we were already married by court downtown. 12yrs later he looks up to me a lot people tell him I done a lot for his daughter and them, I let her go to school and helped her through financially. Finally I regret not listening to my wife about marriage and now she doesn't care and I want to get married, she lost interest but still loves me she says0
Most Helpful Girl
When you marry someone, (with or without children) THEY are now your family...
If you saw he was like this, why would you marry someone expecting them to change? That should be addressed before marriage, if you cannot compromise, or reach a common ground, then marriage should never take place... so if you never really said anything before, and now after marriage you have a problem with it, it's basically your fault because you never told him this, therefore assuming it's not a problem... so complaining about it to him now could make anyone confused as to why would you expect a change when you married Gia person knowing how he is...
Anyway!!! If there are no children, it's easier to move on if in case it doesn't work out for you... but even though you should've addressed this marriage, I think you should just straight out say it.. everything!! And see what happens from there...1