I am seeing contrasting opinions on various etiquette sites.
in my opinion, bridesmaids are already shelling out lots of money on a dress, shoes, and other items relating to the wedding and, often, showers, Bachelorette parties, engagement parties, etc. So, I think that ought to exempt them from any social expectation to also give a gift.
- Bridesmaids should give a giftVote A
- Bridesmaids should not give a giftVote B
- It doesn't matter either wayVote C
I have accepted the honour of being a bridesmaid for my brothers fiancee. I have only met her once before when I visited this summer. I live on the other side of the country, meaning my boyfriend and I will be traveling for the wedding. Plane tickets will run us anywhere from $1200-1500 CAD for the two of us round trip. My dress, with alterations, will end up totaling about $300, plus shoes and other related costs. So altogether it's going to run me upwards of $1800 CAD.
Most Helpful Guy
in my recent experience (about 15 weddings in the last 10 years) no the bridal party is not expected to get a gift... that said there is nothing to say they can't. but as you said, the expectation is that (again in my experience) your gift is your time, effort, and money you invest in the special day.1
Most Helpful Girl
I've been a bridesmaid for my close friend, and this is what I suggest:
Give her something that is meaningful for her and you. Its only customary and respectful to give a gift for them to start their new lives with. It doesn't have to be expensive. A $20-$50 gift would be okay. Over $100, and its pushing it and says more about you and the one receiving the gift. For myself, I didn't have the finances to get my friend anything. She knows this, as we've been like sisters for years. And because I have been with her through many trails and tribulations, she got me a gift instead. I say to just get anything that's valuable, like a scrap book or something to put pictures in. You can't afford it. Don't over spend. Its a lot of money, especially with the alterations added on to it.0