Why are most men not interested in marraige in the US?

In my locality most of the men are not interested in marraige, you can say that it might be a small sample space to judge but according to stats only 48% adults in USA are married. Back in 70s it was 78%

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  • Because in the US men get screwed! And not in the good way! 😉 Laws need to change there to bring equality back to both sexes.

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  • Well, I've spoken to some men in the States, I'm not from there.

    What they say to me is that the women in the States are very entitled, when they themselves treat men like garbage.

    They tend to not have any other goals in their lives, other than wanting to land rich & wealthy men, i. e., they aren't goal-oriented, they don't have a strong sense of purpose & direction in life.

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    • "They tend to not have any other goals in their lives, other than wanting to land rich & wealthy men, i. e., they aren't goal-oriented, they don't have a strong sense of purpose & direction in life."

      That's the exact opposite of what's going on. They can't handle women who have goals and don't live to cook and clean for men.

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    • No offense but white women are very ball busting. I live in Canada I if I would ever date again I would avoid them. From what I hear it's the same. Large urban areas are a nightmare for dating especially for men. Men in Toronto have given up on dating it's mostly hook up here.
      Without trying to upset you that's why MGTOW exists. It's not blaming women but we are told we are blaming women.

    • @burpzzzzz - no prob. Always open to opinions. :-)

      Thanks for the enlightenment; & I'm sorry that women in your area or state treat you badly. I'd like to apologise to you & to the other men who are experiencing the same, on behalf of all women.

      I'm 110% certain that there are good women out there somewhere.

      I wish you all the best on your journey. :-)

  • A pen pal of mines from the state's told me it's because some women don't have plans but to latch on to a man with a good paying job no goals or ambitions and can be very ungrateful and pompous windbags why he called his ex wife that i don't know but it killed me 😂😂😂😅

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  • Men like control. It's hard to have control when women can earn a decent living and care for themselves without a male. Women today don't have to put up with their shit and don't.

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    • It use to be 2 roles. Now its more about teamwork filling both roles with both people semi equally. Many men don't want to deal with child care or cooking or cleaning. Their leverage is gone because women can make more money than men and often do despite the news (teachers, nurses, marketers, real estate, HR, insurance rep)

      Both people come home tired from their day of work but no one wants to clean, cook, or take care of kids. Women end up doing majority of the work (and turn into bitches)[rightfully so] and men don't like bitches. So they don't give them the ring they want.

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    • Good for you. Stay single and proud.

    • Your answer sounds more like a fundamentalist religious perspective. Guys who aren't religious aren't running around thinking "Gee, I need to get married so I can control some woman!" Most guys who aren't religious see marriage as a trap and doorway to pain and restriction. The law is not kind to men of means who marry and have kids. They are the ones who get fucked most of the time... Been there and done that...

  • hi, for me the idea of a partner who is with you purely for wanting to be with you without any imaginary or real (as in financial complications) ideals FAR out ways a partner who is there hanging on in there for the latter... marriage people forget was originally and always for gain and stability and advancement NEVER for love... if love or real attraction occurred it was rare and lucky, often a love and respect could grow over time. then it changed and now it fails so often... xx

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  • Men are no longer marriage minded (in the US at least) because marriages are no longer a successful venture. Marriage is a government certificate saying you are BOUND to someone. What if it doesn't work out? There's a 50% chance it won't. So that means you are risking all your financial capital on a woman who will get old, get ugly, get mean or annoying over time. Or worse, get tired of you and look for someone else. It's too risky, and there's more than one way to be monogamous. Women may not agree with this, but this is supposed to be from a man's perspective, after all.

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  • Most men actually are interested in marriage, they just have to reach a certain place in life where they feel ready to settle down. And they have to meet the right girl.

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    • That's true. Girls want me to commit to them now, but there's no way I could forgo all other options at this point. My sex drive is seriously off the charts

  • I'd say its because men are also more independent and no longer NEED a wife to take care of them.

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    • I'd also say people are choosing to be in de facto relationships rather than marrying. Perhaps because people are less religious and don't see the need?

    • Like yourself?

    • I've been with my SO for 4 years. We have talked about marriage, but don't plan on it any time soon. I never thought I valued the concept of matriage, but I'd like to eventually make our commitment "official" oe day.

  • which leaves 52 percent= singles who remain as single a celibate or those who do casual sex or couples in common law marriages. Statistics is hardly correct.

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    • what is the reason no one wants to get married?

    • because of plenty of fishes mentality which is flawed. :)

    • a lot of people get divorced. 75% of mariages go down the shitter nowadays. So not a lot of people taking the risk. Its logical though as it can have serious economical problems to get divorced. Compare it to parachute diving. If 3 out of 4 parachutes wouldn't open, most people wouldn't go anymore. Same thong for mariages, except for death, it's economical problems.

  • Economic crash.
    The vanishing Middle Class.
    Cultural revolution of the 70's.
    Death of Nuclear Family.
    The increasing number of adult males and females with a child's mindset.

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  • You have to have the mindset of a husband and a mindset of a wife you can't be living in girlfriend and boyfriend mindset. You get what you seek out

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  • Because in most cases divorce comes after marriage, my guess.

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  • Men say it's because if they get divorced then they get the crap end of the stick.

    I don't know if I could be with someone who didn't want to get married. I want to raise children with my husband, as a family. I want grow with my husband. Not raise children with my live-in boyfriend...

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  • Maybe they don't want long term commitment. They don't want to be "tied down" like that. Plus if it doesn't work out then there's divorce, which is long and expensive and may not give them a fair deal

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    • Yea indeed. A very big chances for mariages to go wrong, about 3 in 4 go down the shitter nowadays.

  • Because they just want to sleep around. Nothing more.

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    • I don't... But I am a loser 32 year old virgin. I want a companion so I can hopefully have the happy family I want for my life.

    • I have zero intention of getting married yet im absolutely committed to my girlfriend and intend to spend the rest of my life with her... but sure, share your gross generalisations about the filth that is the male populous

  • commitment and "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?"

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  • its really sad... i guess its due to cohabitation and also some people are scared of divorce

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  • Be ause a lot of people are no longer waiting for marriage to have sex. Sex id what makes marriages. Everything a woman should offer in marriage she's already given to him before marriage. So what does a woman have to offer Now? Men in our country no longer want l to sacrifice. Now it's at the expense of the woman. Destroying families and why we have an increase of single parenthood and kids out of wedlock. Plus they fear marriage. Their afraid to lose. And they want to know why some women are dating out of the country.

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    • Wow you must think pretty lowly of yourself if you think sex is everything you have to offer someone...

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    • I wasn't her maid of honor for nothing. I was her maid of honor because I stayed true to her as a friend, sister, and confidant. I fought for her when others didn't. I tolerated all of her dating mistakes when I didn't need to. And if she was to comment now, she would tell you everything I SAID to her in the past was true. She didn't listen to me from time to time either. A lot of people in my life and crossed my path didn't either. Until it happened. I already knew.

    • But I had to leave it up to them to figure it out. Sometimes a lot of people must go through so much hell just to learn. While others go through hell and never learn and sadly die that way. I've also seen it happened. But wise people listen the first time.

  • I don't think you can pin point any particular reason. Yeah you may hear a lot of the same sort of stuff (particularly if you hang around certain websites... ahem... Reddit... ahem) but one guy's reason is often totally different from another's. But I think for a lot of people (not just men) it's not as that important anymore. Especially those who aren't very religious. More and more people are choosing cohabitation over marriage. Also some people just aren't into human relations at all. Let alone marriage. We've definitely become far more antisocial than ever before.

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  • Not all women want to marry either.

    Also you didn't consider that gay marriage is only recently legal

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  • Because it's a legally acceptable way to indulge sex? Can't tell

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  • Because marriage is only of benefit for the woman. The man gets nothing and loses everything. 26 years taught me that. It was painful to end it, but the scab had to get pulled off

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  • Look at the laws and what feminism has done to the bulk of our women and you'll see how the benefits simply doesn't outweigh the costs. Many of the dudes I see that's sealed the deal aren't the ones driving the car or perhaps not bringing home the bacon. A good bulk of other dudes I see that's sealed the deal actually have a beautiful wife. The rest look destroyed, smothered, and cucked.

    So as a young dude that's managing and taking care of himself just fine... and you're only choices are fat, nasty, and probably a female chauvinist simply because you don't happen to be as sexy as I am (even then, few and far between, to find a decent all around deal of a woman)... why not just enjoy some video games and not bog your life down with a nagg that will have you develop a drug/alcohol problem?

    I'm not far from my 40's, and I'm simply shaking my head at the looks of some of these triggly puffs. Then out of the fuckable ones, they have to open their mouths and speak... uuuuugggghhh. I'd go MGTOW if I was part of this upcoming generation. No joke.

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  • It's turned into a scamming of men due to the divorce rules set by feminist lawyers. The best that can come out of it is to stay with her, the worst is that you're screwed for at least 18 years and lose half your stuff immidiatly. Really not a good thing, pretty sad.

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  • Because marriage is a high risk low reward for men. Opposite for women.

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  • Because a lot of women in our generation aren't women, they want all of the benefits of marriage and none of the return. Plus divorce and custody in the states drastically favor the mother over the father in almost 90% of all cases.

    I lucked out, I married a good conservative girl from a small town.

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    • And let's not forget, 70% of all divorces are started by women, and of that 70% 90% of them end up the man having to pay child support on a child which he never gets to see.

      Or the USdoj statistic which says in 50% of those cases the man is having to pay support on a child that is not his.

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    • Conservative states actually have higher divorce rate.

    • That's irrelevant, to my statement honestly, and I could honestly care less @oram52

  • Marriage is antiquated and its importance is overstated. Finding love in life is as significant as ever in my opinion but if you seek out marriage from all relationships then you're doomed to failure.

    True love is more than marriage and you don't need it for success and happiness in life. You don't need to be married to raise happy and healthy children. You don't need to be married to have a family and build a life with someone.

    You do need marriage for lots of financial benefits though.

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  • Marriage is meant to be an unbreakable contract so that you and your spouse can bond and help each other become better. If there is a way out, then it loses much of it's potency.

    These days, if it does end, women always get the upper hand. And even if it doesn't, women tends to have the power

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  • That statistic isn't relevant towards the claim that most men aren't interested. Merely suggests that fewer men are married/getting married as in the past. That's largely related to economic reasons. The age at which people moved out of their parents home also went up substantially since the 70s. We had the housing crisis. That's on top of having more access to dating options. Less reason to get married.

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  • One, divorce ends in men paying half. Two, women probably fucked so many men, they do not see the point anymore. I myself am starting to lean on the side of not getting married. Marriages are suppose to be about purity and stuff. I had a couple of friends who mom got married 4 or 5 times. She had 4 or 5 kids also. Real quick im taking a guess on reason number 2

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  • you do realize those statistics are skewed. Back in the 1970s divorces were shamed and done in secret. Especially if they were religious families. Today with social media and all, it's way more publicized. You're gonna have to provide modern stats to support your claim.

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  • Probably because it has less and less social or cultural value in our society, and the benefits are small while the risk of financial ruin is extremely high along with the rates of divorce.

    after all, the number one cause of divorce is marriage.

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  • I would like to get married, but I would first like to kick start my career so I can support that special someone. But given the break world examples of women I see and even live with. Dating would be the hardest part that personally wouldn't want to even try. It may sound like an oxymoron, but given the women I have met in different places and how they act, it kinda scares me.

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  • Divorce rates are high. Plus the courts are quite unfair to guys and children during divorce. Hence some are pessimistic about marriage. I am optimistic about my chances of a good marriage. we are keen on not repeating the mistakes of our parents

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  • Marriage is an outdated tradition. Most of the typical traditions people follow only exist because at some stage companies realised they could take advantage of the fact that most people get married. But what actually changes when you do get married? Nothing! Other than the fact that you might lose half your shit in a divorce. Id much rather live with my partner and love her than spend a fortune on some backwards ceremony just to be able to use the husband/wife labels. Luckily my girlfriend completely agrees. Marriage doesn't prove love. It doesn't prove commit. It doesn't prove anything other than an ability to spend money. So if that's your thing, great. I will be opting out and I completely understand why others would do so

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  • I think it's that girls reach the stage of wanting to get married before guys, which is why they always find guys that don't wanna get married because the guys are normally not emotionally ready as early as the girls are

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  • these days, a lot of people are more interested in hook ups and casual sex. This generation is entirely fucked up man, if you search about the 70's and 80's there weren't much divorces, back then, people knew how to make their marriage work.

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    • First of all, if I could link in posts I would show you that statistically - our generation is having less casual sex then EVER

      And 2, there were less divorces in the 70s and 80s because it was illegal back then - more divorces are a good thing because it means that people aren't staying in bad relationships that don't work

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    • This notion that people have to work hard to make a marriage work is nonsense - it's a relationship, not a job. If its a quality relationship it should just work without trying.

    • @Zaykums1 Doesn't matter if its a quality relationship or not. problems are always gonna come in life, and in every relationship, you have to work your ass off to make the relationship work, if you really love your partner, then you would work your ass of to make the relationship work, otherwise, you will find someone else and make excuses. Now if a partner cheated, then in that case i can understand Divorcing. but these days, in many most cases, a couple has problems, they fight with each other a lot, so they divorce. if they could just talk to each other, and find the solution to the problem, compromise, sacrifice, then they wouldn't have to divorce.

  • Coz usa is fucked up and everyobe hates em and usa is the same as what u call "devils home" .. if there was no marriage.. than family trees would be lost af

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  • What was it my exs do?

    Oh thats right my last 2 exs didn't want to marry me, and they cheated on me on a 2y and 4y relationship.
    Might i add these same 2 girls complained about men breaking there hearts.

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    • That sucks hope you found someone that treats you right that doesn't cheat.

  • Marriage is a huge risk for a man. With one sided divorce laws, how can you blame them?

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