I for one would date to be out there and soon someday find someone who is serious and wants to marry me. I am saving myself (no sex, and this might be much, no tongue kissing because I do not want to get too attached because if he ends up dating other girls while I am dating him I want to be completely okay with it because it is just dating there is no real commitment in it, I can go on a date with another guy if I want also because it is just dating no vows or promises). These are things that I was taught and am fighting to stick to. But I wonder why people do the different. I feel like having sex creates an emotional attachment that when a breakup occurs results in emotional sorrow beyond that of a mere date with a peck or hand hold. This can lead to a frenzy or worse (watch the news). I have just wondered why people put themselves through this, why not wait for marriage, if he cares about your feelings and morals won't he propose? I mean I am not telling you to bug your boyfriend to marry you because this is of his own accord and you would be out of line, but at least deny him this precious (in my opinion one of your most precious to give) as some call it, flower. I mean marriage does not mean he won't cheat, but if you are married for the right reasons and truly feel and want to honor those vows, than I would feel more trust along with self-worth. I am not putting down anyone, live how you want this if but an inquire. Sex to me is a dopamine shot that can become addictive, but it holds no commitment to it you can get this from anyone, you can't hold someone to their word because there is no word to be upheld.
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I think some people are designed more for permanent long term relationships and other people for hookups and short term flings. It's been suggested that having sex with a lot of people ruins one's capability to bond intimately with a member of the opposite sex. Women who wait until marriage to lose their virginity have the highest chance of a successful marriage.
That being said, I could never support marriage. For one, it's a state sponsored contract that turns the entire gesture into a gamble. "I bet [this much money] that my relationship isn't going to fail." And another thing: marriage doesn't signify anything. Any two shitheads can get married to each other and divorce in a month. If two people love each other above all else they shouldn't need a ring, a ceremony, or new titles to prove it. They shouldn't even have to prove it. If you need to "put a ring on it" to prevent a woman from walking away, then that means that she probably won't make the best partner for the rest of your lives.1
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