Is it normal that I never felt sexual attraction to my husband?

I see other guys and I want to have sex with them but they’re usually all bad to me. My hubby is a good man and i love him but I don’t get aroused as much. He also has a hard time staying hard for me. Is this normal?

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  • I'd say no being that most people who marry don't marry someone they're not willing or attracted enough 'to love and to hold' and if you'd rather sleep with other men than your husband then I don't believe that the marraige is right for you. If you're serious about being with him for the rest of yoyr life it's probably a good idea to sort this out with him even if it means viagra and/or couples therapy

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  • If sex is important to you (and it should be,) what are you doing to address the problems with your husband? There is nothing good that will come from you thinking about fucking other guys.

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    • 4d

      I asked him if he needed anything to help but he said no. I’m just fantasizing about other men during sex to help me going.

    • 4d

      His answer is a non-answer. You should insist that he have a physical exam to determine whether there is a physical cause. If it is not physically caused, you should both go to a sex therapist.

  • The way i see it, your husband is simply not attractive enough. Its not normal, but that doesn't mean its not justified

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  • Perhaps you married Mr right now, and then don't respect him or resent him for not being Mr right.

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  • It isn't normal. You married a wrong person of you are not attracted to him.
    First step of relationship is attraction (that's what everyone focus before starting a relationship).
    You must not be attracted towards any other person after your marriage except your partner.
    It's ok that he is a good man but that doesn't mean he don't have any sexual desire.
    If you have those feelings for other men & you were not able to control yourself, then you will cheat your husband.
    You must feel that for your partner.

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  • It's not normal. Depends if it's his first experience. Ok here goes, I am in a monogomous relationship fron the beginning when I first tried to had sex, I thought it was a easy thing, I really loved her, got aroused but, it was hard for me to stay hard, I found nothing wrong with my sex drive, I do find my wife extremely attractive. But after a few months, it was hard to stop not getting hard and still going hard. The magic is foreplay, try it, see what helps him to keep it hard, may be you will be aroused doing it too. But if both of you have problem having sex and keep attraction for a long time. Seek professional help.

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  • Why did you marry him then?

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    • 4d

      Because I lost my virginity to him and felt guilty

  • Maybe ask him to smack you around.

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  • Did you have premarital sex?

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    • 4d

      Yes, and I never enjoyed it. I even questioned my sexuality because he didn’t do anything for me. When we talked about it he said it’s normal and girls don’t really like sex so I just went along with it until we got married. Then at my best friend’s bachelorette I was really turned on by the male strippers and been fantasizing about other men during sex ever since.

    • 4d

      Maybe you need two drinks to loose up

  • You should try some role-playing or something.

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  • You guys should have sex in the UFC octagon!

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  • l dony know why

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  • Yes its normal. Nobody can get everything that they want. Only a few luck people do.

    But i hate what you said! "I see other guys and I want to have sex with them "

    I hate that line.

    You should rather say that you're physically attracted to other men.

    Physical attraction is not necessary in a marriage.

    What's necessary? BEING RESPONSIBLE.& BEING HAPPY.

    Yeah. If your husband takes ryour responsibilities, then it's all awesome.

    Please , feel "satisfied" in what you have. Everyone doesn't get what you have.

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    • 4d

      If physical attraction is so etging that matters to you, then You shouldn't have married him in the first place if you didn't feel atrracted to him.

      Try to make your swxual life intresting and make sure no 'third person' gets involved in your sexual life.

  • Likely means you're not as in to him as you thought you were, and that you got married WAYYYYYYYY TOO YOUNG, as I see you're 18-24

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