Most Helpful Guy
If he was just using her then that would raise two important questions:
1. if he is just using her to buy him things then why isn't he still spending some time with you and the kids? I'm assuming he's probably not as affectionate to you?
2. If he is just using her to buy him things then why is he being such a parasitical piece of shit? Is this really someone who is a good husband and father, is this the type of person that you committed to marrying 9 years ago?
Time to call him out on his bullshit, tell him to stop seeing them and insist that you guys get some relationship counselling. Good luck.
Most Helpful Girl
Something is obviously wrong and I wouldn't believe either of them. I wonder how her boyfriend is so chill about this