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I suppose so. Got a good family with no drama in it, no criminal records or bad vices. I cook and clean, I work and have no debts. I tend to be very affectionate and caring, been told I have a gentle soul. Like to read and really prefer watching TV with someone, else I ain't watching anything. Love LOVE getting lost in a city. Only problems i can think of isI don't talk much, I prefer listening and I tend to be forgetful or absent minded, and I'm not a perfectionist, as in if it works it works mentality. Not really sure what makes a good spouse though, i never tried to look for someone before.
My wife thinks I am :-)
My desire is too one day be a great spouse. Im not going to pretend I'm perfect because I'm far from that. But I would strive to be the best wife I can with God's help
@Renee93 You will one day, god willing. I shall say a prayer for you.
Awww thank you @JimboGB 😍😚🙂
I’m not sure I would, I’m very traditional and not many men are anymore, so it would probably bother them.
I'd like to think so, but there are many things about me I know aren't easy to deal with. So, it's just a matter of finding someone that would want to.
@loveisbeautiful Like what?
@bklynbadboy1 Well for one my anxiety when a person doesn't have it, it can be hard to understand and not everyone wants to deal with it. For two, the fact that I don't feel good a lot. I imagine no one wants to deal with that either.
I feel you
Hell yeah. It’s literally my dream to be a great husband and father. In that order. I’ve basically spent my whole life getting myself ready. Everything I’ve ever accomplished or overcame was so I could be what I believed to be a “great” husband and father. For the longest time I’ve always believed that there was this “person” waiting on me. Like this feeling in my gut. Even now she’s out there growing and learning, becoming the person I’ve dreamed of for the longest time.I’ve lived my life pushing myself past my best constantly, trying to become my absolute best for the moment we cross paths. I know that she’ll be stunning. So I workout consistently and take care of myself. I also know that she will be smart, so I keep my brain healthy too. In order to be a great provider I’ve planted seeds in the past that are starting to sprout. My credit score is great. I have no debt. Next year I’ll have a degree, career and my first home. My biggest source of motivation is this gut feeling that tells me she’s out there and I’ll need to be ready. I even work on my spirituality and mental health. I promised myself I would never marry until I’m completely ok with myself. Because my fear is, I won’t be able to attract her if I don’t but also, I will pass on my current battles onto my children. In order to be a GREAT husband/father, I myself need to first be GREAT. I’m getting there. Slowly but surely. There’s way too little space on this for me to write about it. I might do a Mytake on it.
Yes I do. I did. If by good spouse you mean loving, caring, affectionate, passionate, never forgetting an anniversary or birthday, caring encouraging little notes, little surprises here and there,. If you mean making meals and getting up most nights to feed the baby and rock her back to sleep, if you mean wiping away tears and being there through thick and thin, if you mean all that then yes I was a good spouse. It probably helped that I was a bit of a pleaser so yeah I was a good spouse for like 17 years. However it took me a long time to realize all that doesn't equate to love well loving completely. But if given the chance with the right person again, and learning from my past experiences, I know if make another good spouse 😀
Yes I do. I was raised with good morals and ethics and I put God first in my life. I have spent years learning about who i am as a person and made a run of mistakes in the process. I have also spent years learning about women and how to better communicate on multiple levels. Consider myself to be honest, loyal, hard working, intelligent with a good sense of humor and zest for life. I am excited to be a husband and looking forward to working with one special person the build a family and spend the rest of our lives enjoying life.
Very good question - I think everyone has a different opinion on what is a perfect spouse would be - I am quite serious and a bit of a perfectionist so I would be very demanding so that might seem full on to some but I am ten times as harsh on myself, I would only expect of others what I give myself so I would be all in.Some might definitely think so serious and others might value my commitment. I would want to raise my game but I like to think she would raise her game as well.So my answer is a qualified yes
No, I don't know how to cook, I don't have a career yet (I work, but I'm not old enough to start working on my career yet), I have to devote 2 hours per day at specific times to treatment which limits my time significantly, my looks are average, I'm funny but not very funny, and my lifespan is cut in half due to a chronic condition. It is for these reasons that I've never even been on a date and likely will never have a girlfriend because there's always several guys with better qualities and no disadvantages out there no matter how much I improve, I can't makeup for those things.
Yeah, I guess so. Let's pro/con it.Pros:-Love cooking.-Very loyal. Like... Crazy so-Love kids. (Mine, of course)-Willing to do things she likes-Love going outdoors-Very supportive of her hopes and dreams-Will remind her she's great-Will stand by her side-Will try to improve myself for us-Will protect her by whatever means necessary-Honest-WarmCons:-Can be neurotic sometimes-Quick to anger, hot-tempered.-Can lash out without intention-Sometimes over-indulgent-Can be quite cold when angry-Have high expectations of everyone (including myself)
I know i would. I love hard. I fuck harder. Haha lemme stop!! I think i have a good sense of humor as well. Im super caring and would make a good mother too. Im hardworking and make my own dough to put in my share of the support. Im also good with saving and money management. Im wild but sweet. And super talkative yet ditzy
Not dont stop that a good thing
Nah, my wife is the good one. Can't have two good spouses in one marriage.To be fair though, I do cook most of the meals and I kiss her every day. I'm not completely horrible as a spouse, but there's a lot of room for improvement. Of course, being a good spouse isn't just about you. Some people are hard to be a good spouse to, either because they don't communicate, or because they're not a good spouse themselves.It takes two to make a good spouse.
I think I would make a good spouse, ya. I'm quite the romantic type of girl, I'm very caring and compassionate, very supportive as well. I'm always able to make my fiancé happy and feel so loved. I'm a very affectionate person as well and I work hard without giving up. Can't wait to get married :)
Yes, I know I would be. However, I don't know too many men that are good spouses, and that includes the ones I know that are married. A lot men expect their wife to do everything: cook, clean, raise the kids, attend parent/teacher conference, be sexy, make the most compromises, etc. However, they don't put in nearly as much effort.As a teacher, I see it in the parents of my students, too. The mother is the involved one with sports (unless it's football) and is the only one who ever checks on the kid's progress at school and the one who tends to the house. Even their kids say it in class whenever we read about stories that discuss this stuff. All the dads do is complain to me that the mom doesn't tell them what's going on as if they're incapable of logging into their child's grades online and seeing it themselves.I'll be a good spouse, but I refuse to be a good spouse to an unworthy man. I do not want a man like the fathers of most of my students.
"Do you think you would make a good spouse"? Absolutely not. Reason? Because I value my freedom FAR more than a CLOSED RELATIONSHIP. Especially one where you are stuck with each other! (A pie in the face is no better than no pie at all). I make a great wonderful boy friend though, (until she hurts me inside), then the devil enters me like nothing you could imagine! (A great fall-back is that I am very "thin skinned" and take things extremely personally!)
I cook, I clean, I know when it's time to put down the video games and focus on other work/tasks, I have a work ethic whether its a job or at school, taking psychology courses in high school and university I know how to be compassionate and listen and try to rectify issues. I want to be the type of parent who will be strict when it comes to doing school work but also give them space, get them involved in sports, take them on vacation, reward them for their academic success, make them laugh even if they are having a bad day. As for being a husband, I would never cheat, I would make sure I cook and clean to help my wife out and do special things for her. But the thing about marriage and being a good spouse, God will test us, and it's important to pray for proper health (both mental and physical) we will be tested financially, spiritually, morally, ethically and etc.
Yes , I believe I do... I’m very thoughtful , and understanding to a lot. I am a very romantic guy with an understanding of timing as well. (Ie. Random Tuesday you’ll find flowers and your favorite snack put together with a sappy note. ) I’m human so I have my flaws and they will be broadcasted. But I will make it my duty for my good to out way my bad.
yea, pretty good. but I know I have flaws and can be difficult at times, so it takes tolerance. one example is... I don't always have my phone on... so don't expect instant response/always available. That drives some people nuts...
I think so. Even though i'm still young but i consider myself responsible and 70% able to take care of my husband and me in the future.I think what makes you a good spouse is valuing your family and looking forward to put their comfort before your own.
I believe i would. I have many weaknesses, but i know im the type of person who really want to discuss problems openly. I have that ability. One on one, sitting on a table, and do talk like an adult. Solve the problem immediately. The words i say could be sharp and i would cry if i am emotional. But no screaming, no yelling, no throwing things. I hate that. I want a pure understanding & loving discussion and problem solving.
Ha. Nah. I have thing about settling down and living out my days as a happy wife. I feel I wouldn't be happy that way. I'd have to find someone I could marry that didn't want children and loved to never stay in one place.
Hmm... i dunno. I'm funny, confident, outgoing, smart, apparently good in bed 😂.But at the same time, i can be anxious easily, and get angry easily sometimes (bad tempered), but I'd never abuse someone. I've also got high functioning autism. So i think that I'd be hard to deal with lol.
Yes. I can cook, clean, raise a child, i go to work, im patient and understanding. Im a God in the bedroom. I have so much love to give but haven't found one worthy enough to give it to
I definitely think I would yeah, for various reasons like being extra devoted, open when it comes to issues (I hate lying) and my high amounts of empathy, as well as other reasons but I don't wanna come off as conceited.
Nah I’d be horrible. I’m not wifey material. Just not built that way. The single life suits me perfectly ☺️
I've been told so by both girls and guys so I guess yes
Provided my spouse is good enough, yes, definitely.
Yes I know I will. I'm independent, responsible, smart, loyal, kind, caring, loving, affectionate, sweet, a hard worker, supportive, fun, and have a good sense of humor. I'm also very good when it comes to money and I would make a great mom one day.
I'm not 100% sure but i just hope i am. I know i love him and spending time with him cause makes me happy and i often support what he wants to do so hopefully that will be enough to make him happy as well.
No. Although I am very loyal, I am also very hard to live with. I have exceedingly odd sleep patterns - I generally nap a few times per day rather than a solid 6 to 8 per night. I like everything EXACTLY where I put it. I am a clean freak. When I am working on music I cannot be bothered unless the house is on fire or someone is bleeding out.
I used to think that I would, I still think that I could, if I didn't have terrible anxiety. As long as my anxiety isn't going away I'm not very optimistic about being a good wife.
Yes, because I am honest, loyal, and have genuine interest in bringing the best out of my hypothetical spouse.
I certainly would have before I tossed the idea of marriage to the side for good. It'd take a heck of a woman to make me even want to reconsider marriage.
Not sure, honestly. I'm extremely opinionated and hard headed, so that may not work very well. On the other hand, I'm extremely loving, caring, and loyal. I guess it would just take the right person.
Yes. I am fiercely loyal, protective, affectionate andpossessive over those I care about.Having said that, I know it will take a certain character and mentality to be capable of putting up with me lol.
I think those are wonderful attributes 😊
Thank you @Renee93 . I shall scroll down and hopefully find your comment.
I think I would mostly because I'm a pretty flexible and understanding person and I was raised being the only man in the house, so I know I bit about what to expect about living with one for as long as marriage lasts.
I'm not trying to make this sound like Bestiality or anything... But I think a Dog's personality is perfect for a Spouse; Loving on you all the time, but keeps you around for comfort and happiness, quite clingy, and hungers for attention!
Oops... That wasn't the question! I hope with EVERYTHING I am that I would make a good Spouse! To be honest, I PRAY most every day that I will be an Angel to my Future Girl!
Yeah if she was a good match for me. For some people I would be highly compatible and it would work great, but for others I would be very incompatible.
Optimistically I'd like to say yes but, historically speaking that has not been the case. I get the romantic gestures right but fail at the day to day.
I already know I make a good spouse, because I was. Unfortunately, she wasn't. I wish I could find someone who recognizes and matches me.
The best shame no woman will give a guy like me who looks like a "muslim guy" a chance. But their loss.
135% sure that's not the reason.
@GreenPenguin Oh trust me you would be 200% sure if you were me.
Well you can't be spouse material without first being boyfriend material and I've yet to make it that far at age 30 and after around 70 dates.
Yeah for my current boyfriend and future husband 😍 I am living for the day we will marry
Id be pretty good except the being attractive part. I can do the rest
Yes i think i would make a good spouse. Yes i am loyal , affectionate , loving , caring , honest
Maybe. I can guarantee that 5 or 10 years ago the answer was no. I was much more apathetic, and far less attentive to almost every situation.
I am an agreeable man so I get along well with people that are ambitious and go getters. So if my wife is that then we will be good
Yeah. I would be a great loyal wife. I live by the motto If his balls are empty and his stomach is full he is a happy husband.
Tbf its difficult to go wrong there exept your missing one thing affection sometimes us guys just like to cuddle and spend time with the one we love
People say I do.. bu I still think I have a few things to work on first.
i think i would mean a good spouse I'm not like most men so I think that would help
No, I'm too self centered, and like to put myself first.
Hahahaahahahaha hahahahahahahaha HAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHA Me being married is like a the bottom of the ocean You’ll never see it 😂
Doubtful. I need my space and feel like I'd be too neglectful to be in a functional relationship with someone.
yes, very much a good one. although i can be stubborn, etc, i know i would be a good wife if my husband was always there for me, in which case i’d always be there for him
Sometimes no matter how good you are you are never good enough for someone.
sadly that's true
Is being a good spouse different from being a good partner in general?
Yes. I’m loyal, supportive, ambitious and caring... Its hard finding someone who wants the same tho.
Yes it is and your the first girl to say something positive about herself
I thought so. Women, as a collective, did not share that view.
I thought I was my wife disagreed. I guess I really wasn't always right
Ofc I would make an awesome wife my boyfriend just to close minded to realize it
Yes cus im a good guy n care ab others feelings n always want to do new things n grow n life 😁
No, there's nothing that can satisfy a married woman. Nothing is ever good enough.
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