So I was with him for about 3 years.
Things were going good.
He always made it a point to let me know that the woman he marries will be the only one he is ever with so if she died, he claims he will never be with a woman again out of respect, love, and loyalty.
I know most guys think it sounds like B.S but it is a tradition in his family so I do believe him when he says this to me.
He also made it a point to let me know that we were going to get married (without even asking for my opinion!) lol
Well, I think it is perfectly fine to remarry. Also, I didn't think he was the one for me. I loved him dearly, but didn't see my self marrying the guy.
I didn't know how to respond without hurting his feelings about his strong beliefs on marriage and marrying me. Also, he never asked me for my opinion on neither!
As a result, I guess he went around with the assumption that I had the same beliefs.
As I got to know him, I also realized he was very jealous and controlling. So our relationship was like a damn roller coaster! We would break up all the time and then get back together.
The last time I broke up with him, I thought we were done for sure so I actually started dating since I was single right?! lol
And I met a really nice guy who I ended up having sex with.
A few months later I started talking my ex again and he asked me if I had dated or had sex with any one and I told him yes since I did right?! Ha Ha!
He got so angry with me and accused me of being a CHEATER!
He said he didn't see or talk to any one because he was still in love with me and getting over our break up.
So WTF I wasn't even with him?!
Now he always tells me he can't trust me and that I broke all the "trust" between us.
I don't consider this cheating! I WASN'T with him! I think he's just jealous
What do you girls and guys think?
PLEASE HELP! I am so confused!
Most Helpful Girl
He is just being jealous. He "loved" you (I use that word loosely here seems more like a controlling obsession, very unhealthy, please don't go back to that) and when you guys broke up that time he thought it would be like the others so he didn't want you to see any one else. Truth is you did nothing wrong. You didn't like him that much, he wasn't a good guy (he sounds a little creepy to me, no offense) for you to date so you broke up and moved on. Just because he can't get over you doesn't mean the opposite is true. You had every right to go out, date, f*** or do whatever with who ever you wanted. Don't feel like you're in the wrong because you're not. Screw him, he clearly needs... Some kind of help though I couldn't begin to guess what if he thinks that he's still in charge of you/owns you when you're not together.
You don't want him as a friend anyway so shrug him off and move on, he's not for you and you don't need his approval or friendship, there are a lot better people out there and, lets be honest, we all know it.
So don't you dare even think about feeling bad, you did nothing wrong, okay?0