I have 7 rings and am single
I know this is just the way women are, but it feels so objectifying. A man can just pick a woman, love her for her and stick by her, yet a woman has all these check lists, tests and qualifiers a guy has to pass before she considers loving him for him, and sticking by him. She's a human being in his eyes, but he's a human doing first and foremost in her eyes. And he still has to look good.
Sorry, I just thought this question was interesting because women just have this mentality. She may not even like a guy but once she sees that he is with someone, suddenly she thinks more highly of him and may even find him attractive. And your comment is honest enough to reveal this.
@Lightning8 well i am curious as to your reaction to someone that's divorced? without children or with children?
@Sevenpointfive he was once married. That still factors but just less so. He was at least once what the original comment describes, and maybe he can be that again.
@Lightning8 i see it as worse. she didn't want him for a reason, so why should you? divorced with kids is better in my opinion because at least they tried beyond a normal breakup
@Sevenpointfive I think it can be either one. I don't disagree with that take
@Lightning8 yep, i think it comes down to a personal distinction but it is interesting
@Sevenpointfive yeah, it's like the objective is the same, but the thinking may vary. Checklist first, then consider loving him for him. It's just what I notice
@Lightning8 If you’re going to be in a committed, long-term relationship with someone it’s important to consider practicality along with emotion. Whether or not he makes me feel good can’t be the only consideration.
@thegirlfromthething My approach is I can take care of myself. If she is able and/or willing to take care of herself, then after that, the particulars don't really matter, such as education, job, social status. If two adults care about each other, then they can make it work.
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I think you've hit the nail on the head, I'm married and wouldn't think about flirting with a single person but would possible flirt a little with married woman if I got the right signals
Well that makes girls want to try harder because of the fact that you can just have him at the ease of a finger motion
Thus why some marriages end a certain way with cheating or even sometimes why a woman would check a mans phone because she knows that girls dont always respect boundaries
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