Dear , getting married is not all about sex and children. Rest I'm agree with your statement
Well you can't expect everybody to want premarital sex or children out of wedlock either and I am one of those people. Better to walk forwards than backwards. And marriage is all about sex. Its not happiness. Thats something you already have for yourself and you share it with your spouse together. When you say stuff like that, that's why nobody wants to take you seriously.
That's why I never dated anyone or had sex before marriage because I don't play those games with men who wouldn'ttake life seriously, but wants to screw you over because their screwed up. Everybody can do what they please, but when life doesn't go the way they want it, can't say nobody told them so.
Most don't friends got married at 18 through 24, and have kids, is happily married, no cheating involved. While most who do what your saying never really got what they wanted or is badly struggling to maintain or get. It's not a joke. That's how one of my friends divorced her husband because of the same thing. Unwillingness to take it SERIOUSLY. Women especially have 0 time for that. I known what I wanted. And what I needed. I had plenty of guys not ant to marry me but wants sex in dating. Then say I'm not worth dating or marrying or have kids with and nobody else well. Well congrats. You guys hot what you wanted and is left with more women who plays games, play with your emotions, trick you into marriage or kids and will yiur either left with nothing they cheat or your used up sexually as much as they are that NOW women like me wouldn't dare touch you within a 10 foot pole. It's about choices in life. And the choices you make can either help or hinder. Healthy marriages start younger in age as long as both parties are mature and understand what is required of each other for a successful relationship and union. It doesn't just benefit the couple it benefits society. Which also means society can better serve you as a citizen.
Don't Believe the myths or else you will be another statistic with a divorce and unhappy wife who also many be the mother of your children. If your ready for marriage, and you want it, go for it! Or get mad of somebody else do the job you won't do. And you'll end up with nothing while everybody else is moving on woth life. Life is far too short. There is no guarantee you'll live to 30 or even 50 these days. My mother died at 44, she was 20 when she got married to my dad. Proof live is too short.
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Look, you take me in a wrong way. Well i'm 23 years old and going to be 24 soon. I tried a lot to get married but she was not ready just because I'm not financially stable. Why man? What's my fault in this. Even I'm ready to do more hard work and tried a lot to save our relationship tbh, I wanted to spend my whole life with her. But at the end she left me. And one more thing we had spend 5 years together and never had sex. Sounds Strange yes I knw but it's a damn truth of my life.
You know why it is, because you had fun when you was a little boy all the way up until you're eighteen to figure out what you wanted to do. Okay? That's your responsibility. A woman seeks a man with Provisions, that's what a man is supposed to do. The fact that she felt that you were not suitable was the right decision. No it's not strange that you never had sex that's a good thing. You did right by not doing that. But again, she needed more. Because a woman cannot rely and Trust on a man who is not dependable. That's just common sense. It's photos reasons why in ancient times they trained us up since we were young enough to crawl and learn how to walk and we would talk basil nagender how to read and write, how to do chores in the house, how to plow the fields, if you are man. And the girls would learn how to raise up children by practicing with their baby siblings. By the time they were old enough to take on more responsibilities, they learn how to sew, they learn how to cook, and sometimes they learn how to bookkeep.
Okay, these are life skills that is essential for you to actually grow and have as an adult. Because once you get married, you are married. That means your wife is going to depend on you for everything. It's going to depend on you to bring home the bacon, just going to depend on you to have the finances in order, she's going to depend on you to be able to put food on the table, she's going to depend on you to actually help her with the children once children come in place, she's going to expect you to know how to lead the family, who would expect you to know what to do in case of emergency, and mortgage, etc. A that us not a woman's job. Thats yours. Her job is to be a help meet to support you in your dreams, plans for the family, going her from California to Long Island (moving plans) <--- Leadership skills being applied. You have to learn how to be a spouse. And obviously you were not prepared for that. So she left.
See, I really don't want to give u damn reasons here. And yes I can gave her a healthy lifestyle but no she was expecting more. Don't judge a person unknowingly. Hope you're matured enough to understand these things.
You weren't wrong and neither was she. She's just on a different level than you. And you have to go at your own pace and find somebody who is EQUALLY on the same level as you. Both of you were just not compatible. And thats okay. But both of you from what I see were too selfish to let each other go so both of you could improve. There is always room for improvement. But the essentials to marriage is willingness to do the jobs you say you want to do. SEX in marriage is a Big deal because it's the glue that holds you together, while love and comitment is the foundation.
I know you see what your problem is. You don't want to take accountability and responsibility for your own actions, and then you want to blame the other person for not seeing it your way. I have very much to maturity. But again she has more requirements in order for you both to really succeed together. There is nothing wrong with that. But if you do not want to actually be on that level again then that is not her fault. She has to be with somebody who was on her level. And you was not on her level. And you definitely was not on each other's level then. It's not about judging a person only. I understand exactly what she saying because I agree. You got to have certain things. And if you're not prepared for these things then you should not be in it. That's just reality. It's not about what you like and don't like. That's just the way how things is. It's not going to care about how you feel.
You got to be more cannibal than this man. Because women at the end of the day are not going to hit those excuses. They'll just find somebody else who's actually not going to give excuses but just do. Same way serious men I'm not going to be looking for a woman who's going to give excuses, but somebody who's actually going to do. Thats all. It's not a joke. The biggest arguments couples fight over is finances.
Because in reality it doesn't sound like you're really mature either. Because you sound like my friend's ex-husband.
I wish I could debate more in this topic.
Will you personally you have a lot of growth and a lot of selfishness you need to remove from your life before it ends up leaving you miserable. I am not saying that everyone is like that, but I'm only giving you a general idea of what women really expect from me. Whether you have a good job or not is entirely relevant. What is relevant is your willingness to actually have the thing that makes us feel safe to be with you. Because if we don't feel safe being with you, at that point we would rather just do it myself if it leads us to take forever. Because at the end of the day at least we know we can count on us to take care of ourselves. And it's those reasons why a lot of women now becoming career women and putting off family or not having families at all. Because it also sounds like to me she was the one that held the pants in a relationship. Not a good thing. You got to show your leadership skills. And also just sounds like you was just in that relationship just to please her.
And no offense buddy but this is not about a debate. It's about what you want in life. If you feel that it has to be a debate that means you got a long way to go. Because this is not about debating anything. It's about you taking life seriously and going out to for what you want. And you're either going to do it or you don't, you're either will or you won't. The same way I say to myself that I wanted and needed to go to college, guess what? I didn't sit around. I did what I had to do even if it took me years. I graduated high school back in 2010. I am now a college freshman. I already knew what I needed and was expected of my before even 12 years old. I just didn't have the finances. But you, you had five years with this person to ask me figure out how to get the money together. And if you had to get a second job, you have to do what you have to do. It's not a joke, even my father would tell you the same thing you had to do what you got to do especially when you're married or you have a child. You can't play Tiff attack and say oh well I'm going to do this later on or I don't think I have to do this now, because guess what? Time is ticking. And time doesn't wait for anybody. Look, your ex is a woman with goals and ambition. And you got to be on the same Drive as out of the person. You could at least respect the fact that she believed in you and stay with you for 5 years. Most women sadly leave much earlier than that. You had 5 years, man. 5. Some people can't even get a 1 or 2.
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Okay, you got to stop being a whip, and learn to be a man at 23 years old. Because sadly you still behaving like a child. And when you're acting like a child and you're dating a woman, remember you ain't dating a girl your dating a woman. And a woman do not have time for that nonsense just like a man don't have time for nonsense. You got to let a woman know what you really about as a man, and actually stick to it, not allow a woman to push over you. Because if you allow that no woman in her right mind is going to want to respect you. When I believe you need is mentorship. If you got classes around in your area where you live, or they got one courses on that, get some serious mentorship. Because everybody needs it.
Do that and get yourself together first. Then thi k about dating in the future. Right now YOU PERSONALLY aren't ready for it right now because it would be a disaster. Just learn from your last relationship and just move on from there. That's all I can tell you.
Damn true , but my ex left me just because she earned more than me. And I'm 2 years younger than her.
She's an idiot!!
Kind of. She even don't know how a person felt when someone left for such a lame reason :(
I believe in karma 🙃🙃🙃
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What if our bonding is not strong. I don't think so money is the only thing for getting married.
What if a person earned less in comparison to partner?
It doesn't matter. As long as they can support themselves
Thanks for your kind opinion.It's my fault I trust the wrong person !
Weve all done that at some point😅
Every finger is not same I guess 😊
Yeah 30 , sounds bit cool