Would You Get Engaged To Someone You've Never Met "In Person"(IRL not Video)?

[RingOfFire]

Of course I wouldn't. That's nuts.

Only a desperate person would do this.

Years ago, American society went through a trend about couples living together before marriage. At one time that was strictly taboo as it still is in many foreign cultures. But now it is considered the norm. Couples who DON'T live together before marriage are the exception today.

While that change was working itself out, one of the arguments FOR living together was that you can't really know someone until you have lived with them. Lots and lots of couples found out after living together, sometimes for a very short time, that a long term commitment to marriage was not the right decision.

If couples who knew each other IRL couldn't even find out if they were truly in love and compatible until living together, what are the chances you can know whether or not you love and are compatible with someone you never even met in person? It's ridiculous.

Internet love is a fantasy, not a real thing. You fill in the missing blanks that you can never know about until you are with someone in person with fantasy to give you the illusion of love, not real love.

[TCredo]

I don't see how I could... I have met people online initially and then in person and it's been all good - but not to get engaged - and even if I did have a thought to get engaged with someone, it would have to be after at least seeing them in person.

That all said, I knew within a few hours after first meeting my wife that we'd get married (I even wrote it down as proof - yes, first time I ever did that before lol) - but that was in real life :)

Furthermore, to the whole bachelor / bachelorette show stuff, I don't see how I could get engaged that way either...

[aWes0MeNeSs]

No. To me, it's impossible to really get to know someone without meeting them in person, especially to the point of wanting to spend the rest of my life with them. There's just something about meeting in person that can't be replaced. I can't exactly put my finger on what it is, but I have never felt as connected to someone through a screen, or even over the phone.

[EclecticEmapath1111]

Yeah and I would marry him on video call... Preferably we would say our vows when riding separate rollercoasters simultaneously with head cams on. 😍So romantic!!!

[Jjpayne]

There would have to be some strong proofs and connection. To just pour out to someone without knowing their existence... It takes commitment... I'd say video and phone would be required for me. And maybe a proof of trust like money wired at the same time. You both send a thousand dollars to each other for example. Proving that you are real and trustworthy... Something like that. Because making a life commitment like that is huge. And proof and trustworthiness is vital

[Samoht_Sirrom1]

Hell no you don't know what a person is like in real life as soon as the camera goes off they can be a loving, kind, compassionate, thoughtful, considerate person on video... But a total jerk, dick wad, bitch ass, punk, mother fucking, piece of shit in person.

[Citizenkirk]

I've only had a couple dozen concussions in my lifetime. Not quite enough yet too take the leap of faith on what bankers would call "A BAD RISKS" or even higher risk investment. Maybe if my parachute had failed a couple times during Airborne training and I was too dense too die but just dense enough for something like that too seem like a plan.

[Chris_u006]

Not engagement but all my previous relationships till today started that way. It's scaringly easy to play someone or be played by someone that way. I have experience of both sides of that behaviour. Young dumb and ignorance is one answer why it happened. I would never do something like that again though. Uhm the best way to meet someone and help a friend at the same timd is to wingman for eachother that type of introduction seems to work still.

[CuriousMufuxka]

Never. I moved around 1400 miles away to meet and live with in person on August 18th 2012. We Skyped (Video) every night for about 3 months before. We met and was together for almost 2 and a half years. Anyway, no proposal as we agreed long before I moved. No marriage!

[Jenom]

Never. The physical connection and vibe is paramount among others. You could get cat-fished. And learning from my recent experience on Tinder, SO many girls are using filters, it's false advertising and it pisses me off!

[humanearth]

Hell no, thats is what Dean Martin would say. THAT'S AMOREhttps://www.youtube.com/embed/8_cOP8y6sWs

[Static_In_The_Attic]

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[douride2]

No it would never happen. I get a real laugh out of these people that say they are dating. Never met in real life just over the internet. No way that would be considered dating in my world.

[LemiaOfTheCodes]

Almost Did in May. I was going to purpose to my ex who i ever really spoke to on here but then she ghosted me.

[DizzyDesii]

Lmao i almost did twice or thrice 🤣 🤦‍♀️ 2017-19 was some crazy years

[EmmaMary]

Good heavens, no absolutely not, that's just too ridiculous for words.

[DeeToPlay]

I think that we would have to have had some physical time together for me to be able to make a decision to make this decision.

[ArrowheadSW]

No I would NOT. Until you meet in person, it is just in the realm of fantasy.

[AndrewMG]

No is the quick answer... the long answer is " How much milk and alcohol have they sent me through the post before they demand an answer?" lol

[ecfresh]

No. I want to be with someone at least one year irl before I get down on one knee.

[cjgsu]

Hell nah!!! I wldnt even chose to start dating someone i haven't met irl.

[AlexanderAnttila]

No sane person should ever do that. An engagement should, and must entail a long time of previous IRL contact and time together.

[MadBoy]

That's not a good idea... You should meet them irl first... Better would be to live with them for a little while, see what they're like when they're home. You gotta see all sides of them after all.

[tofamous]

Wow I've been talking about doing. I believe it would be quite interesting and I guess it could be nerve wracking I would be willing to try it