How do you check someone martial status?

Question

Without asking them.

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1 mo

What if you asked them they say no just to hide it. I don’t believe him and I believe he is still married.

Answer 1

MannMitAntworten | 128 opinions shared on Marriage & Weddings topic.

Guru

I look at their ring finger.

MannMitAntworten

1 mo
Re: Update: I have been asked before if I were married and have said “no” and was not believed either. My feelings on not being believed each time is complete indifference. Beside, I have zero interest in getting involved someone who doubts me anyway.
Asker

1 mo
I see what you’re saying. But since he keeps lying to me about not being married it makes it harder to be with him. His mom and grandma say he is married, but he says he never mailed back the marriage license paperwork to the courthouse. I don’t know how marriage works, but if you go before a pastor in a church, he reads the vows, you get ringed, does that mean you’re already married or do signing the license and taking it to the courthouse make the difference?
MannMitAntworten

1 mo
Beats me. Never been married but he could be right about the license.
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Asker

1 mo
He was in fact lying about being unhappily married. I guess it was a good thing to doubt him. & keep pressing for a question where the answer would be a lie each time. I don’t understand why he lied. Beats me
MannMitAntworten

1 mo
I don’t understand some of things people do in relationships either. Including within my own. Which is why I retired from getting involved any further.
Jamie05rhs

28 d
What difference does it make if he turned in his paperwork or not? If he said the vows, he's married. It's a covenant before God. There is no higher authority.
Asker

28 d
@Jamie05rhs the difference is that he is lying that he is married. Why lie about something that is supposed to be a happy memory? It doesn’t make any sense. I know he is married by doing a free background check. His so called wife has a married status so does he.
MannMitAntworten

28 d
Agree.
Jamie05rhs

27 d
Then he's a deceitful creep.

Answer 2

MannMitAntworten

Re: Update: I have been asked before if I were married and have said “no” and was not believed either. My feelings on not being believed each time is complete indifference. Beside, I have zero interest in getting involved someone who doubts me anyway.

Answer 3

Asker

I see what you’re saying. But since he keeps lying to me about not being married it makes it harder to be with him. His mom and grandma say he is married, but he says he never mailed back the marriage license paperwork to the courthouse. I don’t know how marriage works, but if you go before a pastor in a church, he reads the vows, you get ringed, does that mean you’re already married or do signing the license and taking it to the courthouse make the difference?

Answer 4

MannMitAntworten

Beats me. Never been married but he could be right about the license.

Answer 5

Asker

He was in fact lying about being unhappily married. I guess it was a good thing to doubt him. & keep pressing for a question where the answer would be a lie each time. I don’t understand why he lied. Beats me

Answer 6

MannMitAntworten

I don’t understand some of things people do in relationships either. Including within my own. Which is why I retired from getting involved any further.

Answer 7

Jamie05rhs

What difference does it make if he turned in his paperwork or not? If he said the vows, he's married. It's a covenant before God. There is no higher authority.

Answer 8

Asker

@Jamie05rhs the difference is that he is lying that he is married. Why lie about something that is supposed to be a happy memory? It doesn’t make any sense. I know he is married by doing a free background check. His so called wife has a married status so does he.

Answer 9

MannMitAntworten

Agree.

Answer 10

Jamie05rhs

Then he's a deceitful creep.

Answer 11

Anonymous

background check

Opinion Owner

1 mo
or facebook check or instagram check
MannMitAntworten

1 mo
No, commercial background checks are inaccurate. Example, a woman I was seeing decided to do a background check on me and she approached me that it said I was married - which baffled both of us but caused a rift in her immediate family thus ending our developing relationship. Side note, that she dis this without my knowledge would have ended the relationship on my part anyway once I found out. Anyway, I have never married and she knew I never have been either because, as she put it, “You are too accessible to be married.” Duh. My first question was, “Does it say who my ‘wife’ is or whether I have children?” She said it only says, “Marital Status: M”, for apparently, “Married”. Again, I have never married in my life no filled out any paperwork stating that I am. NEVER trust a commercial background check. There was other inaccurate things contained on this “background check”. Commercially available digital aggregate background checks are not remotely accurate.

If you really want to check and if you know their residential history, pull their county records from the county itself. Not cheap but you will get actual copies of county records such as marriage certificates. Now, marriage licenses might be more difficult to track down if they married in a county they never lived in. Still, property records will more often than not reflect both spouses names on the property title. Only the very financially savvy will not have both names on property or their name at all.

Answer 12

Opinion Owner

or facebook check or instagram check

Answer 13

MannMitAntworten

No, commercial background checks are inaccurate. Example, a woman I was seeing decided to do a background check on me and she approached me that it said I was married - which baffled both of us but caused a rift in her immediate family thus ending our developing relationship. Side note, that she dis this without my knowledge would have ended the relationship on my part anyway once I found out. Anyway, I have never married and she knew I never have been either because, as she put it, “You are too accessible to be married.” Duh. My first question was, “Does it say who my ‘wife’ is or whether I have children?” She said it only says, “Marital Status: M”, for apparently, “Married”. Again, I have never married in my life no filled out any paperwork stating that I am. NEVER trust a commercial background check. There was other inaccurate things contained on this “background check”. Commercially available digital aggregate background checks are not remotely accurate.

If you really want to check and if you know their residential history, pull their county records from the county itself. Not cheap but you will get actual copies of county records such as marriage certificates. Now, marriage licenses might be more difficult to track down if they married in a county they never lived in. Still, property records will more often than not reflect both spouses names on the property title. Only the very financially savvy will not have both names on property or their name at all.

Answer 14

BeMuse | 78 opinions shared on Marriage & Weddings topic.

Guru

The Department of Health in your state usually handles marriage records. They are public record in some states. That's how I'd find out if I was curious...

Answer 15

Studdsaaron

Xper 2

Ask him about his girlfriend. There is a high chance that he will say that he is married, if he is. If he keeps telling you about his exes or some sort of relationship with women, either he is unmarried or he is cheating on his wife.