Okay, so we signed papers a year before our wedding date because my brother passed away and we couldn't do a wedding that year but a year later. so technically I have two wedding anniversary dates. this year since we are now legally 25 years into marriage and I wanted to do something little on our legal anniversary and he agreed. tonight he came home and told me that at the time we were to celebrate, he promised his brother that he will be there to help his brother do renovations. what should I do because I don't know what to do anymore?