Men choose woman all the time not the other around?

[DavidFox]

It goes both ways. As a couple fall in love they discuss their goals and future. Once on or the other is convinced their SO can satisfy their needs in marriage I’m sure they influence or encourage the other to think the same way.

[slatyb]

Not at all, it depends on people's emotional health. Emotionally healthy people choose each other. Men and women with low self-esteem take what they can get, and are prone to accept abusive partners.