Guys, would you get married if she was willing to sign a prenup?

Question

I've seen a lot of men on here say they don't want to get married, and I can understand when you say things like, "I don't believe in marriage, or I'm not religious, so I don't see the point". I can understand those, but I never understood the reasons when they were related to finances. I get divorce makes people paranoid, and the idea that some could take all your stuff is scary, but why not just get a prenup. My boyfriend and I both agreed if we ever got married, we'd make a prenup for the other to sign, so that's never something we would think about but, if that was a part of marriage, you know you have to sign the prenup before the wedding. Do you think more men would get married then?

Also, ladies, would you be okay if your partner asked you to sign a prenup?

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1 mo

Guys can you try and keep it civil or at least avoid argue with each other.. thank you

Answer 1

Chriscunning

Xper 5

Reality is the divorce rate is sitting at 40/50%. No matter how much I trust and love someone there is always a risk, and I think a lot of us 'older' folk have learnt that. The "I would die for you" soon becomes another meaning when you in a break-up.

Additionally marriage contract do have legal implications. Depending on the country you in. In some cases not having a prenup would mean you cannot open up your own bank account alone, or if one partner dies everything is frozen. You really are joined at the hip and cannot do anything without the other person.

I have also seen people use and abuse the system. They get married with a lot of debt, and a few weeks after the "I do", it's "I have someone else", get divorced and leave the other person with crippling debt.

Despite the agreement. Once you actually married, you can see if the person is going half with you, assisting you financially. You don't need a legal agreement in place to force the person to care. They should do that regardless of the agreement.

Answer 2

Walt832

Xper 6

I have similar question I just post.

Anyways, I am down with it. Reason, because I am only interested HER LOVE nothing else. I own a business is been hard, sweat, muscles burns, cold sick times and cramps. Is a landscaping business. Since 2016 I worked along with my dad. He is 61 he pushing as much he can with his strength. All he says " don't give up, all I want you to do the day I hang my gloves like Rocky, continue what we learned father and son, always think big and make it bigger, make me proud".

I want protect my assets. Plus I want to be fully responsible of my own debts.

Answering your question, yes. I would. I won't hesitate BUT I gotta be careful what I sign.

I wish there was a bar or a place where many single genders have this prenup at front but to take their time to date and to fall in love. If goes really well, not to hesitate on prenups. Compare met a female, goes well, next thing you know I bring that up and she will go ballistic insane.

Answer 3

evangeline777

Xper 5

If he was way more richer than me, I would say we should do a prenup as I don't want to be accused of anything.
I like the idea of a relationship agreement too a la the big bang theory.
Marriage is a kinda economic contract too, it is not all about love ever after.

Answer 4

cjgsu

Xper 7

I don't think people should get married if they can't fully trust the other person.

badfurday2020

1 mo
Truest isn't the problem. I known a guy who married a women only to find out all 2 of his 3 kids were not his. He only find out becuase he got very sick and got his kids tested to make sure they didn't have what he got.
GingerGuy

1 mo
@cjgsu It's also not about that. People can and do often become very different people in a divorce. The person you love and trusted when you married, isn't that person anymore in a divorce. They no longer care about you at all (often). Thankfully I've never gone through it personally, but people change often big time. And the law often sides with the woman. Fairly or not.
nerdybutlazy

1 mo
I do agree, prenups aside I think that trust is totally an issue in marriages or just relationships in general nowadays.
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cjgsu

1 mo
@nerdybutlazy that is what I'm saying if u go into marriage already expecting it will fail. Y get married 2 them.

I'm not getting married unless i fully trust and kove that person and in my heart know it's who i can trust my life 2.

People be jumping the gun and marry someone they really like or let them pressure them into marriage.

If ya need 2 protect yourself from the person u chose 2 spend ur life with you chose wrong.
nerdybutlazy

1 mo
sigh girl people are so quick to try and jump you on here for literally the dumbest comments
cjgsu

1 mo
@nerdybutlazy I know frfr. As u can tell i ignore them. 😏

I don't need 2 prove my opinion is right for everyone, because itz my opinion and how i see it.

My opinion isn't supposed 2 be right 4 everyone its just 4 me.

That's how opinions work, we all have our own ways of seeing things and could careless if someone else likes it or not.

That's y u r 1 of the few people on here i am willing 2 have a discussion with cuz we can agree or disagree bout something and be cool wit it
nerdybutlazy

1 mo
Perioddt I love that energy girl 💛
cjgsu

1 mo
Thank you💞💞💞
Liam_Hayden

1 mo
No wise person will fully trust another.
msc545

1 mo
@Liam_Hayden Well said, but that said, you particularly cannot trust women raised in the US, the most materialistic society on Earth. US women LIVE for money they didn't earn.
nerdybutlazy

1 mo
@msc545 Sir I dont think you know every woman in the US that's impossible besides again, not all women do this the question I made was only becuase such a large amounts of men on here didn't want to get married when asked so I was curious if a prenup would help,
Walt832

1 mo
Gonna answer the same opinion what I comment.

At longest doesn't touch my assets I am fine with it. I do support child support because the kids are not the part of the relationship failure. The failure is between two adults.

The reason for the prenup. Is to prevent partnership. It makes sense during the relationship IF a business was started together but if I met her or you met him with a successful business I will respect her assets because first of all is not mine is not fair to grab or get something out, she had worked so hard to be successful. The only thing I am fully interested is her LOVE and the only thing I am willing to share is my Love. What about trust? I trust her to be faithfully. People do change.

Example:

Many may say well what about utility bills. You can't split that money back when both used the utility? Is like you are asking electric bill company I want my money back. I hope you all know why prenups are important.
badfurday2020

1 mo
The guy I talked about 100% truest his wife once he find out his kids wasn't his becuase he was sick. His wife took their kids left him for a rich dude took half of what he had and he's forced to pay 2000% a month to her even through she's rich as fuck. You can sit here n say it shouldn't be a problem but you're not facing the risk of losing everything only men are

Answer 5

badfurday2020

Truest isn't the problem. I known a guy who married a women only to find out all 2 of his 3 kids were not his. He only find out becuase he got very sick and got his kids tested to make sure they didn't have what he got.

Answer 6

GingerGuy

@cjgsu It's also not about that. People can and do often become very different people in a divorce. The person you love and trusted when you married, isn't that person anymore in a divorce. They no longer care about you at all (often). Thankfully I've never gone through it personally, but people change often big time. And the law often sides with the woman. Fairly or not.

Answer 7

nerdybutlazy

I do agree, prenups aside I think that trust is totally an issue in marriages or just relationships in general nowadays.

Answer 8

cjgsu

@nerdybutlazy that is what I'm saying if u go into marriage already expecting it will fail. Y get married 2 them.

I'm not getting married unless i fully trust and kove that person and in my heart know it's who i can trust my life 2.

People be jumping the gun and marry someone they really like or let them pressure them into marriage.

If ya need 2 protect yourself from the person u chose 2 spend ur life with you chose wrong.

Answer 9

nerdybutlazy

sigh girl people are so quick to try and jump you on here for literally the dumbest comments

Answer 10

cjgsu

@nerdybutlazy I know frfr. As u can tell i ignore them. 😏

I don't need 2 prove my opinion is right for everyone, because itz my opinion and how i see it.

My opinion isn't supposed 2 be right 4 everyone its just 4 me.

That's how opinions work, we all have our own ways of seeing things and could careless if someone else likes it or not.

That's y u r 1 of the few people on here i am willing 2 have a discussion with cuz we can agree or disagree bout something and be cool wit it

Answer 11

nerdybutlazy

Perioddt I love that energy girl 💛

Answer 12

cjgsu

Thank you💞💞💞

Answer 13

Liam_Hayden

No wise person will fully trust another.

Answer 14

msc545

@Liam_Hayden Well said, but that said, you particularly cannot trust women raised in the US, the most materialistic society on Earth. US women LIVE for money they didn't earn.

Answer 15

nerdybutlazy

@msc545 Sir I dont think you know every woman in the US that's impossible besides again, not all women do this the question I made was only becuase such a large amounts of men on here didn't want to get married when asked so I was curious if a prenup would help,

Answer 16

Walt832

Gonna answer the same opinion what I comment.

At longest doesn't touch my assets I am fine with it. I do support child support because the kids are not the part of the relationship failure. The failure is between two adults.

The reason for the prenup. Is to prevent partnership. It makes sense during the relationship IF a business was started together but if I met her or you met him with a successful business I will respect her assets because first of all is not mine is not fair to grab or get something out, she had worked so hard to be successful. The only thing I am fully interested is her LOVE and the only thing I am willing to share is my Love. What about trust? I trust her to be faithfully. People do change.

Example:

Many may say well what about utility bills. You can't split that money back when both used the utility? Is like you are asking electric bill company I want my money back. I hope you all know why prenups are important.

Answer 17

badfurday2020

The guy I talked about 100% truest his wife once he find out his kids wasn't his becuase he was sick. His wife took their kids left him for a rich dude took half of what he had and he's forced to pay 2000% a month to her even through she's rich as fuck. You can sit here n say it shouldn't be a problem but you're not facing the risk of losing everything only men are

Answer 18

coachTanthony | 64 opinions shared on Marriage & Weddings topic.

Influencer

Most women are making more then men now. Guys who work at Burger King are like... Hells yes she better sign a prenup!

bAhahahahahahaha

nerdybutlazy

1 mo
True true very true

Answer 19

nerdybutlazy

True true very true

Answer 20

Anonymous

Money / assets are only part of the problem for men with marriage today, and a prenup is essentially useless in divorce court because all the wife has to do is claim her husband cheated or beat her or the children and most judges will completely ignore the prenup. Go on YouTube and search "how to rape a man in divorce court" and you will find videos of female divorce lawyers who lay it all out play by play. It happens every day in every city across the US.

The bigger problem is the fact that men get screwed in custody settlements and lose their parental rights because the courts are extremely biased against fathers, and mothers typically take full advantage of that. When you consider that combined with the fact that half of marriages end in divorce, and 80% of those divorces are filed by women, you can see why most men find marriage a very unappealing proposition today.

Another fact that today's women seem completely oblivious to is that marriage does not offer the same benefits to men that it used to. The average married man today gets a lot less out of marriage than his father and grandfather did, while at the same time being asked to put a lot more into marriage and risk a hell of a lot more, as explained above.

Having said all of that, tell me why any man would want to get married now.

msc545

1 mo
Well said. You forgot to mention that women overwhelming get custody, and when they do, they also get child support.

Answer 21

msc545

Well said. You forgot to mention that women overwhelming get custody, and when they do, they also get child support.

Answer 22

Zealashton

Xper 6

no i want one more thing
i want you to have have a iron crested hot metal seared into your flesh. as well as min. but mine be on the backs of both of my hands.
why
laws favor wemon, i was genitally mutilated. that is far more damaging the a flesh on a persons back being burned with a crest.
my forskin was stolen from me, my pain for ever burned always a reminder

thus
a woman should bear a creast of a man she loves on her back butt thatts just me, not anyone else, and i do not sudjest others be sheep.
come up with your own ways

i will work on this idea of mine more, latter

Answer 23

Bananaman177 | 93 opinions shared on Marriage & Weddings topic.

Guru

NO, BECAUSE THERE ARE SEVERAL PRECEDENTS OF JUDGES IN DIVORCE COURTS QUITE LITERALLY SIMPLY CHOOSING TO IGNORE EXISTING PRE-NUPS. JUST THROWING THE DOCUMENT ASIDE AND PASSING JUDGMENT OUTSIDE OF LAW.

THE CONTRACT IS WORTHLESS, JUST AS WORTHLESS AS THE MARRIAGE CONTRACT IT WAS DESIGNED TO PROTECT, IT MEANS NOTHING, IT IS NO PROTECTION AGAINST THE DIVORCE INDUSTRIAL COMPLEX.

ALL WOMEN ARE COMPLICIT UNTIL THEY DISCONTINUE THEIR ALLIANCE WITH THIS UNJUST SYSTEM. THAT'LL NEVER HAPPEN BECAUSE WOMEN GET A CUT OF THE LAWYER'S PROFITS. REMEMBER THE APPLE, WHEN HAVE WOMEN EVER TURNED DOWN A CHANCE TO SCREW US BOTH OVER BY LISTENING TO A TALKING SNAKE?

Guys, would you get married if she was willing to sign a prenup?

nerdybutlazy

1 mo
Can you please delete this and write it all in lowercase... it screams angry at the world so much I won't read it
Bananaman177

1 mo
I am angry. People and families being destroyed for lust and profit and worst of all, cold indifference makes me absolutely fucking livid. If that makes you uncomfortable, then don't fucking read it.

Don't ask painful questions if you only want to hear pleasant answers. Ask people what their favorite ice cream is and you'll never have to deal with stress or anger. Maybe that's the sort of question that's more your speed.
nerdybutlazy

1 mo
Sir don't tell me my lane... I'm just saying the all caps was overkill
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Bananaman177

1 mo
You're literally too pussy to even read my shit and you think I should care what you might think of it if you did read it? How does that work?

You literally just removed the benefit of the doubt that I customarily extend to all anonymous strangers when I treat them like equals worthy of consideration and respect. So where does that leave you? On block if you blow up my notifications with anymore of your stupidity.
nerdybutlazy

1 mo
block me then ;)

Answer 24

nerdybutlazy

Can you please delete this and write it all in lowercase... it screams angry at the world so much I won't read it

Answer 25

Bananaman177

I am angry. People and families being destroyed for lust and profit and worst of all, cold indifference makes me absolutely fucking livid. If that makes you uncomfortable, then don't fucking read it.

Don't ask painful questions if you only want to hear pleasant answers. Ask people what their favorite ice cream is and you'll never have to deal with stress or anger. Maybe that's the sort of question that's more your speed.

Answer 26

nerdybutlazy

Sir don't tell me my lane... I'm just saying the all caps was overkill

Answer 27

Bananaman177

You're literally too pussy to even read my shit and you think I should care what you might think of it if you did read it? How does that work?

You literally just removed the benefit of the doubt that I customarily extend to all anonymous strangers when I treat them like equals worthy of consideration and respect. So where does that leave you? On block if you blow up my notifications with anymore of your stupidity.

Answer 28

nerdybutlazy

block me then ;)

Answer 29

Arivor

Yoda

Why even get married? Y'all could just get both a durable power of attorney and a medical power of attorney. A prenuptial agreement is more like a self-fulfilling prophecy that your marriage will fail and end up in divorce. It has gotten so bad that some people have changed their vows from "as long as we both shall LIVE" to "as long as we both shall LOVE" I suppose in an attempt to lessen the guilt (?) of not being able to fulfill your vows. Revoking a power of attorney is much easier than going through a divorce. Just saying, ya know?

Answer 30

slatyb | 222 opinions shared on Marriage & Weddings topic.

Master

No one can take "all your stuff". In community property states, income during the marriage is considered joint property and will be divided on divorce. If one partner (usually but not always the woman) has interrupted their career to support the other or to raise their children, she may be awarded more than half of the property, and in some states may also be awarded spousal support for some time.

In the US couples of approximately equal income may find that marriage results in an increase in income tax. A wedding ceremony and a legal marriage are two completely separate things.

Answer 31

TonyMetal___86

Xper 7

No penups and no sh*t...
She better be loyal to me and die trying to keep the marriage forever...

If i got married, i'll fully trust my wife who will become a housewife...

If she fooled me and she wanted divorce just to humiliate me and earn moneu from me and the court of law oppressed me just because she's a woman, than i'll be her worst nightmate, i'll make my own laws and my own force and it's nearly impossible for her to escape in one piece!

She will lose and A LOT too!

It's better for a woman to never try a real man!

nerdybutlazy

1 mo
I- um
TonyMetal___86

1 mo
No one pushes you or force you to get married right? If you chose to get married, better to know well what a real marriage is, it's sacred and eternal!

A good man deserves a real lady and not a gold digging b*tch!
hi_it_is_me123

1 mo
That is why you are still not married at 34. No sane woman would marry you. You seem like you would murder a woman for divorcing you. What kind of sociapath are you. I am not justifying the act of golddiggers but murdering someone is not ok
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TonyMetal___86

1 mo
@hi_it_is_me123 who told that i'll kill her and how do you know if i'm married or not...
Your hurt because you found a real man and not just a stupid male submissive jerk who will cry when you bury him alive and no one cares!

I'm laughing at you because you don't know sh*t about me! 😏
hi_it_is_me123

1 mo
No, i am scared of you. You really seem like a sociopath or at least a toxic person when you say you will be her nightmare or force your own laws on her (?) If you are married why are you contantly complain about women then. I mean if you find your dream girl, why do you care about other women? Go care for your girl instead of talking about other womem. What are you even doing here? Does your wife know you are here? You know gag is full of people who think gag is another version of tinder.
TonyMetal___86

1 mo
@hi_it_is_me123 i never said that i'm married now or if was... who are you so i tell you about my personal life? 😒
The man that your throwing all these awful words at is the man that you can trust blindly with your life and the man who can truly make you feel as a real woman!

Anyways you girls likes to be always fooled by the gentleman who acts on you and have 2 faces, the one who kisses you from the front and stab you from the back!

Why don't you attack women who makes a living hell from a man's life and use the laws to favor their demonic lusts and greed?

You don't need to be scared of me! Of your a good girl, be sure that your safe and if see me i'll treat you better than you will ever be able to treat me...

A good respectful loyal lady should never be scared of a real man because she knows that he will treat her like a real queen!
nerdybutlazy

1 mo
@hi_it_is_me123 he genuiely sounds the kind of man that would beat his wife so that says a lot, thank you for saying something becuase Lord knows I really didn't want to
TonyMetal___86

1 mo
Because i'm daying the truth, you think that i'll beat a girl just because she's a girl? REALLY! This made me laugh a lot 😂

Anyways, if a girl tries to humiliate me or even think to lay a hand on me, be sure that i'll beat her, i did it before and i'll do it again!

If a woman respects me, be sure that i'll respect her ans treat her like a lady...

Answer 32

nerdybutlazy

I- um

Answer 33

TonyMetal___86

No one pushes you or force you to get married right? If you chose to get married, better to know well what a real marriage is, it's sacred and eternal!

A good man deserves a real lady and not a gold digging b*tch!

Answer 34

hi_it_is_me123

That is why you are still not married at 34. No sane woman would marry you. You seem like you would murder a woman for divorcing you. What kind of sociapath are you. I am not justifying the act of golddiggers but murdering someone is not ok

Answer 35

TonyMetal___86

@hi_it_is_me123 who told that i'll kill her and how do you know if i'm married or not...
Your hurt because you found a real man and not just a stupid male submissive jerk who will cry when you bury him alive and no one cares!

I'm laughing at you because you don't know sh*t about me! 😏

Answer 36

hi_it_is_me123

No, i am scared of you. You really seem like a sociopath or at least a toxic person when you say you will be her nightmare or force your own laws on her (?) If you are married why are you contantly complain about women then. I mean if you find your dream girl, why do you care about other women? Go care for your girl instead of talking about other womem. What are you even doing here? Does your wife know you are here? You know gag is full of people who think gag is another version of tinder.

Answer 37

TonyMetal___86

@hi_it_is_me123 i never said that i'm married now or if was... who are you so i tell you about my personal life? 😒
The man that your throwing all these awful words at is the man that you can trust blindly with your life and the man who can truly make you feel as a real woman!

Anyways you girls likes to be always fooled by the gentleman who acts on you and have 2 faces, the one who kisses you from the front and stab you from the back!

Why don't you attack women who makes a living hell from a man's life and use the laws to favor their demonic lusts and greed?

You don't need to be scared of me! Of your a good girl, be sure that your safe and if see me i'll treat you better than you will ever be able to treat me...

A good respectful loyal lady should never be scared of a real man because she knows that he will treat her like a real queen!

Answer 38

nerdybutlazy

@hi_it_is_me123 he genuiely sounds the kind of man that would beat his wife so that says a lot, thank you for saying something becuase Lord knows I really didn't want to

Answer 39

TonyMetal___86

Because i'm daying the truth, you think that i'll beat a girl just because she's a girl? REALLY! This made me laugh a lot 😂

Anyways, if a girl tries to humiliate me or even think to lay a hand on me, be sure that i'll beat her, i did it before and i'll do it again!

If a woman respects me, be sure that i'll respect her ans treat her like a lady...

Answer 40

Kaneki05

Guru

Prenups get over turned. And well another issue with that is more the women wouldn't like that. And say some bs about how if you cannot trust me enough to give me a right to all your money and stuff how can we get married. or better yet just this "I don't think people should get married if they can't fully trust the other person." called it lmao.

nerdybutlazy

1 mo
I don't know if someone just randomly brought it up to me i would be upset, but I think it's not a terrible Idea
Kaneki05

1 mo
Yeah most women just get hurt by the subject of a prenup. so that just causes problems to wanting to get married too, because well you set them off or they agree but you still kinda hurt there feelings best just to leave it.
nerdybutlazy

1 mo
It's not really just a woman thing it's just people in general, if you bring up a prenup to most people, it'll seem like you don't trust them or you think the marriage is planned to fail, which is why when I talked about it with my boyfriend we both agreed and said we'd bring up again if we were getting closer to that point of marriage.
I think it's just more about being blind sighted if you told them well ahead of time then I think that's okay. But I guess it doesn't really matter cause personally I don't really believe in divorce unless the marriage is unfixable
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Kaneki05

1 mo
nah it's way more of a women thing. Guys rarely get upset over a prenup and guys are normally the ones who push for it. well no one believes in divorce until it happens lol
nerdybutlazy

1 mo
One, I think it's a little mean to think it's just a woman thing most of the time I've seen guys have to sign them and two, it's just something I believe I don't really think a divorce is an option not in the sense that, "oh I'll never get a divorce because I'm so in love". It's more of I just morally don't believe in them
Kaneki05

1 mo
It's not mean to call something majority bias to one gender when it has been proven time and time again smh. And on the divorce thing again no ones does.

Answer 41

nerdybutlazy

I don't know if someone just randomly brought it up to me i would be upset, but I think it's not a terrible Idea

Answer 42

Kaneki05

Yeah most women just get hurt by the subject of a prenup. so that just causes problems to wanting to get married too, because well you set them off or they agree but you still kinda hurt there feelings best just to leave it.

Answer 43

nerdybutlazy

It's not really just a woman thing it's just people in general, if you bring up a prenup to most people, it'll seem like you don't trust them or you think the marriage is planned to fail, which is why when I talked about it with my boyfriend we both agreed and said we'd bring up again if we were getting closer to that point of marriage.
I think it's just more about being blind sighted if you told them well ahead of time then I think that's okay. But I guess it doesn't really matter cause personally I don't really believe in divorce unless the marriage is unfixable

Answer 44

Kaneki05

nah it's way more of a women thing. Guys rarely get upset over a prenup and guys are normally the ones who push for it. well no one believes in divorce until it happens lol

Answer 45

nerdybutlazy

One, I think it's a little mean to think it's just a woman thing most of the time I've seen guys have to sign them and two, it's just something I believe I don't really think a divorce is an option not in the sense that, "oh I'll never get a divorce because I'm so in love". It's more of I just morally don't believe in them

Answer 46

Kaneki05

It's not mean to call something majority bias to one gender when it has been proven time and time again smh. And on the divorce thing again no ones does.

Answer 47

Kurαȷ

Guru

Because prenups do not work.
They are thrown out of courts in the majority of times because it is up to the judge's discretion whether they are going to honor them or not.
They aren't legally binding documents, at best they serve as guidelines in asset division, IF both parties still agree on the terms outlined in the prenup.

Furthermore, prenups cannot override things that are granted to divorcees by law, such as: alimony, 50/50 division of all assets obtained during marriage.

Answer 48

GingerGuy | 162 opinions shared on Marriage & Weddings topic.

Master

It would help for me. But I also don't really see the point to it either. You can live "happily ever after" without getting married and it "means" nothing as far as commitment goes. But also, there's a lot of women that will not only not sign one, but get very offended if you even suggest one.

nerdybutlazy

1 mo
usually, it's just because of what it holds in society and the fear I guess you're about to marry someone but you might fear the worst.

Answer 49

nerdybutlazy

usually, it's just because of what it holds in society and the fear I guess you're about to marry someone but you might fear the worst.

Answer 50

admles | 143 opinions shared on Marriage & Weddings topic.

Guru

I won't get married without a prenup. I've seen too many of my mates get screwed in divorce court, and let's face it, the courts still favour the woman in a divorce settlement.

It'll be simple enough - what was mine is mine, what was yours is yours, what was ours we split equally. No alimony (which is rare in Australia anyway), but I'm more than happy to pay child support, as long as that money IS ACTUALLY USED FOR THE CHILD!

msc545

1 mo
You cannot enforce the money being used for the child.
admles

1 mo
@msc545 which is really stupid. I had a mate, many years ago, who had to pay his wife around $750 a week child support, as he owned his own business and his wage was quite large, yet his daughters never had clothes or shoes or anything, because his ex wife spent it on drugs!
msc545

1 mo
Exactly. The purpose of child support is to extract money from the man, and give it to the woman. After that, the court could not care less about what happens to it.

Answer 51

msc545

You cannot enforce the money being used for the child.

Answer 52

admles

@msc545 which is really stupid. I had a mate, many years ago, who had to pay his wife around $750 a week child support, as he owned his own business and his wage was quite large, yet his daughters never had clothes or shoes or anything, because his ex wife spent it on drugs!

Answer 53

msc545

Exactly. The purpose of child support is to extract money from the man, and give it to the woman. After that, the court could not care less about what happens to it.

Answer 54

Drumlin2001 | 137 opinions shared on Marriage & Weddings topic.

Guru

She has as much to lose as i do. I would happily sign one, including custody arrangments for kids. Better to sort it when civil and rational then in the grips of relationship falling apart

Answer 55

JamesTara

Xper 3

Depends on the situation. If she made more money than me yes if not no. I would take all her chit when a divorce is coming 😂🤣

Answer 56

TheorionMage

Xper 6

AS BOTH my present wife and myself are both 'Divorcees' we mutually agreed upon a mutually-binding 'prenuptial '

Answer 57

Liam_Hayden

Guru

No. Prenups get tossed out in whole or in part solely at the discretion of the judge. "I felt like I was forced." actually works quite well at having them set aside. Or bonehead moves like having the same attorney for both of you. Even if she signed a waiver, there is a great chance that the entire prenup gets tossed. No thanks. Until the laws themselves are changed, marriage is a no-go.

Answer 58

Anonymous

I will not sign a prenup unless she wants it. If I'm marrying someone I'm putting my soul on the line if needed; I am not marrying just anybody. I'll be marrying my soulmate, a woman for whom I'm willing to sacrifice everything.
None of my great-grandfathers, grandfathers, or father needed one, why should I?

Answer 59

I_Am_Sazerac

Xper 5

Me? No I wouldn't. If you have to make a "contract" in order to get married then you shouldn't be marrying in the first place.

If people can't act like adults and spend time finding the middle ground and work together with your partner then signing a "conditional love" paper defeats the purpose of even being with someone.

Answer 60

Anonymous

I can’t trust girls these days, if my family gave me $200,000 that’s for me not her. How do I know she isn’t going to dump my ass after 1 year and take half and go on to the next dick? Sorry ladies just like how you are super defensive meeting guys offline or giving your number to a nice guy asking your number... I can’t let my guard and i have to worry about me. You can dislike this comment ladies.

Answer 61

Fuqyocouch

Xper 2

Frankly never thought about it when I got married. I guess it would entirely depend on what she wanted.. I wouldn't necessarily be opposed, but definitely obviously isn't a requirement, at least in my opinion.

Answer 62

NamerOfStars

Guru

Given how often prenups get thrown out in court, no. They're a defensive measure, but the level of protection they offer is still iffy.

Answer 63

paullingren

Xper 5

I refused to get married with a prenup. The whole idea of it screams "I dont trust you and if we did have a divorce we couldn't work it out like adults."

Answer 64

Avicenna | 258 opinions shared on Marriage & Weddings topic.

Master

Maybe. It would depend on the terms and whether it would hold up in the event of a divorce, as well as how necessary it would be to get married in the first place. Some people's finances are too complex for a generic answer.

Answer 65

Inexpensivefurniture

Xper 7

If my partner wanted a prenup, I'd sign it. But it wouldn't be necessary for me. I have absolutely nothing that I'd be worried about losing in a divorce.

Answer 66

Knighted2170

Yoda

I don't want to plan my divorce before my marriage.

If a prenup is needed, I should be revealuating the level of commitment and trust in the relationship.

Answer 67

Daniel3035 | 73 opinions shared on Marriage & Weddings topic.

Yoda

Yes 100% it's the only way. With all the girls trying child support scams and a girl being given spousal support for not being a spouse in Canada granting her 30k a year for the rest of her life... well I don't know what to say.

Answer 68

Tomsta

Guru

I dont mind the concept of pre nups. I dont understand why many people get all worked up about it

Answer 69

jgokgotit | 55 opinions shared on Marriage & Weddings topic.

Yoda

Keep in mind that a prenup does not guarantee protection. It helps some, but there are many loopholes to make them void.

Answer 70

Pete671

Explorer

No, if I thought I needed one to protect my property I wouldn't propose in the first place,,,

Answer 71

Tstrbrainer

Yoda

No, not at all, because it is not really helpful in the real life, I guess

Answer 72

Truthatanycost | 125 opinions shared on Marriage & Weddings topic.

Guru

Prenups can be thrown out at court, they are unreliable.

Answer 73

Anonymous

NO. A pre-nup can be easily overturned by a Judge and often is and does not protect you from things like false claims of abuse, denial of parental rights, and the imposition of child support for children that aren't yours, or excessive child support for children that are yours, or alimony. Plan on huge legal bills and a poor outcome in a divorce if you are male.

Opinion Owner

1 mo
In the US you have a 75-90% chance of divorce in the first 5 years of marriage. Worst odds than Russian Roulette.

Answer 74

Opinion Owner

In the US you have a 75-90% chance of divorce in the first 5 years of marriage. Worst odds than Russian Roulette.

Answer 75

Topherfreak

Xper 3

Shit I don't need that shit and I own my own con ssf traction company I'm a grieving person who really just wants every one doing good in life

Answer 76

Iron_Man | 624 opinions shared on Marriage & Weddings topic.

Master

Sure because I don’t want my house taken away from me since I bought it before I got married It’s already paid off

Answer 77

serious | 529 opinions shared on Marriage & Weddings topic.

Master

My answer would be NO. That is because I never wish to get married in life.

msc545

1 mo
Smart man.

Answer 78

msc545

Smart man.

Answer 79

andreasderjuengere | 149 opinions shared on Marriage & Weddings topic.

Guru

Prenup... and hoarding toilet paper.
Where is the difference?
Both is like preparing for the worst, because you expect the worst.

Liam_Hayden

1 mo
A prenup is more like buying homeowners insurance.
andreasderjuengere

1 mo
@Liam_Hayden An insurance is created to 'protect' from dangers.
Logic tells me that the spouse must be the danger, then :D
If I now choose a partner who isn't a risk factor... my insurance becomes what all insurances are: wasted money and effort?

Answer 80

Liam_Hayden

A prenup is more like buying homeowners insurance.

Answer 81

andreasderjuengere

@Liam_Hayden An insurance is created to 'protect' from dangers.
Logic tells me that the spouse must be the danger, then :D
If I now choose a partner who isn't a risk factor... my insurance becomes what all insurances are: wasted money and effort?

Answer 82

dwiller943 | 103 opinions shared on Marriage & Weddings topic.

Yoda

The only way I'd be willing to get married, is if we both sign a prenup.

Answer 83

GoogleWasMyIdea

Xper 5

I would get married without. What's the point if I don't trust her?

paullingren

1 mo
Exactly what I said to my wife lol

Answer 84

paullingren

Exactly what I said to my wife lol

Answer 85

Anonymous

Maybe, but this isn't enough. I want financial separation. This means what I earn while and after marriage is mine and what she earns belongs to her. Why I should care financially for a mature person?

Answer 86

UrBrotherCain

Xper 5

I would only get married if she would do a prenuptial, I would be overjoyed that she loves me enough to do that.

Answer 87

JamesRandiDebates | 70 opinions shared on Marriage & Weddings topic.

Yoda

A pre-nup isn't worth the paper its written on. Unless you are a multi-millionaire, a pre-nup is almost always tossed by the judge upon the wife's request.

ShootShootBangBang

1 mo
Or the husband’s request.
JamesRandiDebates

1 mo
@ShootShootBangBang I've never heard of that happening, but I suppose it's theoretically possible.
msc545

1 mo
Judges don't invalidate pre-nups because men request it - they do it for women.

Answer 88

ShootShootBangBang

Or the husband’s request.

Answer 89

JamesRandiDebates

@ShootShootBangBang I've never heard of that happening, but I suppose it's theoretically possible.

Answer 90

msc545

Judges don't invalidate pre-nups because men request it - they do it for women.

Answer 91

sszatkow

Xper 2

She’s definitely signing a prenup. I’m not rolling the dice with my retirement.

Answer 92

Anonymous

Nah, corporate law that's real protection
Takes planning and work but worth it in court

Answer 93

Anonymous

Guys have to stop marrying girls cause they look cute. If you are getting married marry someone with almost equal finances and divide home work equally... same for girls

Answer 94

Gwenhwyfar

Guru

I would make him sign one

Walt832

1 mo
At longest doesn't touch my assets I am fine with it. I do support child support because the kids are not the part of the relationship failure. The failure is between two adults.

The reason for the prenup. Is to prevent partnership. It makes sense during the relationship IF a business was started together but if I met her or you met him with a successful business I will respect her assets because first of all is not mine is not fair to grab or get something out, she had worked so hard to be successful. The only thing I am fully interested is her LOVE and the only thing I am willing to share is my Love.

Many may say well what about utility bills. You can't split that money back when both used the utility? Is like you are asking electric bill company I want my money back. I hope you all know why prenups are important.

Answer 95

Walt832

At longest doesn't touch my assets I am fine with it. I do support child support because the kids are not the part of the relationship failure. The failure is between two adults.

The reason for the prenup. Is to prevent partnership. It makes sense during the relationship IF a business was started together but if I met her or you met him with a successful business I will respect her assets because first of all is not mine is not fair to grab or get something out, she had worked so hard to be successful. The only thing I am fully interested is her LOVE and the only thing I am willing to share is my Love.

Many may say well what about utility bills. You can't split that money back when both used the utility? Is like you are asking electric bill company I want my money back. I hope you all know why prenups are important.

Answer 96

OddBeMe | 81 opinions shared on Marriage & Weddings topic.

Guru

Forget prenup. I need a sex contract. Twice a day, swallowing required.

ArchersArrow

1 mo
That’s what gets you to divorce

Answer 97

ArchersArrow

That’s what gets you to divorce

Answer 98

fallengrxce

Xper 1

From what I have heard, in the US a judge can throw away a prenup agreement, if he wants to.

msc545

1 mo
Very true and it happens a lot.

Answer 99

msc545

Very true and it happens a lot.

Answer 100

Slim57 | 174 opinions shared on Marriage & Weddings topic.

Guru

That's the only way I would, IF I ever did want to get married

Answer 101

Anonymous

Yes. I worry that if she ever feels unhappy and decides to leave she gets half. No thank you.

Answer 102

Fuentes

Guru

Maybe but i ain't looking to be married

Answer 103

Anonymous

i want her to sign a prenup because i don't want any of her stuff

Answer 104

hi_it_is_me123

Xper 6

I dont have a problem with signing a prenup

hi_it_is_me123

1 mo
I agree with you

Answer 105

hi_it_is_me123

I agree with you

Answer 106

JKingOff

Xper 7

Maybe.

Answer 107

StickStickity13 | 72 opinions shared on Marriage & Weddings topic.

Master

Prenups can be discarded. No thanks!

Answer 108

Lunatic1

Xper 7

Yes, I would actually require it.

Answer 109

lovedejj_xo

Yoda

I’ll give him the prenup myself.

Answer 110

LEADFOOTboi

Yoda

yup... i would

Answer 111

bklynbadboy1 | 122 opinions shared on Marriage & Weddings topic.

Guru

Yesssss I would

Answer 112

FCDALLASFAN

Xper 4

Yes!!

Answer 113

Nayyr

Xper 7

What is that

nerdybutlazy

1 mo
It's a legal agreement where you can fix most of the terms of how you wish. Most of the time, people do it like if we get married and divorce anything I personally owned and or bought during or before the marriage you have no legal claims to in the event of a divorce.
Nayyr

1 mo
I don't need one

Answer 114

nerdybutlazy

It's a legal agreement where you can fix most of the terms of how you wish. Most of the time, people do it like if we get married and divorce anything I personally owned and or bought during or before the marriage you have no legal claims to in the event of a divorce.

Answer 115

Nayyr

I don't need one

Answer 116

UP2U2020

Xper 1

I am not into prenups.

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