What Separates A Woman From Marriage Material To A Hook-up?

[White_King2000]

What she brings to the party. In other words what will a potential wife bring to a marriage.
1. Her looks. Its nice to be with or married to an attractive woman.
2. Sex. You don't want your sex life to end once married or be with someone who doesn't like having sex with you.
3. Her past. A girl with a history of cheating or a long line of abusive partners is a major redflag. High numbers is another, if her relationships with men are so easily discarded.
4. Motherhood. Will or can she give you children, would she be a good mother.
5. Finances. How much money does she make, how much does she spend, how much does she save, debts etc. I've two sisters one makes a fortune but blows it and is in debt while the other makes little better than minimum wage, has savings, no debts and has us always on the hustle to earn or save.
6. Mental health. 1in4 women are on antidepressants. Bipolar or manic depressants are a no go for me. I've been there, its hell.
7. Maturity. A lot of this depends on age but you don't want some 30 year old woman you are going to have to look after like a child.
8. Age. A woman's age is a major factor to consider when it comes to marriage. It effects everything from how many kids you will have, your sex life, her attractiveness etc so a man will always marry younger if he can. A woman's value depreciates with age on the marriage marketplace.
9. Kids. Does she have kids from another relationship. A lot of single moms won't like this but this makes them less marriage material. A lot of things to consider with single moms such as the age of their kid, the baby daddy, how the kid feels about you. A good mother will never put you first over her kid and thats hard at the start of a relationship. It can be hard seeing each other, hard having sex. She won't introduce you to her kid for about six months and even then the kid might not like you.

[Knighted2170]

This is just me, and not a guys in general opinion.

Two things factor into it with a few sub-parts.
First, what type of relationship are we looking for? Short term or long term? If those don't line up or it's only short term, it's more than likely going to be a hook-up.

Next is how we align. I have traits I look for. She might have traits she is looking for as well. The more traits she has, the more marriage material she becomes. The fewer, the more short term and possible hook-up she is.

That is generally how I work. The more traits a woman has the longer term relationship and marriage type she becomes. So long we are both looking for that same long term relationship.

[hi_it_is_me123]

Can male cunts stfu. Dont talk about women being marriage material if you are a cunt yourself. If you have a high bodycount, go find whore like you. I have enough of hypocritical cunts who think they can sleep around but call women bad for doing the same

[OlderAndWiser]

My advice on how to make that decision:

Who should you marry? ↗

[WalterBlack]

There are many, many factors that separate the qualities that are desirable in a spouse vs a hookup. I'm going to skip the things that I think are important in a relationship of any duration, such as a physical attraction. Here are the most important qualities a spouse should have, IMHO.

-Honest
-Trustworthy
-Forgiving
-Doesn't play mind games
-A good listener
-Shares (at least a few) common interests

[oddwaffle]

It's the same for men or women. She needs to be able to take care of herself. Clean the house, wash the dishes, cook her own food and go to work. I don't want to marry someone I have to do the housework for two and work for both.

It sounds easy but if your life is a mess then you aren't marriage material. Man or woman. It doesn't matter.

[ObscuredBeyond]

Her integrity and ability to follow through. If she talks a big talk, but then when following through would require her to get involved with me on some project, and she immediately starts making even more excuses than the girls she once condemned for making similar excuses to leave me high and dry... I get turned off by such fakeness, and by such lack of self-awareness.

[JKingOff]

Physical attractiveness versus physical attractiveness and an award-winning personality. For me it takes a lot to go from being friends with her to asking her out and start dating. It's not that I'm sure anything, it's just that I draw a very bold line between friends, and potential partners. Once I start dating someone I usually start being more of an asshole to see how they react since they already know the good side of me. Depending on how they respond will determine whether or not I decide to propose. I absolutely refuse to marry someone who's not going to be there when I'm at my worst.

[Anonymous]

First of all, any woman who is into hookups is automatically excluded from the marriage pool in my world. I could never take a woman like that seriously and she would never be my wife or the mother of my children.

That said, there are a lot of finer points of a woman's personality and character that factor in to this question for me. I won't go into all of them, but I'll mention a few of the important ones.

She is honest, unselfish and nurturing at her core. This is critical to me.

She loves and wants children, and prioritizes that above her career ambitions. This is also super important to me, not only because I share those values, but also because of what it says about her as a human being. That is not to say she shouldn't be well educated. I think it's important for everyone to have a good education and I want her to have a career after we raise a family together, but any woman who puts her career ambitions ahead of family is not marriage material in my world.

[Anonymous]

For me there is none. I don't meet someone and immediately put her in one of those categories. Everyone could be either. It boils down to first, if I want marriage or not or even open to that. Then it's the person and how well we get along and the relationship. Even if I meet someone and immediately sleep with them and that was the plan from the beginning, it doesn't mean she isn't "marriage material" now.

[Anonymous]

Guys rarely marry a woman with a high body count because they subconsciously believe that they will cheat. We are programmed via evolution to avoid situations where we expend energy to provide support for other men's children. In the wild I lino will kill the cubs of a lioness that he takes as a mate instead of raise them. It is a similar concept.

Please don't try to analyze this from a logical perspective or from a feminist perspective. This is built into us. Will girls with a lot of partners be able to attract a partner? Some will if they are pretty enough but they usually do it through deception and lies.

[meeso13]

I never veiw anyone as just a hook up or marriage material one night is too soon and I never put someone in a category, it's a person not a thing

[Avicenna]

She’s fun to be with and has things in common with me, plus she has none of what I consider dealbreakers.

[Anonymous]

1- not a hoe who spreads her legs to idiots
2- a virgin (for me personally cuz i'm a virgin)
3- is actually a woman with womanly instincts
4- is beautiful and takes care of herself
5- isn't overweight and is healthy
6- has standards and values that align with mine preferrably
7- can cook nice dishes
8- good at housekeeping
9- takes good care of kids
10- is strong and logical, doesn't let emotions control her

[I-have-a-biscuit]

A lot of them. In short if we don't get bored of each other it's fine

[Liam_Hayden]

If she wants to have sex on a first date, she is a pump and dump.
If after 21 she's had more sex partners than years, she a slam and jam.
If she's a debt-free virgin without tattoos, she might be marriage material.

[SilverRain92]

Whether we have similar interests and similar beliefs and whether I am sure in her loyalty or not.

[bamesjond0069]

If she hooks up or has ever hooked up she's not wife material. Just pump and dump.

[Whtevernever]

An entire relationship, built up trust. But most crucially the initial focus of the encounter to start.

[Anonymous]

Someone who would make a good mom and wasn’t a slut. Higher divorce rate with sluts.

[Anonymous]

If she's hookup material, she isn't marriage material. That's really the bottom line.

[Secret6620]

Great originality...🤔

[Iron_Man]

A classic queen with moral values