I cracked up. Thanks, grandma. Pro tip for wifehood: don't get fat.
I mean... she and my grandpa were married for 62 years so... if it worked for them...
I just thought, if all the advice in the world she could give... don't get fat? 😂😂😂
A couple that loves each other will get chubby together or stay active together , when a partner starts doing their own thing that’s when it can get bad , not all the time but most the time , I knew a couple that the wife was chubby and the husband was thin , She decided to start exercising and dropping her weight , the second she did and she felt good about herself , is when she cheated on her husband and divorced him she was an attention whore , so usually when a partner starts changing the way they use to be is a red flag in a relationship, it could mean they are looking elsewhere
Because here is what you have to understand. If a man refuses to touch you then you're practically considered screwed.
Your grandmother is right to her opinion in this is no disrespect to her. But those are not facts because not every man is the same. If she don't want to get fat that should be key for her. But if a man don't want her because she's whatever, then you should personally ask her. Would she have wanted to be loved for her body or for who she is? Because most of these women are basically have been shamed because of their bodies. You have to remember something. While men are indeed visual. As I said before, a woman that was not touched by a man would be considered a useless woman. Even more useless if she's not able to Bear children. I don't know what your culture history religion background or anything is. But if she's able to stay that long then you should ask her how when they retreated back then. It's best for you to get the full picture before you seem to be taking anything as fact. Because while they did have long-lasting marriages not everybody was happy in them. My grandmother is almost a hundred and she's been married before. I think I would know. After her second she said she wasn't going to get married again.
Just make sure that you and this person married for the right reasons before you end up miserable in it. People say never get fat but here's the problem. Genes can God forbid do what they do and the next thing you know you're fat and you can't shut off the weight. That's just reality. Should he stop loving you because you gain weight? You think so too? Well then I'll tell you what. In my opinion if you rather hate yourself just to please a man that's your choice. I know for a fact whether I become fat or stay slim if a man cannot appreciate me for me, he ain't worthy of me.
So here's the thing about Union. It's easy to get together. But it's hard to stay together. Her marriage took work and effort. Her being slim has nothing to do with it. He said it sounds like to me unless you just naturally loves herself, she probably just singing other woman just to feel better about myself and that's not right. It's all about image for some people. There are plenty of men that are happy with their wives regardless of if your slim or big. You have to think about mindset. Because back in a day if not now, a lot of people were extremely shallow.
It doesn't matter. Your marriage isn't your grandmother's. The real test is keeping it until death due you two apart.
2 years is basically nothing. Make it past 10. Then we can talk. You about to finally be the very first stage of marriage. Right now your marriage is still a bit fresh. It's not the good times you got to be concerned about. It's when it starts getting a little rough. Which is usually by year 3 depending. My warning to you is don't get too cocky. You will have your bliss but you also have your hells. Anybody can have blessed. But not everybody can get past all the hell.
Every marriage just like every person is not the same. I never dated, I've been married once. Why do you think I wouldn't want to get married? Because I understand how serious marriage is. And one thing I know for sure. Without me having to experience it. Marriage can either make you or break you. That's why some Thrive and others do not.
Look. The question was intended to be humorous. My husband and I have been married for two years, yes, but we've been together for 9 and known each other for 13. I knew what I was getting into with him. Obviously appearance is only skin deep.
It may appear humorous but I'm being serious when I'm telling you be very careful with what you're saying. Because your grandmother's message was not about not getting fat. The meaning behind her message is simply this in layman's terms: Don't do anything to screw it up.
He may have been together for 9. But being together in a civil union for 9 years is not the same as being married. It is way way different.
So technically no offense to you know you don't. You're on a whole new different level now. Before that is technically Child's Play. Now the real meat begins.
You said yourself you've never dated or be married so it sounds too me like you don't know either so...
Because when you are married you are held to a higher standard compared to when you were single.
Is a reason why they called me an old soul. Because everything I'm telling you was exactly the very same things of my friend who's been married much longer than you who have families of Their Own agree with me. And they've been married some as young as 16, 17, but most of them 18 through 24. I'm not dating in married because there's not anybody around that's going to take anything serious. Don't let my lack of experience fool you. Because you never know. I may have been married in another life. Who's to say that thing knowledge still didn't come to this one. Nash is not a joke I'm warning you now. You can take it like it's a game now. That's your life that's your choice. But whatever happens you're the one that has to live with it. Not me.
I absolutely do not take marriage as a joke. We never took each other or our relationship as anything less than serious. You're asigning all these characteristics to me and my marriage based on things you hear from your friends and assumptions you've made because I posted a light-hearted question. My husband and I have always been intentional with our relationship. We've always known and agreed to dating with the intent to find a spouse. While I appreciate your response, I feel it's necessary for you to understand that my husband and I genuinely knew what we were getting into arguably better than most people do when they get married.
And another reason why I wouldn't want to date and get married is because people with your mentality, basically men because I ain't attracted to women, are very dangerous. Because your figure you're young, I can do whatever I want mentality. Then when it gets a little tougher then you're going to be complaining and wishing that you had something different. Again. You got to meet the man that you may not want to do, but that's your duty as a wife. As long as you fully understand what your duty is and it's not for me to judge. I'm just letting you know just don't play games with it before life will play games with you. It's a moment for you to cherish. It's not for you to take advantage of. But as I said before. It's your life. Your choice. I am not the one that has to live your life. Marriage is supposed to change you into a better person. And he as your husband as your partner, because remember you are now a team, are supposed to grow and mature along with the changes side by side with you. You're going to have your first reading days, and then you going to have your great day. One day you may grow to hate him. The next day you may love him. But do all those ups and downs as long as you understand that you are commanded to love each other, and you have that willingness and desire then you may be mine. But only you and him can guarantee that. Marriage cannot guarantee that for you. It's what you choose to make of it. But understand there are also rules to follow. Just like Nature has it's laws, so do marriage.
And one thing I refuse to do is to be involved with a man who refuses to understand that. Because get married to just anybody and they will make your life a living hell. That's how serious marriage is. I know for a fact not to take it like it's a joke. Marriage it's meant to be enjoyable. But it requires work. That's all I'm saying to you.
Only the majority of bloody asshole guys voted yes because they view women as a sex object. F**k them and they deserve to die single. I am slim but also afraid because I won't be able to know that why the f**k a guy wants to marry me. Eventually I'll find out but I hate these men seriously.
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Not to many people bring up the weight gain issues because they don't know
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I just know from experience that I can love a woman even if she gains some weight, but cheating is hard to accept.
It's a marriage killer.
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