What are your thoughts on a girl who wants to wait until marriage? Could you do it?

- Anonymous3 dI could but likely wouldn’t.
I’d need three unlikely things
- to have fallen for her enough I already know fast I’m considering marriage
- strong reason to think she had an above average sex drive and found me highly attractive.
- a realistic mid term at most path to marriage.
actually waiting for a great sex life I can do. Waiting around celibate hoping maybe if I commit for life it will all turn out when if anything her wanting to wait suggest she might be low drive... no.
this sort of assumes no sexual of any kind. No vaginal sex only would be a different scenario.0|00|0Is this still revelant?- Show All Show Less
- Opinion Owner3 d
It means a lot of things. It means you want to have sex close enough to the same frequency or are open to some frequency that both of you feel happy with - neither pestered nor starved. It means that your views on enjoying more romantic or more kinky sex are close enough to being aligned. It means kinks that are a big deal for one are something the other is at least sometimes happily enthusiastic to engage in with them.
Most people are not very compatible. It’s one of the two biggest reasons for divorce - and that’s looking at people who were close enough to get married in the first place! - Opinion Owner3 d
Another one I didn’t mention - if one partner is significantly Dom or sub, and the other doesn’t at least lean a little in the complementary way they’re going to struggle to be satisfied. Really people crave more then their partner obliging them. They want a partner who is -into- it.
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- It's a wonderful thing and men should wait till marriage as well, but not be too uptight about it. Too many people who wait until marriage see sex itself as something dirty. Women who wait until marriage should want to dance naked for their husbands, and show off their bodies to him. Men who wait for marriage should want to explore their sexuality in all sorts of ways with their wife.
I waited for marriage, so did my wife. It has worked out pretty well for us.1|00|0Is this still revelant?
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- In earlier times, ancient Pagan communities participated in a kind of 'trial marriage' wherein the couple pledged before their Deity & community for "a year and a day" to determine their compatibility. THAT would INCLUDE physical intimacy--- At the time's end, they COULD part ways or elect to 'hand fast' for life, exclusively~0|00|0
- No. I appreciate people who do it but I personally wouldn't.
Sex is an important part of any relationship. I am not saying it's the only thing , but you can't just ignore it either.
Imagine if I marry a person and then I find out our sex life sucks. I am not compatible with her , she doesn't like sex with me or any reason.
People actually divorce over these issues. So I would at least like to have some sex , even if it's only once before the marriage0|00|0 - Good for her. Nothing is wrong with it. She deserves respect either way. What ever the reason personal religious doesn't matter. I prefer not to wait. I believe everyone should do structured premarital counseling for 6 months before getting married and real sex, sexual and sexuality related questions must be included in counseling.1|00|0
- If I'm dating a lady who want to wait until she's married to have sex I'd do everything I can to make sure when I propose she says yes, and that we have a short engagement!0|00|0
- I think she's a girl that deserves respect. And yes, if I were in love with her and she were my other half. That's why people in the good ol' days used to get married much sooner than they do now.0|00|0
- If that's important to them, awesome. I wouldn't marry someone I don't know I'm sexually compatible with, though. So we wouldn't work out. Can't sign that contract until I read the fine print.0|00|0
- Asker3 d
What if they do foreplay
Great, but still doesn't address the concern on whether or not we're sexually compatible. Would not know unless we had sex.
- Asker3 d
What about anal
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If we're having to haggle, that's a pretty clear sign this wouldn't work out.
- Asker3 d
I don’t get what the sex compatibility has to do with a relationship you can learn overtime
Yeah? You can learn to like watersports over time? BDSM? Threesomes? Bukkake? Fisting? Clown costumes? Exhibitionism? Sexual humiliation? You have no idea what I'm in to and I have no idea what you're in to and if you've never had sex before, you may not even know what you're in to. But I know I'm not going to learn eat feces during sex, no matter how much I may love you and that may very well leave you sexually unfulfilled and that's going to have a really negative impact on our relationship. So I'd like to know what I'm getting in to before I agree to spend the rest of my life with you or give away half of my hard-earned possessions divorcing you because we didn't address these things beforehand.
- Asker3 d
Guy on guy is pretty hot I think 🤣
There we go! Now we're making some progress! That's some good stuff to know before we even think about marriage! lol
- Asker3 d
Ooh blind dating I like it 🤣🤣🤣
- Asker3 d
Pegging guys is hot I think too
See? Really good stuff to know. Heavily influences my decision to marry or not. lol
- Asker3 d
You gonna marry me?
omg, are you proposing? ^///^ I haven't ruled it out yet, but we're going a bit too fast. I'd still like to get to know you more.
- Asker3 d
🤣🤣🤣 ok sounds fair
- Asker3 d
But you need to propose to me
Of course. The very moment I feel certain I'd want to spend the rest of my life with you. If I'm gonna get married, it's gotta be til death do we part and even then, she might not get off the hook that easy. :p
- Asker3 d
I get to be on top first though
- Asker3 d
I got high standards as you can see
Fine by me. Ride it, cowgirl! ^_-
- Asker3 d
I’m still waiting for the real thing until marriage you know
- Asker3 d
Foreplay is fun
You do what you've gotta do. I fully respect it. It's just not for me.
- Asker3 d
Wait so you’re not going to marry me
- Asker3 d
You haven’t even seen what I can do
Sorry to break your heart, hun. ^_- But like I said, I've got know if we're compatible. What interests we share, how much we value certain things, how we fit together, the chemistry we have in the moment. You can say all the right words, play to all the right emotions, but there's no getting around the real thing. Just as saving your virginity until after marriage is important to you, verifying compatibility is important to me. I would never ask you to budge on your values, but I'm likewise not going to budge on mine. It just wasn't meant to be.
- Asker3 d
Hey your loss you could be missing out on the girl of your dreams
That very well may be, but if I can't check to see, what choice do I really have? You never sign a contract before reading the fine print, no matter how sweet the promise they make. Perhaps I'm a pessimist, but I don't take anything on faith.
- Asker3 d
Well I’m short and cute and I’m in love with Elvis he was my first love
Short and cute I like, but I'm more of a Frank Sinatra guy with my oldies. ;)
- Asker3 d
Hmm def not compatible then 🤣 Elvis is mine
You'd get along well with my dad. He loves Elvis, too. lol
- Asker3 d
Haha good
- Asker3 d
Do you like the oldies
Well, hey. I'll turn off my anonymity. If you ever want to just talk about shit, shoot me a message. Turned out to be a really good conversation. Otherwise, I guess take care. I hope you find what you're looking for, though I'm sure you will. :)
- Asker3 d
I would love to chat now if you’re up for it
Yeah, I like to go back to some of the classics now and again. Good music stands the test of time.
My inbox is always open. :p Feel free to come right in. lol
- Anonymous1 dIf she's cool with hands and mouth stuff then maybe.
I personally don't think marriage is necessary until children are involved anyway.
And with almost half of them ending in divorce, it's almost meaningless at this point, and only serves as a tool for a woman to exploit her soon to be ex-husband.0|00|0 - Wouldn't marry a woman unless she was waiting for marriage. And yes, I could.1|30|0
- Personally no, but i have nothing against those that wish to wait. Its their life and they should have that level of say in it.0|00|0
- Yeah I'm fine with that. I like the idea of really getting to know someone for a long time before having sex1|00|0
- I respect religious beliefs.
But I think it’s not practical or wise0|00|0 - If she's willing to stick it out with me until marriage,... then that would be fine. In my experiences,... they never last long anyways.0|00|0
- Marriage is pointless for men, we only lose, we dont win anything there, the maximum we get, is a naggy pre owned hole0|00|0
You don't. You settle for a whore or you die single.
There's maybe a 10% chance at best at finding a suitable wife and that's if you ask out 10 different women.- Show All Show Less
@Wewladdy Then women wonder why we don't want to marry or even giving head to them ( don't know what was down there b4 i appeared )
- 99.9% of females in America, are not waiting until they get married. 1 in 3 people have an STD in America. There is a reason drug dealers don't want "stepped on product"... It losses its value...0|00|0
- I'm not religious, so I'm avoiding those kinda girls from the get go. We can talk and be friends but I'm not considering them as dates.0|00|1
I just said it cause mostly this is tied to religious upbringing. But either way, I'm not even dating with girls who thinks that way. But I can definitely respect them and their choices, it's just not a thing for me.
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Well, I'd rather confirm we are in sync in bed just as in life before I lock myself down with someone till I die. If I don't do that I'm just gambling and hoping that she'll be the one that I desire the same way after years.
I'm not arguing that, I'm not the type to jump in bed after the first date, but in my opinion sex is a huge part of marriage (unless you are asexual) and sex alone/or lack there of can destroy it. So if we are compatible in every way, I'm much more confident to get married to that person.
But don't take it like I'm arguing your choice or something like that. If you want to wait, I respect that. We just have different mindsets.
A lot of people took my opinion personally offensive, even though I just expressed it.I mean I knew a couple guys that wanted to wait, but generally you're right about that 🤷♂️😂
Has nothing to do with religion and EVERYTHING to do with wisdom and self-respect.
- I'm not buying the cow when the milk is for free nowadays.0|00|0
- Of course I could do it. I've been doing it all this time.1|00|0
- Yes, I could wait. I don't believe into rushing anyone into anything that they don't want to do.0|00|0
- Nope. I will wait 2 years, but I won't propose before sex.0|01|0
- Nope. If she doesn’t want sex before marriage then there’s no guarantee that she’ll want sex after marriage.0|01|0
- she would need to be a virgin and the marriage would need to be 6 months to a year away0|00|1
- That is what my current wife did.1|00|0
- Beautiful and awesome0|00|0
- Not just could wait, but must.0|00|0
- It would depend on if she is worth it.1|10|0
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