What are your thoughts on a girl who wants to wait until marriage? Could you do it?

[Anonymous]

I could but likely wouldn’t.

I’d need three unlikely things
- to have fallen for her enough I already know fast I’m considering marriage
- strong reason to think she had an above average sex drive and found me highly attractive.
- a realistic mid term at most path to marriage.

actually waiting for a great sex life I can do. Waiting around celibate hoping maybe if I commit for life it will all turn out when if anything her wanting to wait suggest she might be low drive... no.

this sort of assumes no sexual of any kind. No vaginal sex only would be a different scenario.

[Nalix]

It's a wonderful thing and men should wait till marriage as well, but not be too uptight about it. Too many people who wait until marriage see sex itself as something dirty. Women who wait until marriage should want to dance naked for their husbands, and show off their bodies to him. Men who wait for marriage should want to explore their sexuality in all sorts of ways with their wife.

I waited for marriage, so did my wife. It has worked out pretty well for us.

[TheorionMage]

In earlier times, ancient Pagan communities participated in a kind of 'trial marriage' wherein the couple pledged before their Deity & community for "a year and a day" to determine their compatibility. THAT would INCLUDE physical intimacy--- At the time's end, they COULD part ways or elect to 'hand fast' for life, exclusively~

[NarutoUzumaki007]

No. I appreciate people who do it but I personally wouldn't.

Sex is an important part of any relationship. I am not saying it's the only thing , but you can't just ignore it either.

Imagine if I marry a person and then I find out our sex life sucks. I am not compatible with her , she doesn't like sex with me or any reason.

People actually divorce over these issues. So I would at least like to have some sex , even if it's only once before the marriage

[DJB72]

If I'm dating a lady who want to wait until she's married to have sex I'd do everything I can to make sure when I propose she says yes, and that we have a short engagement!

[Madhatter920]

If that's important to them, awesome. I wouldn't marry someone I don't know I'm sexually compatible with, though. So we wouldn't work out. Can't sign that contract until I read the fine print.

[Anonymous]

If she's cool with hands and mouth stuff then maybe.

I personally don't think marriage is necessary until children are involved anyway.

And with almost half of them ending in divorce, it's almost meaningless at this point, and only serves as a tool for a woman to exploit her soon to be ex-husband.

[EaterPeter]

Good for her. Nothing is wrong with it. She deserves respect either way. What ever the reason personal religious doesn't matter. I prefer not to wait. I believe everyone should do structured premarital counseling for 6 months before getting married and real sex, sexual and sexuality related questions must be included in counseling.

[Wewladdy]

Wouldn't marry a woman unless she was waiting for marriage. And yes, I could.

[Mysterio421]

I can do it, yes. But I'd expect the girl to be a virgin as well. I'd want to have one relationship and start fresh with her and vice versa.

[Floppy2112]

I think she's a girl that deserves respect. And yes, if I were in love with her and she were my other half. That's why people in the good ol' days used to get married much sooner than they do now.

[ChurchOfSteel]

Good luck waiting. Fearful or ignorant, or otherwise undesirable.