If you married or got remarried would you have a prenuptial agreement done first?

[bamesjond0069]

If you get married without one either you're an idiot or you're the broke one and have bad intentions.

[OlderAndWiser]

Probably, especially since I can prepare it myself! :) :) :)

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Good question, and to be honest we are retouching and fixing up ours for the upcoming wedding either late this year or for early 2022.
It's not just about protecting and laying down our interests, it's also to safeguard the serenity of our children and our families.

[razelove]

No, I'm on my second marriage right now, and it was never a worry going in. If I was worried to that degree about getting screwed over, or protecting my assets, I simply wouldn't get married, or set up my finances before marriage in such a way that my spouse cannot touch them.

Like set up a corporation with myself as the sole proprietor, and at least 1 employee. That employee is paid a consistent salary but how I pay them is manipulating the internal shares and value of them in my company. My employee has no reason to question this as their pay remains constant, but it makes them a shareholder without their consent in a private company. If divorce comes up that corporation is a separate entity, and one that is not "owned" solely by me even if all decisions are mine to make, and it's sole function may be to hold on to my money in my own bank account and pay my taxes.

As it is not my possession it is not part of the divorce, and with manipulating money that way it is a net loss in calculating income.

Really though I just made sure to marry someone I trust to be my partner, and who trusts me to do the same. I had a marriage of looking over my shoulder, socking away money here and there, when travelling out of country opening an account here and there to squirrel more away in.

It isn't worth the stress. If you have doubts on that level, just don't do it. Besides that a judge can choose to ignore a pre-nup during divorce. Let's say you are a millionaire, we get married, I promised, and wrote that I wouldn't go after that money. Now we're hostile to each other... and I'm going after that money. I just have to say the money and power you got from it intimidated me into signing and getting married, bam, I'm out from under it, invalid contract.

https://familylawma.com/blog/why-a-prenuptial-agreement-may-be-unenforceable/#:~:text=A%20prenuptial%20agreement%20can%20protect,person%20responsible%20for%20those%20amounts.

[Vickymoore9]

I definitely would have one done I have my own home I have nearly paid off and multiple rental properties. I acquired it and never not have a pre nuptial I think any guy going in with assets would be ignorant as well not to have one. I don’t think people deserve to marry into money being able to leave retaining anything. You came in with nothing that’s your worth and likely your culture. The idea of someone leaving with anything more than they brought in is absurd. It like a girl from a trailer park marrying a millionaire the wanting alimony because she has a kid with a rich guy wanting the child to retain the wealth. I think your the poor person if you didn’t marry a rich person your always going to be in a trailer park. I think child
needs to chose the life style I don’t think anyone should be allowed to steal through marriage. My ex and I when we got married he signed one it was he could never inherit my fathers money if I died while we was married. My dad was very animate about that and I agreed as it would had if we was still together go to my daughter. The crazy part my dad changed his whole will a few years ago. I was to get everything now its his girlfriend would get to live in his home till dies. Unless the gets married to another person at that time she would be forced to move out as she would allowed to have another man living in the house. My daughter was then added as a 50 percent we split his estate 😂 I had a kid and she steals half of my inheritance pretty messed up. But the nice part is there are so many clauses between us that either of us could ever get messed over with what and when my dad passes by a guy we was with.

[Floppy2112]

If I was a millionaire worth a ton of money, yes. Which of course requires a reasonable and understanding woman that knows even the best relationships grow cold. Better not to marry in these situations to be honest. If you cannot trust anybody to that degree (and you cannot), it's best not to mess with nuptials.
I am meaning this in the context that the man has already made his fortune and the woman is coming in after the fact and getting the benefits of that fortune. If they built it together, then it's both of theirs.
It would be better if they just fixed the law to where you cannot just take half the man's shit no matter what. She can lay her claims on gains after the marriage date, not from before.

[IronLady6354]

No. I can see the logic of it, but I think it's just way too sad and does show a lack of faith your relationship will work out. When I got remarried I didn't do a prenup and I don't think I'll ever do one. I've got a great relationship with my husband now and I think having a prenup would just cast a shadow of fear and doubt over both the marriage he has with me. I also think it would make our kids very uncomfortable in the security they feel with having parents that want to stay together.

[DJB72]

I'm married under South African law which means my wife and I are financially not responsible for each other's debt legally. We have separate accounts and while we CHOOSE to share everything if one of us takes out a loan the bank can't hold the other one responsible.

I wouldn't do a prenup to "protect" what I own because my will leaves everything to my son anyway.

[ChrisMaster69]

Yes definitely.

I have a daughter that will get pretty much my entire estate, that takes precedence over any future marriage or relationship.

at present, I have insurance etc in trust to prevent complications.

my ex wife who I am good friends with also has property allocated to her.

I've discussed with a friend and in reality would simply sign off various ‘stuff’ to both.

biggest problem is avoiding taxes lol, you cannot get a prenup with the tax man

[randomusername321]

If she's a billionaire and I know my chances to surpass her in terms of wealth are slim, I'd not initiate but gladly, without hesitation or questions sign it if she said so, and if we both were financially the same, or had a minor difference, or if I was way richer, I'd most certainly have her sign a prenup and if she disagrees we're not getting married

[jgokgotit]

Absolutely. I refuse to go into marriage without one, no matter how much I love her. When humans can live up to and even a little past 100 years, there is a lot of time for things to change. Nobody can predict the future and so many things outside and inside the marriage can affect things. The way society is today, men have to take more steps than women to protect their assets in marriage because most family laws favor women.

[Finchie40]

Not at all , I wouldn’t marry someone I didn’t love or have a great chemistry and connection with , what would be the point of marriage , what’s mine is hers and what’s hers is mine is how I look at it , If she ended up leaving me and fighting me in court over it then I would just fight for 50/50 if she wanted more and the court agreed to give her more then so be it , it’s just things

[HawkPerception]

Absolutely. The money you make should be yours and yours alone. No one should be entitled to what you make just because they lived with you during a phase in your life. Any mature person going into marriage nowadays should not have a problem with it. It's not saying anything negative about the current relationship you have, but anything can happen in the future and it's best to prepare for the worst.

[admles]

100%, no doubt.

If any woman refused to sign it, it would make me think she was planning to leave the marriage and make sure she has a safety net.

If she had full confidence in the marriage, she would have zero problem signing one.

That said, majority of my assets and money is in a trust that is untouchable in case of a divorce.

[TwinTonyz]

Yes 100%.

No matter how much you think you can trust someone, your perception will always inflate their intent. At least with a prenup they have to keep trying if they want to reap the benefits. Otherwise you can just bait n bounce.

[tbutts]

No, I cannot imagine ever becoming super wealthy so would feel confident in that whoever I was marrying wasn't marrying me for my money lol. Also, generally so (rightly or wrongly), men tend to be the higher earners in society at the moment and it only seems fair to me that if a women decides to divorce a man and they normally become primary caregiver to any children to then expect them to not have any financial support.

[Dragonpurple]

I never did, but back then I had nothing before hand to worry about losing.

If I did it again I'd probably get one this time around, as I got stuff worth losing now.

[Jjpayne]

It depends on what our money situations looked like... But overall, I'd hope we would aim to be respectful of each other

[kkirk4442]

If I felt that I needed a prenup, I would not marry the girl. However, I understand prenups, when there is a lot of wealth involved.

[ThisAndThat]

A prenuptial agreement doesn't mean anything. A judge can throw it out. https://www.familylawfla.com/blog/2018/02/why-did-a-judge-throw-out-my-friends-prenuptial-agreement/

[Leavesbound]

It is sad that someone feels they need to do this with someone they supposedly love

[worldscolide]

Were i in a position where i had a ton of resources, most definitely, but i married her when i was broke, so i had nothing to protect.