There is marriage before God and marriage before the government. If we took government OUT of marriage I would be more amenable.
@KrakenAttackin Well, actually probably not. That is why, as I have mentioned, that what my girlfriend and I are doing is - oddly enough - not something we would recommend as a matter of law and culture.Think of this, before the early 1970s, marriage was a legal contract. If it was broken, it was determined who was at fault and alimony, child support and property distribution was apportioned accordingly. This made marriage something that society took seriously and engaged in with care. It reflected and reinforced an ethos that supported marriage.Then the culture began to change and with it came the advent of no-fault divorce. Suddenly, the marriage license had no value and was simply a scrap of paper with certain tax and maybe Social Security survivors benefits attached.So treated, as marriage was given less seriousness, so it began to decline. It became something that people took for granted and took frivolously. So we are where we are.For my girlfriend and I, the religious aspect is not something we have, bluntly, reconciled in our own minds and there have been moments when we really do struggle with it. However, as a matter of law, it has been so degraded that we just see it as degrading what we have.However, in a way, that is accepting things as we find it, and not as it ought to be. We are happy and it works for us - but you need only look around to see that, in law and culture, that is the exception and not the rule.
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In your culture it can either a want or a desire, however it can be a need in my country cuz it is linked to sexual intercourse as its not allowed beyond marriage. Its not about language dude
Since this is an international site, you should mention whenever there is a cultural consideration that affects your question. With respect to Western cultures, I wrote this a few years ago:When Should You Get Married? ↗
who would you say marriage isn't for?
Just that some people don't want to get married and stuff like that.And some wants to stay single for whatever reason they have
like disabilities such as autism and downs syndrome, could also be a reason why some don't get married
Sure. I wasn't thinking in those lines as I don't know any with those kind of disabilities. But yeah, that might be a reason too.Point was just that not everyone wants to or needs to get married. For whatever reason
What's wrong with your race
I‘m black. 😂
🤨 the most beautiful and kind hearted people. Race doesn't have any thing to do with marriage anyways
You’re not wrong. Only 25% of black women get married. But if you’re not the stereotype and actually take care of yourself then you should be ok.
She is trying to tell you that she is black. And just because you're married isn't so... They also have high divorce rates.
Thank you for not being silent. So many women who make that kind of choice dont speak up for various reasons.
@bamesjond0069 not sure why more don't speak up. They're married and there's nothing to hide about it
I think they just get a lot of shame. I know i do for my more traditional choices in dating. So i can only imagine.
@bamesjond0069 yeah people hate the traditional lifestyle. Its sucks cause I get judged for it a lot
I am a 34 year old man so I am not afraid to just say whats up publicly. I think younger women in your position are just going to be more timid in standing up for their choices.
@bamesjond0069 very true. I think as people age they give less fucks about what anyone thinks about them. That seemed to hit me a little early so maybe that's why I'm so open
Lmfao 30s for women my ass.
@bamesjond0069 What she means is "I have finally climbed off the cock carousel, hit the wall, now I need a simp to pay for all of my bad judgement".
No sex. Being valued less than the dog. Working long hours, and not gicing up most of your money. Loss of friends, freedom to go where you want and hobbies. Regulated to your own room or man-cave. Emasculation. Then divorce, living your family or out of your car. Supporting her new boyfriend. Never getting to see your kids much. Being treated like a failure with your circle. Makes suck starting a shotgun exciting. Drinking problems. A shorter lifespan. And sappy father's day gifts. Yeap, that's what's in it for men.
It depends on the culture and society and your sexual limits b4 marriage etc.
So it depends on your personal preference. I don't want to get married. The only good thing I see about it which is stupid is being able to be taken more seriously financially.
Is it hard to find him
Do you think it is possible to find him online
Tried it. But it never works out because I want the real thing. Physical affection and intimacy, not virtual.
I hope I can get a freind for long term relationship here..
Virtual affection and intimacy, when honestly given, can be a satisfying temporary situation when needed, until you can get the real thing.
@goldentulip. That wall is coming fast.
Ow yes? Is it? Hmm
Good luck dear
You don't like commitment?
Commitment doesn’t bother me. I just don’t believe in the concept of marriage.
Is that because couples can actually do all things they want before marriage so no need for it?
Sort of. There’s nothing one needs to be married that one cannot do before marriage. The only benefit is financial, mostly regarding taxes, and the drawbacks can be significant
Ok but why so sad
Because it's not easy!
Yes especially in the Eastern societies.. plus it is a long journey with ur partnerHow it is going anyways?
I'm in Canada. How what is going?
I mean how is your marriage going
Has its ups and downs
God bless your life and make it easy and happy
I hope I can get a freind for long term relationship here..
So she can take half of your retirement, make you pay spousal support for life, and leave you in poverty but still an economic slave to her as she fucks anyone she wants on your dime?
@KrakenAttackin they only do that in tandem with their single mother strategy. And i think the laws might be different in the future.