Do young marriages (18-25) last or do most of them end ? Give examples if you have any.
- Yeah they do it's a lot of work thoughVote A
- No they don't they just marry while they are still in "puppy love" and don't really know what love isVote B
- Some do last, but they aren't really happy with each otherVote C
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Both my parents and grandparents got married young.
My grandmother was married when she was 17 (given, different times). But my mother got married when she was 18 and my father was 25. They've been together for 25 years. My grandparents were together for 56 years; until my grandfather passed away.
My uncles got married later (42, 38); both of them are ironically divorced.
My father always used to tell me the two things that bring two people together:
- enjoying good times together
- enduring and struggling through bad times together
both of those things make the bond between two people stronger..
the reason my uncles didn't last.. is because they had been through life's struggles.. endured much.. reached at a point in their life where they were financially well off.. and then someone walked into their life.. finding all of that on a silver plate.. and demanding it.. feeling entitled to it.. and in no way ADDING to either one of their lives.. or there with him during the point in his life where he was struggling.. they found him when he had already made it.. and so there was no bond strong enough to keep them together..
my parents pretty much started from nothing.. and struggled through life together.. both financially.. and in terms of family.. at this point in their life.. they look at each other like teammates.. having gone through life's struggles together.. and being able to both enjoy life's pleasures and rewards together.. as a result of the hard work and effort they both equally put in..
then again.. one example doesn't give a universal answer..
the major disadvantage of a younger marriage is immaturity.. there is no guarantee that both people in a young marriage will be mature enough when entering into it.. and mature enough to last through it.. if one or both people don't understand the nature of what they're getting into.. or get into it for the wrong reason.. marriage will fail..
a marriage is a partnership.. and each person who enters it is like a company.. each company makes money, and has certain expenses.. they find each other and say.. hey.. if we work together.. we can both benefit.. why don't we become partners? this is true.. for as long as BOTH parties BENEFIT.. if at any point ONE party does not benefit.. they are logically motivated to leave the partnership.. and since both parties will be LOCKED-IN to this agreement.. and there is no guarantee of performance or way to enforce performance.. both parties are at the mercy of the other.. they just have to TRUST that the other party is smart enough to realize that if s/o is unhappy, then they will leave.. so if they want to be happy.. then the other party must also be happy.. younger people are usually more self-centered and narrow-sighted.. not able to see beyond their own wants.. and so their own selfishness and disreguard for the other person is what causes the marriage to fail and fall apart..2