My ex proposed to me after a year of dating. She did it very casually and just asked if I saw myself marrying her in the future. It caught me off guard and I said that I wasn’t sure but things were going well and if they continued that way, I could see no reason why not. But I have never even thought of marriage as an option for me, so I was a little weirded out by her question. She then went and told her family that I had said yes to marrying her, which I didn’t really. She kinda weaseled her way into a half-assed coerced proposal and then told people we’re engaged. Wtf is that?!
I have always been of the opinion that men should propose. The idea of women proposing kinda freaks me out a little. Am I being overly traditional?
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I agree that the man should definitely propose. In this case it doesn't even sound like she really proposed, just that she was trying to manipulate your relationship into an engagement. I agree with how she started out - at around a year of being together, if marriage hasn't been discussed at all then the couple needs to discuss it and find out if they are on the same page for the future so they aren't wasting their time if they're not. But everything after that is very manipulative.1