Apparently a guy's testosterone goes down more than half once getting married. Also I feel I am not insecure where I need to elope with a guy to feel secure in a relationship. It's all over rated. I like knowing you can leave the relationship whenever I want. No messy divorce. I will shack up with a guy AND be with him for the rest of my life if he is the one but I'm not about to commit my entire rest of life to a guy. I don't know why girls want marriage and a baby and the white picket fence after like a year of dating. That's crazy. Thoughts.?
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Do guys want marriage and a baby and a picket fence? I sure don't. And a kid? Good God, I'd pity the poor soul that would be born with me as a father. I don't want a *life* 100% dependent on me. And I don't want to become the typical overweight fat husband with the chubby wife raising the little kids, my life reduced to a job and mowing a lawn, all that. I want my life to have *excitement* as well as love.
And to answer your question, a lot of people want marriage because it's commitment, it's a (often hollow as often as it's solid) promise that "Even if we fight, even if I stop finding you so magical after a while, we'll work it out and stick together." Long term relationships lack a real commitment.
Which is part of why girls and guys who just move in together don't seem to get fat like married people, I think, as they know that if one of them gets fat and the other doesn't... well, they can be replaced, haha. They also know that if they become horrid people to live with, the other person can and likely will leave. Benefits, I think, to balance the lack of complete commitment.0