I've been having a really hard time lately. I'm pretty much the last of my friends and family to get married. And the few that are left are getting engaged and their weddings are coming up very soon.
I'm 28 and have been dating my boyfriend for 2.5 years and he still hasn't proposed. His younger sister just got engaged a couple weeks ago and it made me really angry. I'm not happy for her at all. I feel like it should be MY time to get married.
How can I start to feel better about this? It's starting to really affect my relationship because I have been piking fights with my boyfriend ever since his sister got engaged. And he just keeps saying "we are going to take that next step in our relationship" But I've been hearing that for months now and still no change!
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I think that 2.5 years is sufficient to know whether or not someone is marriage material and if the feelings are right, so that goes for both you and your boyfriend. I wonder if it's that your boyfriend doesn't feel that you are "the one" or if it's that he does not feel ready for marriage with anyone, period? And how do you feel? Are you seriously ready for marriage and do you honestly feel he is the life partner for you? Decide how you feel first, then I would proceed to ask him both questions and ask him to be completely honest with you given it's not an option for you to waste your time. Because you honestly have to know WHY he's stalling in order to move forward, especially if you want kids, because women do not have forever.
If you decide that you sincerely want to marry your boyfriend and only him and he insists that you are the one and he just isn't ready for marriage, you will just have to be patient. You can't pressure him into marriage and if you try it won't work. It does sound like he is interested in marrying you in stating "we are going to take that next step." I think eventually it may come to an ultimatum, not as a threat, but just to let him know that you will have to move on at a certain point because you want that level of commitment from someone, so you have to decide for yourself when that will be.
Just know that a lot of people out there are single and feel as you do. And of your friends who are married, half of them will be divorced at some point. So there.
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