I was watching the View, and they talked about how in a recent survey, there are now more men between the ages of 18-35 that say they would "never" get married than there are men ages 18-35 who are still open to the possibility of marriage sometime in the future.
Just wondering "why" that is, and if there's anything girls can do to address the concerns you have so that you don't feel like marriage is such a bad thing.
- Divorce (alimony, spousal maintenance, equitable distribution)Vote A
- Sex (frequency and quality decrease after marriage)Vote B
- Friends (losing your unmarried friends or married friends who's wife your wife doesn't like)Vote C
- Relationship (after marriage, because you have more to lose in the event of a divorce, being controlled by your wife by the constant threat of a divorce; losing incentive to keep each other happy)Vote D
- Other (please, feel free to explain)Vote E
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Well first, I am totally cool with marriage, but I can totally see why guys don't want to do it. My brother was married and the bitch was cold hearted, cheated on him and they divorced. Now she is like 25+ acting like an 18 year old partying, not giving a sh*t about the two sons. My brother had to deal with her whiny ass for 5 years and she never tried to help him or the kids in life, just herself. Luckily my brother got custody and his stuff.
The reason I'm iffy about marriage is because of the stuff he went through.
-I don't want to marry the wrong girl, especially a girl like her who acted like a perfect angel through the whole relationship and turned into a bitch when the ring was put on her finger.
-I also know how much more difficult marriage is than a simple relationship. Girls tend to view marriages in a Romance mindset. They only see the happiness side of it: Kids, The honeymoon, growing old together, et cetra. Men have the more Realist mindset and know the struggle of keeping committed through a tough time, trying to keep the flame alive, having to work together to survive, et cetra. I know that it is a difficult thing to do and I don't want to just dive into something like that.
Basically, there is too many "What if?" questions and the possibility of having everything you wanted collapse on top of you that is the problem.3