Me and him were broken up for past 3 years and we never contacted each other after the break up. I have moved on but I am still single and never dated anyone after him. I saw him few weeks back at the mall and I am pretty sure he saw me too but we acted like we never saw each other. Now that today I found out he's engaged I feel very sad and depressed. I have been crying I know I don't have any feelings for him but the girl he is engaged to went to my school and is really pretty. It's a shocker I never expected it for him to get hitched to her! is it that I am still single and he progressed in his life? Is it normal to feel sad even after so long? do I still love him? I am feeling rejected...
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Yes of course it is normal. The annoying thing I find is when people have to ask is what they are feeling 'normal'? Yes that is how you feel and you can't change that. If anyone ever makes you feel like you're stupid for feeling that way, don't listen to them. It is the way you deal with those feelings that is crucial.
Now lets look at those feelings.
3 years ago you broke up with a guy and have had no contact since.
He got a new girlfriend and got engaged 3 years later.
You have remained single since and I'm presuming from your reaction would like to get married some day.
You aren't missing him or dwelling over him, you are feeling rejected not by him but by the world. You're trying to make sense as to why he is happy and progressing and you feel like you're not.
Lets change the scenario. Say he was still single right now, would you miss him still? I doubt it. You just long for what he is having with someone.
Everything happens for a reason, no maybe it isn't happening for you now, but it will.
You're still young and fabulous. He was not the right guy for you, the right man is out there.
Just think you could be sat there crying and somewhere some really nice man, is sat there waiting for you to come along.
Now go embrace your singledom. I know we think being in a relationship and marriage is the ultimate be all and end all, but is it really? Yes they will have the excitement of the marriage and the honeymoon and all that, but trust me from the marriages I have seen it doesn't take long for all that crashing down and realisation to hit. Oh I'm with this person for the rest of my life, and I must spend everyday with them.
Your day will come, just make sure you make a good choice. :)2