Ok I've bee married for 4 years and been with my wife for 5. We have two little boys together. My wife was a virgin when we met I wasn't. Ab a year ago I cheated on her and came clean ab it. I couldn't live with the guilt. She forgave me and since then I have been trying my best to show how much I love her and regret my mistake. Well a few days before Christmas she told me she wanted to separate and left me on Christmas. A few days later she spoke talked ab coming back saying she missed me to much but the next day I noticed a change. A few days later she told me she slept with my best friend. I was angry and hurt at them both but I forgave them both. my wife moved back in days later. And ironically almost took a bullet saving my best friends life two days later. Well my wife says that me cheating had nothing to do with her leaving that she wanted to experience the world and if she wanted another guy then so be it. But right now were just roomates who sleep together. She says she won't date another guy while she's living with me but I can date out if I want. Which I don't want to I'm still crazy ab her. I kiss her on the head twice a day and tell her I love her each time. A lot of people are telling me I may needto move on sshould I or should I keep fighting because everything I do doesn't seem to work.
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Your options to salvage the marriage may be quite limited if I am correct.
By marrying your wife prior to her experiencing the world, independence, and single-hood in her adults years, you may have impeded the process of discovering herself. As a consequence, she may be extremely curious about being with other men and exploring the various possibilities that had to left behind to live up to her self-expectations and societal norms of what a wife should be.
What's more, she slept with your "best man." The symbolism of the act does not need further investigation.
In addition, she may have given you her approval to date other women to excuse herself of guilt and culpability if she decided to opt for another change outside of the marriage, unfortunately. To add insult to injury, she, according to you, has become your roommate.
To put two and two together, or three if you will, it is fair to say that her actions are partly due to her own ambitions and desires, which may reduce the effectiveness of your attempts to convince her to remain.
All of that being said, wearing your shoes, I would give her space, show her the extent of my desire and appreciation for her by taking her out on dates, weekends away, and investing in couples-esque time together, in addition to articulating my feelings.
In other words, I would greatly change the routine of the relationship.