Say there are two families and a girl from one family and a boy from the other start to date and end up getting married.
Now comes the decision of whose family do they spend the holidays with.
In the girl's family, all people who marry into it spend the holidays with the girl's family no matter what. If a man marries a woman in that family, he will spend the holidays with the wife's side.
However, in the boy's family it's all the same. No matter which gender marries into it, they spend the holidays with his family as opposed to their own.
So we have two dominate families in the sense that they take away members of other families so to speak and add them to their own.
What do the now spouses do? Do they go to the husband's family or the wife's?
I'm curious as to what the results will be.
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IF family is important to you & you feel for some reason that you must appease them to keep peace, then you split the holidays. One year Thanksgiving with his family & Xmas by your family.
If geographically possible stop in at both.
I think it's very unreasonable of either family to expect you to be with them & deprive the other a visit to his/her family.
You & your husband are now a family, even if it is just the 2 of you. Maybe you want to have your own tradition. Dinner at your home with just the 2 of you & maybe a visit to one or the others family.